02/28/2021
This giving me thoughts on parenting today....
I have a coworker who everyone in our office avoids casually asking, “How are you?” because she will inevitably start complaining about her 20 something yr old daughter and boyfriend who moved back in with her after having a baby. Not getting into details but apparently it’s so bad she wants to evict them. This is not the situation you ever imagine being in when you decide to embark on parenthood. I know I couldn’t possibly think that far ahead and was absolutely clueless when I decided not to abort and instead become a mom at 17. And having met hundreds (thousands?) of soon-to-be parents I can say I’m not sure age or experience would have made me think that far ahead, I don’t think anyone does. Success in raising a child is one part nature and one part nurture. Equal parts respect, love and luck. And CONSTANT self reflection. I hold a long standing opinion that we’ve succeeded if we can say we’ve done a little better than our parents did. If we pass on the lessons and values they taught us at their best, and avoid the mistakes made and trauma inflicted when they were at their worst. They did the best they could, and so do we.
Feeling particularly successful, proud, and lucky today after my eldest surprised me with this tribute last night 💗💗💗 I guess I done ok 😊🥰
