10/15/2026
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Recently my daughter came out to me as non-binary, meaning that she supposedly does not believe she is a man or a woman. I heard her out and let her speak, and I tried to calmly ask her how she has come to this conclusion. The conversation was civil until I told her I didn't believe she is anything but a woman.
At this point, she started crying and calling me a bigot, and my wife had to take over. My wife tells me I'm being insensitive toward our child's feelings. They want me to refer to them as 'they', which I've agreed to do in order to avoid conflict.
I understand that there are people who decide to live as the opposite gender, and many of them take hormones. They also have operations to make the effect more believable to society. I understand that this is something people can't control, as it is what they feel they truly are inside, just like being gay.
My daughter says that gender is on a spectrum, which is a concept I am trying to wrap my head around. While I'm glad my daughter isn't planning on having any operations, I have never seen any sign throughout her upbringing that she was different from a typical female child. She would play with ponies and dolls, while my son would play with dinosaurs.
They both played with lego, which is a normal thing for kids to do. She has never shown any masculine traits until recently, where she has cut her hair short and sometimes wears men's clothes. I don't doubt that gender exists on a spectrum because different people have different hormone levels.
Some women are more feminine than others, so perhaps my daughter is somewhere closer to the middle on this spectrum. What I can't understand is the point of changing everything. I remember when boyish girls were simply called tomboys, and they wouldn't mind being referred to as 'she'.
What's wrong with just cutting your hair and wearing jeans like a normal tomboy? What's
