Mel Schwartz

05/06/2026

In Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz episode 008, I explain how your childhood coping mechanisms may be doing your relationships harm now that you're an adult. Listen anywhere you get your podcasts, watch on YouTube, or do both on my site:

Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz episode 008 explains how your childhood coping mechanisms may be doing your relationships harm now that you're an adult.

05/05/2026

Have you heard episode 007 of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz? It's all to do with the patterns of verbal violence that surface in our arguments -- and how to avoid hurting others and ourselves. Anywhere you get your podcasts, or listen or watch directly at

Episode 007 of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz lists the patterns of verbal violence that surface in our arguments -- and how to avoid hurting others and ourselves.

04/20/2026

Episode 006 of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz explains the apparent paradox of how vulnerability is an indicator of strength, and how not being afraid to appear "weak" is tied to strong self-esteem.

Episode 006 of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz explains the apparent paradox of how vulnerability is an indicator of strength, and how not being afraid to appear "weak" is tied to strong self-esteem.

04/13/2026

In the latest episode of my podcast Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz, I reveal the simple thing you can do before any difficult conversation to help make sure the other person is open to listening to you. Anywhere you get your podcasts or visit the YouTube channel!

Does every important conversation with your partner turn into a fight — or never happen at all? There's a 60-second trick you can use right before any hard c...

04/06/2026

In Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz 004, I share the 5% rule to break free from circular arguments that go nowhere. Anywhere you get your podcasts, or on YouTube at

Every couple has that one argument they keep having. Each time ending in the same outcome: no one feels heard, nothing is resolved, and you're both frustrate...

03/27/2026

What are those six questions you should ask before committing to any relationship? What does it mean if your partner won’t answer them? What can you tell by the way your partner does answer them? Listen to this episode of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz and find out!

Most relationships don't show signs of failing at the end. They show them at the beginning — when no one is asking the hard questions.In this episode, Mel sh...

03/21/2026

Here’s what nobody taught you: Passion doesn’t die from lack of love. Passion dies from too much certainty. In my second episode of Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz, I break down why passion fades over time, and offer ways to bring it back, and keep it strong. Anywhere you get your podcasts, or check it out on my YouTube channel:

Get practical relationship tools sent right to your inbox: https://melschwartz.com/ucs-newsletterDate nights won't save your s*x life. Neither will lingerie,...

03/20/2026

Same night. Same room. Same way. Sound familiar? Here's an exercise that breaks the pattern in one evening — guaranteed to bring back the passion in your relationship.

03/13/2026

After more than 30,000 hours of couples counseling, I've watched the same patterns play out again and again: Smart, loving, well-intentioned people struggling in their relationships... not because they're broken, but because they were never given the skills to succeed.

We've received literally no education in the most important, most challenging part of our lives. And yet we wonder why we struggle.

So, I've launched a new podcast, Uncommon Sense with Mel Schwartz, to share the wisdom to thrive in your relationships..

Each week I share the breakthroughs from my practice: the insights that help couples move from disconnection back to genuine intimacy, from exhausting circular arguments to actually hearing each other, from going through the motions to truly thriving together.

The first episode is live now. I walk through three ways couples unknowingly sabotage their relationships, often from the very beginning. Once you see these patterns, you can finally stop repeating them.

Do you know someone who needs this uncommon sense? Please share and repost, with my thanks.

Relationship is an art form to be cultivated. Let's start cultivating.

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03/01/2024

In The Possibility Podcast with Mel Schwartz episode 134, let’s revisit the difference between our body, our brain, and our mind. Are you your thoughts? Or are you your mind? Can you learn to see your own thoughts in the nano-second before they become your reality? Is there really a mind-body connection, or is the concept itself based on a flawed assumption? Listen to the episode! https://melschwartz.com/134-power/