05/11/2023
Another account of Langley’s manipulation and harassment. He is clearly still hurting people!
TW: sexual harassment
“I wanted to share this because, I may not have met Langley in person, but he still made me really uncomfortable through chatting.
I met Langley through Facebook Dating. We’ve been talking for about a year. I believe me and him are around the same age. We had fine conversations. A few dirty jokes here and there sure but nothing else really. Normal talks. Recently he had been trying to get us to meet up, I was hesitant only because I’m not comfortable driving (he’s about 2 hours away from me). A few nights ago, I sent him a snap chat. Simple honestly, just me in a tank top, with the word “Just got home. So tired.” He messaged back something like “I couldn’t sleep, I’m so worked up.” Then proceeded to ask if I wanted to see what was in his pants. We had good conversations up until now, so I just explained I wasn’t comfortable with sexting and I didn’t want to. A Boundary was Set!
He said he understood and didn’t want to make me uncomfortable, but throughout the rest of our conversation that night he kept bring up how hot and bothered he was, and how me in my tank top had done this to him. I was so tired, it was past midnight. I just wanted the conversation to end. But we had been talking for a YEAR, I didn’t just want to ignore him. At the time, felt like sexting would be the easiest thing, to just get him to stop and let this go. So I sexted him. I sent him no photos just the words. He sent me some snaps (no n**es just him.. “reacting” as he touched “it”) but… it still made me so uncomfortable. I had been thinking about it for days after. I had set a clear boundary. He ignored it. I LET him ignore my own boundary… just so I didn’t have to have a conflict with him
…I no longer wanted to talk to him. So today I let him know, removed him from Snapchat and got ready to remove him from Facebook when I came across this page.
I am so sorry to anyone who has been SA-ed by him or ANYONE. He may have only harassed me into sexting, but now I am glad I decided to step away from him. I feel no guilt for it. I hope everyone gets the healing they deserve. Don’t let anyone cross the boundaries you set, in chat or in person.”
Stay safe everyone.