10/28/2026
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Am I wrong for refusing to switch rooms with my brother and his wife?
My brother, his wife, and I have rented a two-bedroom apartment together for a few years now. It's been a solid setup — it helps me save money while I get through school. When we first signed the lease, my brother wanted the smaller bedroom because he's cheap and wanted to pay less. That was fine by me. The bigger room is about 35% larger, so I cover 55 to 60% of the rent plus the electric bill, whatever it comes to. He handles the internet.
His wife has a son, who's eight, back in Mexico, and she travels back and forth to see him. She's gone roughly 70% of the year. I know it sounds strange, but that's how they've run their marriage the whole five-plus years they've been together. What they didn't mention when we signed the new lease was that she'd been petitioning to bring her son to the U.S. — which, looking back, I probably should've seen coming.
So the other day my brother brought it up. Actually, he didn't bring it up so much as announce it. Since it'd soon be three of them in the place, he wanted to switch rooms. Otherwise, he said, he'd just sleep in the living room. Mind you, this came barely a month after we'd all signed the new lease. He offered to bump his share up to 60 to 65% of the rent.
I told him no right away.
Here's why. Over the years in that bigger room I've bought a king-size bed, a huge desk, a big dresser, and a bunch of other stuff. If I switched rooms, I'd have to throw half of it out or stack it in the living room, because none of it would fit. I've built that whole space around what I own.
And honestly, I'd probably have said yes if I didn't think he was playing me. He knew this was coming. He waited until after the lease was locked in to spring it on me. He