25/04/2026
AITA for no longer giving support to my wife's family after I became successful with my own company after they talked down about me.
My (early-30's) wife (mid-20's) grew up in a fairly poor enviroment. Her grandpa had money, but her mom didn't and her sister doesn't. My wife has an incredibly strong work ethic (she's probably moreso defined as a workaholic).
When I first met her, I was in trucking, making about 50k-70k/year. Since then I developed a niche for a speciality marketing field and became very good at it. All my friends encouraged me to go into business for myself with a marketing company.
My wife was fully supportive of this, even after we discussed the financial difficulties we would have for the first year or so due to a l limited budget. I made sure she knew that some months, I may not get a check from the business (my salary is paid monthly). Her family, however, were not.
They accused me of neglecting my family, being lazy, not wanting to work, etc. They would constantly be bringing up the fact that I 'didn't have a job' because I was always home (working remote). She would defend me, but they would ignore it and continue to call me lazy and a 'deadbeat' for putting my daughter in daycare while I worked from home.
I was still driving a truck part-time to have steady, reliable income but it was only half of what I was making on a good week. In the last year however, I have grown my income from my business beyond what I was making in trucking, and have very little overhead. Since we cut costs back when I first started, we realized a lot of things we were paying for, we could do without or found other alternatives and we never really added those expenses back so it's like we have significantly more money now.
I still drive a semi occasionally for a friend who owns his truck (mainly to keep my CDL active and stay knowledgable in the industry as a fallback). Her family has taken note, and they are constantly asking to go out to eat with us, hang out with...