Two Hearts One Beat -FS

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Grace is a formula for enduring marital success.

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Derived from biblical scripture (Amos 3:3), 'Two cannot walk together unless they agree' serves as a reminder that meaningful collaborations require harmony, shared values, and a common purpose to succeed and make progress towards collective goals.

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Marriage is a perfect institution made by God.

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Ficksburg couples seminar was awesome.

# In the beginning

12/07/2023

A DIVORCED SINGLE MOTHER WROTE

I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws.

I am 32 years of age.

My ex husband and I dated for 6 years.

We where best of friends.

I waited until he completed college and started work.

My family and his family then met.

We got married and had a son. (7 years old now).

My husband was short tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me.

Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain.

My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him.

If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me.

I never wanted divorce.

I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes.

One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside.

I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused!

But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally.

He was arrested and detained.

I was asked by his family to withdraw the case.

I felt that what I was doing was wrong.

My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized.

I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.

After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone.

After two days, I
received a call that he was in the hospital.

My family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.

All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused.

He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon.

I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me.

I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell.

When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared.

To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce.

We were divorced in 2009 July.

Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here wasted!

My family members are gossiping about me.

I depend on what my ex husband gives to my son for survival.

I know I wasted my
marriage.

I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise.

Don't be cheated, don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader.

Even my young sisters are much more respected than me.

Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad mouthing me.

Please ladies, be vigilant in your marriage.

Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage.

There is no benefit in pride for nothing.

SOMETIMES IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL, IT'S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOWED TO ADVISE YOU,SO BE WISE AND VIGILANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

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12/07/2023

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05/06/2023

A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.

11/05/2023

MARRIAGE IS GIVE AND TAKE

1. When a woman is humble, she becomes a natural charm to her husband
2. When a woman is submissive, she gets what she desires from her husband
3. When a woman is trustworthy, she can control her husband's finances
4. When a woman is hospitable, she can host her husband's meeting
5. When a woman is friendly, she becomes her husband's best friend
6. When a woman is jovial and playful, she can unlock her husband's sad mood
7. When a woman is appreciative, she receives unexpected gifts from her husband
8. When a woman is respectful, she can attend her husband's cultural meetings with him
9. When a woman is understandable, her husband feels free to tell her even the ugly
10. When a woman is peaceful, her husband comes rushing home each time
11. When a woman is tender hearted, she makes a great mother for her kids
12. When a woman is slow tempered, she knows when to approach her husband in times of misunderstandings and arguments
13. When a woman is not vulnerable, she is loved by her husband
14. When a woman does not keep secrets from her husband, her husband tells her all of his every moves
15. When a woman is prayerful, she becomes a powerful support system to her husband
16. When a woman is God fearing, she sets her home on the principles of God the Almighty
17. When a woman is selfless, her husband relies completely on her
18. When a woman is creative, she and the husband can figure out the future together
Unfortunately when you are not any of these, it becomes so hard for you to enjoy marriage.
Seek God's help to become any of the above, you can't do it on your own.

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05/05/2023

That time has finally arrived!!!!

I told you to get prepared for the great marriage revival, carefully designed for your relationship and your marriage.

It's finally here
Save the date. "23rd September 2023

Details to follow on the poster...

Hi, 2023 is just around the corner. We are left with only four months. We are in the kitchen mixing up the ingredients and chopping up what needs to be chopped, preparing to cook a special meal that will fill a specific hunger in our marriages.

Invitation will be sent to all married couples very soon. Be prepared, something huge is coming up.

"It's not a mistake that you are with the one you're with"
The best one you can ever be with is the one that you are with.

04/05/2023

One day I was helping this other Pastor relocating to another town with his family because of the ministry. We tried to load almost all his belongings into the bakkie and the trailer. Among the valuable and useful staff that we loaded, there were some unnecessary staff that we loaded as well. Staff which has no use but just there to consume space and focus of other things.

We started hitting the road down to Natal, and it was a great challenge to me as a driver to drive such loaded bakkie. It required me lot of attention and cooperation to drive well because of the load. As we are ascending the hills in the province that's when problem began. The vehicle was not stable in the road because of the load, the brakes could not function well cause of the load we are carrying.

It was such a danger to myself and other road users, but we continued. There was nothing wrong with my bakkie, the issue was the loading. We nearly got involved in a massive crash that could possibly took people's lives just because of how much we tried to load on that bakkie. Instead of one ton, we pushed more and loaded abnormally uneccesary.

The moral of the story is: the are things that you must get rid off and minimize the load you're carrying in your life. There are things that can cause premature death just because you can't let them go.

Do not carry uneccesary load within your heart. You will indenger other people as well as yourself. Keep only necessary and valuable things. No matter how good you may be in handling issues, if you load more, you'll loose your stability and focus.

No matter how strong our marriages may be, if we are too loaded, we are in trouble!!!! For the success of our marriage, we need balance, stability and focus.

Let's avoid unnecessary accidents.