The Reluctant Bachelorette

02/18/2024

Hey everybody!!
I'm soooo excited!
My novel, which many of you know has been 20+(!!) years in the making, is finally ready for publication THIS SUMMER!
Can I count on your support??

08/08/2023

The depression monster has got its claws inside of me once again. All summer, I’ve just been off. I haven’t really had the inspiration to write a blog post about anything at all. I missed an opportunity to post a blog about my mother on her birthday on July 2nd. I haven’t taken any pictures that I want to post on social media....

The depression monster has got its claws inside of me once again. All summer, I’ve just been off. I haven’t really had the inspiration to write a blog post about anything at all. I missed an opport…

06/14/2023

“I’m so stupid.” “I’m never gonna get this.” “I’m just not good enough.” We lie to ourselves every time we say something negative about ourselves. We don’t realize that these repeated lies are actually affirmations. We repeat them to ourselves until we start to believe these horrible lies. As children, we were somehow conditioned to believe that if we speak positively about ourselves, we are stuck up or vain....

“I’m so stupid.” “I’m never gonna get this.” “I’m just not good enough.”  We lie to ourselves every time we say something negative about ourselves. We don’t realize that these repeat…

05/19/2023

I recently listened to a very intriguing discussion regarding whether we need to forgive and forget past wrongs done to us in order to be in an emotionally healthy place. Mostly everyone involved in the discussion agreed that they can forgive, but it’s incredibly difficult to forget. An important point made several times by different individuals during this discussion was that when we forgive, it is really meant to help…...

I recently listened to a very intriguing discussion regarding whether we need to forgive and forget past wrongs done to us in order to be in an emotionally healthy place. Mostly everyone involved i…

03/27/2023

It’s not like I was ever over the fact that I can’t have children. It’s just that I had painfully accepted it as my reality. However, whenever I learn that a colleague or acquaintance is pregnant, it quietly pains me, although I’m also able to feel and express genuine happiness and excitement for them. Another cute little being entering the world and bringing joy to its parents is a beautiful gift. ...

It’s not like I was ever over the fact that I can’t have children. It’s just that I had painfully accepted it as my reality. However, whenever I learn that a colleague or acquaintance is pregnant, …

02/26/2023

I was the only black girl in my predominantly white high school religion class. The teacher, a white nun, was talking about racial prejudice for some reason; I don’t recall the lesson. In her ignorance, she turned to me and asked if I had ever experienced such prejudice. Feeling the pressure to provide a good story for my white counterparts, I shared my experience of when an older white woman had decided to deliberately cross the street one day as I walked towards her....

I was the only black girl in my predominantly white high school religion class. The teacher, a white nun, was talking about racial prejudice for some reason; I don’t recall the lesson. In her ignor…

02/20/2023

I don’t recall exactly how I came across the book Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig but it was sometime last year, and I was completely unprepared for how it would inspire me. As I listened to the audiobook, I was astounded at how the words resonated so deeply within me. He spoke of depression and anxiety as a combination that many people experience when dealing with depression....

I don’t recall exactly how I came across the book Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig but it was sometime last year, and I was completely unprepared for how it would inspire me. As I listened to the…

02/04/2023

Every so often, I go dark. That is to say I enter a long stretch of time where it is very hard for me to sit down and write anything. That includes writing new posts for my blog or working on my new novel; it includes disappearing from social media altogether. This happens to be one of those long stretches of time—where the depression monster comes out to play....

Every so often, I go dark. That is to say I enter a long stretch of time where it is very hard for me to sit down and write anything. That includes writing new posts for my blog or working on my ne…

12/24/2022

Season's Greetings!
Happy Holidays!
Merry Christmas!
Happy Hanukkah!!
Happy Kwanzaa!

The holidays are upon us. The colorful lights that carefully decorate random houses in all types of different neighborhoods are a daily reminder that we are all collectively looking forward to a ve…

11/27/2022

Please read my latest post: "A Missed Opportunity". What happens when a fellow blogger and depressive loses her battle with depression?

I ended my Zoom Podcast interview feeling once again triumphant. This was my 10th podcast feature where I discussed my daily battle with depression and how I accidentally found a way to combat depr…

10/12/2022

Someone I recently spoke with suggested that I was holding on to depression as a reason to keep talking about it. The point was made that my novel is about a woman who suffers with depression, I have a blog about my experiences with depression, and now I host a weekly room on the social app Clubhouse about—you guessed it—depression. ...

Someone I recently spoke with suggested that I was holding on to depression as a reason to keep talking about it. The point was made that my novel is about a woman who suffers with depression, I ha…

09/01/2022

After years of edits and revisions I am so proud to announce that I’ve finally finished writing my novel!!!! YAY!! Woohoo!!!! The Box is about a high-powered African American magazine executive who suffers with depression due to childhood family trauma. The purpose for writing this book was to do my part in sharing with the world that depression is a real debilitating condition; you can’t just get over it....

After years of edits and revisions I am so proud to announce that I’ve finally finished writing my novel!!!! YAY!! Woohoo!!!! The Box is about a high-powered African American magazine executive who…