Finding My Hemingway

Finding My Hemingway "Finding My Hemingway" is about my journey to find my voice as a writer and a poet through literature, photography, travel, and self-discovery.
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A busy life is not the same thing as a full life. You can spend your entire existence checking boxes and achieving goals...
06/18/2026

A busy life is not the same thing as a full life. You can spend your entire existence checking boxes and achieving goals, yet still reach the end feeling like a stranger to your own experiences.

Ernest Hemingway, a man who survived wars, big-game hunts, and two separate plane crashes in a single weekend, captured this existential dread perfectly: I can't stand it to think my life is going so fast and I'm not really living it.

It is a striking admission from a Nobel Prize winner who became a global icon for adventure. Hemingway's life was objectively extraordinary, yet he recognized that the sheer velocity of his days was often drowning out the actual texture of his existence. He understood that if you aren't mentally present, even the most thrilling adventure becomes just another item on a list.

The lesson for the modern world is clear: velocity is often the enemy of depth. When we rush toward the future or obsess over productivity, we abandon the only thing that is real—the present. To truly live, as Hemingway suggests, requires the courage to slow down enough to actually inhabit the space you occupy.

The last things a writer makes are often the most honest, not because honesty increases with age but because the perform...
06/18/2026

The last things a writer makes are often the most honest, not because honesty increases with age but because the performances become harder to sustain.

Islands in the Stream was published in 1970, nine years after Hemingway’s death, assembled by his fourth wife Mary and his editor from a manuscript he had worked on through the 1950s and never finished to his satisfaction.

This provenance matters. The novel carries the specific quality of work that was not yet done - rougher in places, more exposed in others, stripped of the deliberate cool that Hemingway’s published prose wore like armor.

What remains when the armor comes off is not weakness. It is a man writing about loss with a directness he never quite allowed himself while he was alive enough to manage the impression it made.

Thomas Hudson is a painter living on Bimini in the Gulf Stream, and the novel opens in a summer that feels like paradise the way paradise feels when you understand it cannot last - brilliant, physical, saturated with pleasure and the awareness of pleasure’s fragility.

His three sons arrive for a visit, and what Hemingway does with these chapters is something outside his usual register: genuinely tender, unhurried, suffused with the specific joy of a father watching his children be alive.

The fishing sequences, the shark hunt, the marlin that the youngest boy fights for hours before losing - these are not the Hemingway of performance and masculinity as ideology.

This is a man writing about what he actually loved, which turns out, in the end, to be simpler and less defended than anything he published in his lifetime.

The novel is structured in three parts that move like a tide going out - Bimini, Cuba, the sea - each section darker and more stripped than the last.

By the final section, the sons are dead, the war has absorbed everything, and Hudson is running a submarine patrol in a small boat through the Cuban keys, hunting a German crew.

The mission has the logic of grief made literal: a man with nothing left to lose doing a dangerous thing not from heroism but from the absence of any other available purpose.

Hemingway understood this state from the inside, and the prose in these late sections has a quality that his tighter, more controlled work rarely achieved - the quality of a man not performing but simply speaking, because the audience he was performing for no longer exists.

The middle Cuba section is the novel’s most uneven and most revealing. Hudson drinks with a disciplined excess that fills pages and reads partly as Hemingway transcribing his own Havana life with insufficient distance between the life and the page.

There are stretches that meander in ways the Hemingway of The Sun Also Rises or A Farewell to Arms would not have permitted. And yet in this section there is also the conversation with his former wife - Thomas’s first wife, the mother of his oldest son - that is one of the most quietly devastating exchanges Hemingway ever wrote.

Two people who loved each other and failed each other sitting in a room with the fact of their dead child between them, unable to fix anything, unable to fully leave. Nothing in his published work cuts quite that cleanly.

The Hemingway code: the thing his heroes are supposed to embody, grace under pressure, stoicism as moral achievement - is present in Hudson but it keeps breaking. He weeps in a way that Hemingway’s earlier heroes would have died rather than admit. He talks about his sons with an openness that dissolves the careful masculine self-sufficiency the code demands.

Whether this is a failure of artistic control or Hemingway finally, in a work he knew might not be published in his lifetime, allowing himself to write what was actually true - that loss undoes people, that grief is not romantic, that the code is a performance and every performance has a cost, is the question the novel keeps posing without answering.

The ambiguity is the most interesting thing about it.

Islands in the Stream will never be the Hemingway people cite when they want to defend him, and it will never be the one critics cite when they want to diminish him, which makes it the Hemingway novel that is most purely itself - unfinished, exposed, moving between transcendence and self-indulgence with the irregular rhythm of a life rather than the controlled rhythm of a made thing.

