12/26/2020
Back to back news: It’s a boy! 💙
Quick story: Normally, knowing the gender now is early. I’m at 14 weeks, and apparently we would’ve had to wait until about 18 weeks to find out via ultrasound. However, Geoff and I conceived this baby via in vitro fertilization. The clinic already knew the baby’s gender as an embryo, which we chose not to know at the time. Our mothers had a strong desire to know the gender earlier and presented it to us as part of their Christmas gift.
IVF was a year-long tedious process for us, but we are so fortunate for two main reasons:
(1) For us to be living in a time where we could utilize modern medical technology to achieve this. Had we been born just one generation earlier, we would not have had this opportunity; and
(2) many women and couples struggle through various emotional, mental, and physiological hurdles in this process just for one healthy baby, and sometimes still do not have any success. We are so grateful that our journey to this point has been fairly straightforward, but will continue to try to acknowledge and be considerate of those whose journeys have been rocky. I have a new appreciation for anyone who decides to go through this.
Thanks to all who have been so supportive of us this far in! I understand everyone has their own comfort level with how open/private they’d like to be with something this personal (btw, this will probably be the only time I post about this here, lol). If you end up having to go through this process, please do not ever let anyone make you feel ashamed. Many men and women struggle with this issue; you are not alone. Remember that all pregnancy journeys are very different, and to sit there and compare yourself with all the people you know that can seem to just pop out babies, or even those who choose not to have babies, and be resentful of them may be what you feel sometimes, but do not let that consume you. There are specialized clinics, support groups, financial assistance, and tons of information that can productively guide you. Feel free to DM me if you ever need someone to talk to about it.
Mamas are such special people and I am excited to be a part of the club!