Damona Hoffman

Damona Hoffman Your fave dating coach from The Drew Barrymore Show, Access Hollywood, and the Dates & Mates podcast! and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and iHeart Radio.

Navigating love in the modern world ain't easy but Damona Hoffman of DatesAndMates.com and host of the popular Dates & Mates radio show & podcast makes it seem that way. Watch new episodes stream live here every Thursday at 11 a.m. Plus you can see Damona in action on FYI TV and download past episodes of her cable TV series and A Question of Love on iTunes.

06/15/2026

Dear Damona: “My boyfriend says he’s serious about me…but after 2 years he still won’t file for divorce. Now he’s mad I saw someone while we were on a break. AITA?

I’ve been a relationship coach for nearly 2 decades and I’ve rarely seen separated but dating work out well - but what do you think?

06/12/2026

We are rewiring our brains at warp speed but the kind of communication that builds trust, empathy, and understanding has not caught up.

My 3 trust-building phone tips:

1. Move off-line as soon as you feel comfortable. Try using my 1:1 rule (meet between one day and one week of matching)

2. Limit texting before the first date. No “how was your day?” Yes “I’m can’t wait to tell you about xyz tomorrow”

3. Keep your phone in your pocket or purse when you meet someone. Even the presence of a phone on the table has been shown to erode trust

Comment or DM me your communication and dating questions. Dear Damona is coming back soon!

06/10/2026

Have you been a victim of “Yaptrapping”?

In my latest episode of Drew with Valerie Bertinelli, I gave my #1 way to redirect a yapper on a date.

But if that doesn’t work…permission to leave 🏃🏾‍♀️

06/03/2026

A friend & client happened to turn on Lifetime movie network and found that is still airing!

This show was so groundbreaking and ahead of its time. I’m thinking it’s not too late for to bring back me and for a Season 2?

We went through a pandemic, dating app collapse, gender war, several actual wars and the same problems still persist today. But the answer is now and will always be…more love ❤️

Is your Love Language gifts? Then you should check out this clip from Access Daily to make sure you have the timing righ...
06/03/2026

Is your Love Language gifts? Then you should check out this clip from Access Daily to make sure you have the timing right.

🎁When do you think gifts are appropriate or expected when you’re dating someone new?

05/30/2026

I know dating apps feel like torture right now but most people give up before they’ve even gotten the app to work for them.

If you’ve tried them all and Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, Match, all feel like torture, maybe your profile isn’t programmed to bring the right people to you.

Save the post, try out these 3 updates and report back!

is never without a good joke but will that help him find love? Dax and I joined forces with to help him prepare for a ...
05/26/2026

is never without a good joke but will that help him find love? Dax and I joined forces with to help him prepare for a blind date and the results even surprised me a little!

Authenticity is a big dating buzz word right now but what does it really mean? Check out the clip for my answer but I’d love to hear what authenticity means to you.

Want to see what coaching with me is like? Comment “breakthrough” and I’ll send you a link!

05/22/2026

You can want something deeply and still feel like nothing is changing.

In love, in work, in the way you show up for yourself.
But you are not meant to wait for things to shift. That’s fairytale magical thinking and that era is over.

When intention meets action, you move towards what you’ve wished for.

That is the work we do in a Breakthrough Boost. We get specific about where you are stuck so you leave with inspiration and a plan to move forward.

I only have a handful of sessions left for next week ONLY.

Comment BREAKTHROUGH to find out more

05/19/2026

People always ask me, “How did you get to be a recurring cast member on The Drew Barrymore Show?”

Easy! They called me. I did one episode. Drew and the producers liked it. They called me back again. Then I did it about two dozen more times. Voila - success!

But that’s only part of the story. The real answer that I share in my “Everything is PR” keynote is that the road to The Drew Barrymore Show started many years before I ever got that call.

For over 10 years, I:

📺 Said yes to any opportunity to build my TV experience…even if it meant 5am call times, driving three hours, and even having one of my pitches ridiculed on-air by a newscaster in LA (who I will not mention)

☀️Woke up before my kids and my husband to write, research, and position myself as a thought leader in dating and relationships

🎤Launched and self-funded a podcast in 2013 before there was any money to be made in the medium

🗣️And practiced, practiced, practiced so I knew my content cold and was prepared for anything that could happen on live TV.

My last episode of Season 6 just aired today and I’m feeling so much gratitude for every person who taught me something, gave me an opportunity, recommended me, or just saw me as a human. We want shortcuts, hacks, and systems, but truly, the old fashioned way is best because manifesting your dreams is just a consistent combination of intention + action

Look for me on The Drew Barrymore Show today on CBS, Paramount + or wherever you get your Drew’s News

Most people don’t realize there are two very different reasons to want a relationship, and one of them is quietly sabota...
05/18/2026

Most people don’t realize there are two very different reasons to want a relationship, and one of them is quietly sabotaging you.

Dr. of Couples Therapy puts it perfectly: are you trying to expand beyond who you are, or are you trying to pull someone into what you already know? Because those two motivations lead to completely different outcomes.

I always start my clients with mindset first, because how you’re thinking about relationships is what’s really driving your actions in dating, whether you realize it or not.

Are you watching the new season of Couples Therapy? Which couples are you rooting for?

Personally, I’m fascinated by Marjorie & Jason. Their 4 Pillars of long term compatibility (goals, values, communication, trust) all seem to misaligned, but if anyone can make it work, it’s Dr. Orna!

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