Thomas Hudson dies at the end in a way that means something only if you have followed him all the way from the Bimini summer when his sons were still alive, still fighting fish in the Gulf Stream, still making noise in the house.

The distance between that opening and that ending is not a plot. It is an elegy - for the sons, for the marriage, for the version of himself that existed before the losses accumulated past the point where even the most disciplined stoicism could absorb them.

Some scarce photos of Ernest Hemingway smoking a cigarette or enjoying a cigar.In popular culture, Hemingway is often de...
06/18/2026

Some scarce photos of Ernest Hemingway smoking a cigarette or enjoying a cigar.
In popular culture, Hemingway is often depicted as a cigar smoker even though he rarely smoked.
A new Hemingway-inspired cigar is always coming out, and the Arturo Fuente Hemingway line has been a mainstay for the company since the early ‘80s.

One of my favorite pictures of Hemingway.
06/17/2026

One of my favorite pictures of Hemingway.

“He always thought of the sea as 'la mar' which is what people call her in Spanish when they love her. Sometimes those w...
06/17/2026

“He always thought of the sea as 'la mar' which is what people call her in Spanish when they love her. Sometimes those who love her say bad things of her, but they are always said as though she were a woman.”

— Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and The Sea

“A man can be destroyed, but not defeated.” - Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and the Sea
06/17/2026

“A man can be destroyed, but not defeated.”
- Ernest Hemingway, The Old Man and the Sea

This quietly powerful line is often overlooked amid the larger themes of war, duty, and death in For Whom the Bell Tolls...
06/16/2026

This quietly powerful line is often overlooked amid the larger themes of war, duty, and death in For Whom the Bell Tolls. Spoken amid conflict, it serves as a rare moment of emotional clarity. Hemingway, who often masked sentiment behind stoicism, lets his guard down here to offer a deeply human truth: love creates permanence.

In the novel, Robert Jordan, an American dynamiter fighting with anti-fascist guerillas in the Spanish Civil War, is forced to confront the impermanence of life. The line comes as a kind of quiet rebellion against despair—a belief that even in the face of death, love endures in memory, in the lives we’ve touched, and in the choices we’ve made.

It’s a statement that carries Hemingway’s hard-won wisdom: that while people may vanish, the love shared with them becomes part of us, shaping who we are. In a world where Hemingway so often wrote about isolation, this single line offers hope. It reminds us that connection is not erased by absence—it is deepened.

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06/16/2026

We have just passed 21K followers in just one year! Thank you for continuing support. I could never have made it without each one of you.

Everyone needs to remember the two most essential percentages in life: the 50-50% split and the 80-20% rule.The 50-50% s...
06/15/2026

Everyone needs to remember the two most essential percentages in life: the 50-50% split and the 80-20% rule.
The 50-50% split is all about equality. It’s all about what’s fair in an even split between two parties. Whether splitting a cookie, a sandwich, or stolen money, it’s all about what’s fair. Especially in relationships, each party has to do their part. Even when it comes to a breakup, both parties have to be honest with themselves that it’s both parties' fault, evenly, on some level.
The 80-20% rule is more about another reality: 80% of all opportunities are fought over by only 20% of the people. These people are the real workers willing to do everything in their power to catch the “big one”, make a sale, get a new client, or win the girl. The other 80% of the people are left to get the 20% of the business or scraps left on the floor by the real workers. It’s all about how much work you are willing to put into life. Life is rarely fair. Equality only works when most people settle for what's left on the floor.
Where do you stand?

Ⓒ 2025 Jeffrey Pipes Guice

Ernest Hemingway and Robert Frost: Contrasts in PowerIn 1923 Ernest Hemingway gave his sister a copy of his first publis...
06/15/2026

Ernest Hemingway and Robert Frost: Contrasts in Power

In 1923 Ernest Hemingway gave his sister a copy of his first published book. Removing the dark green paperbound volume from his pocket, he said, “Don’t show this to the family!”
Three Stories and Ten Poems had been printed in Paris. The respected Dr. Hemingway of suburban Oak Park outside Chicago was spared the agony of ever seeing this book by his son, but he was sent six copies of Ernest’s second book, In Our Time. Horror-struck by these stories, he neatly wrapped all six and turned grimly toward the post office. Ernest’s mother urged that they keep just one copy of their son’s first book. Declaring that he would tolerate no such filth in his Christian home, Dr. Hemingway did what he had to do. When his father returned these books to the publisher, Ernest stopped writing to his family.
Later Dr. Hemingway came to appreciate such of his son’s works as The Sun Also Rises, published in 1926. The mother’s doubled-minded attitude toward her son was shared by many other people, but there were those who saw that he had an element which is always essential for greatness in any realm of life: he dared to be himself; he was no copy, Ernest Hemingway was Ernest Hemingway. Whoever wished him to be somebody else would be disappointed. He lived his life distinctively in deeds, and he expressed his life distinctively in words. Even those who may not like the man may appreciate the immense contribution which his earnest life made to life, though that contribution was etched in black.
Ernest Hemingway took life and literature straight. Always writing of the winner who loses and of the final failure of success, Ernest intensely wished to be a champion and seldom felt that he was. He wrote of death. He wrote brightly of those who met death with daring. He wrote darkly of those who met death without daring. He wrote of death because Death was the Enemy. Hemingway knew that nothing else was really worthless. He did not sidestep tragedy. He was fascinated by death. Each story, like his life, was a baptism in blood. The first story in his first full book is about an “Indian Camp” in northern Michigan. Hemingway’s hero, Nick Adams, is the son of a doctor. In this particular story, Nick is the young boy who holds the basin while his father delivers a baby by Caesarian section, using only a jacknife, using no anesthetic. The invalid father of the baby has been in the bunk above the mother. For two days he has listened to her screaming. The doctor looks up after the delivery and discovers that the father has almost removed his own head with a razor.
All Hemingway stories were like that. Nick experienced shock, strife, struggle. Nick’s father, Dr. Adams, committed su***de. In these stories, Nick Adams conducts himself nobly in the losing battle which is life. Nick is the man of courage Hemingway wished he were. Hemingway was a winning loser: a man of violence against animals, against other humans, against himself. Ernest Hemingway is Santiago, hero of The Old Man and the Sea. Having fished for 84 days and caught nothing, he dares to enter the Gulf Stream and catches a giant marlin. Pulled day and night, day and night, the old Cuban fisherman clings to his catch. He kills it with his harpoon and lashes it to his skiff. Then come the sharks. He can kill only so many. The skeleton remains to be towed home. This is the victory. Santiago is the winner who loses in the arena of life as war unto death.
Hemingway, a Nobel Laureate in Literature, was the winner who lost. He went down fighting, losing to himself. His brother spoke truly in saying, “He died as he lived—violently.” On July 2, 1961 Ernest fondled his silver inlaid shotgun for the last time. He died alone. Thus he lived his vision of life as slaughter, life as ultimately meaningless struggle, life as existence without God. The open secret is: he shows us what life is when “God is dead.”

Robert Frost

In Boston on January 29, 1963, America’s unofficial poet laureate, Robert Frost, died. As was true of another citizen of the world, Ernest Hemingway, uncommonly historic high words of deep appreciation came from the Kremlin and the White House. The Premier’s words bespoke the poet’s love of the common people and his contribution to our world civilization. The President focused on Frost’s universally local qualities: his love of nature, his plain speech, his canny wisdom, his insight into the soul. “He had promises to keep, and miles to go, and now he sleeps.”
The poet of freedom knew tragic joy for 88 years. His days were not devoid of tears, though some have thought he was unduly optimistic. His father died when he was ten. His first son, Eliot, died at four. His daughter, Marjorie, married and then died from a childbirth infection. He lived for 25 years after Mrs. Frost died. Five years after her death their other son, Caroli—“who had the seeds of genius in him”—destroyed himself. Another daughter was an invalid. Robert Frost was not unacquainted with sorrow, but he never tried to be a conqueror of nature, nations, or God. He was a person of power. Instead of cursing God, he joked with him. By laughing at himself, he taught us how to trust. Somehow he had a way of ministering by awakening wisdom in us.
Some say his work is rural and leads folk not to seek to solve complex problems, but only to escape from social responsibility. Perhaps that word is something less than altogether fair. It is true that Robert Frost was neither radical nor conservative. I’ve heard him smile and say,

“I never cared to be radical when young
For fear it would make me conservative when old.”

Still, he may for all that have been true to life’s classic balance wheel. He was a realist who spoke of a star:

It asks of us a certain height,
So when at times the mob is swayed
To cany praise or blame too far,
We may choose something like a star
To stay our minds on and be staid.

The star to which he pointed was larger than the eye could ever see. Nevertheless, he himself has been a steady and steadying star which not a few of us have seen at night since we were young. We never learned how not to honor him.
Robert Frost’s poetry hides and reveals the classic motto of universal sanity and health: Never too much! His life shows forth a joyful secret: Love Life without reserve; and be not ashamed to be a sw***er of birches.
Yes, he sold all he possessed to buy one treasure, and his purchase has enriched the world. He put his money on the Power which is somewhere-nowhere-everywhere and endless .
He was not afraid to live. He was not afraid to die. He had a “lover’s quarrel with the world.”
- Harvard Square Library

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