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Deborah T. Wakeman, 2223 W Redondo Beach Boulevard, Gardena, CA (2026)

05/08/2026

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AITA for refusing to change my relationship with my stepbrother and not giving him access to my house or gaming setup?

My parents divorced when I (20m) was 7. My mom remarried when I was 10 and her husband's son, my stepbrother, was 8. He and I got along badly from the start.

He didn't like that I could do stuff he couldn't, like walk to the store on my own because it was right down the block from mom's house or that I was allowed to go to friends houses after school when I was with my dad. He was jealous about the gaming setup I had at dad's house too but that was mom's fault he even knew about it. She tried to force my dad to invite him over sometimes so he could play with me and she and her husband could have a date night.

We fought a lot and in the run up to the wedding we argued about being called brothers and having to stand next to each other during the wedding and they tried to force us into poses for pre-wedding photos and we refused. He even bit me during the shoot and then I refused to take more photos with him. Our relationship got worse and he would annoy me complaining about s__t so I rubbed in all the things I had that he didn't or could do that he couldn't do.

My mom begged me at the time to please treat him like a little brother and just try to be nicer and let stuff go and she said it was important because we'd always be family even if we hated it. He tried to befriend me once when we were like 13 and 11 and he wanted access to the good stuff but I didn't buy it and he let out on himself because he mentioned being invited to my dad's house like 10 times while playing nice. My dad died when I was 16 and my stepbrother mocked me because he'd get to play that stuff now because of course dad's stuff would be going to mom and his dad's house.

Only my grandparents kept it...

05/07/2026

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AITA for not using my daughter's college fund for my stepson's rehab?

The title basically sums it up, I suppose. My husband and I have been married for three years now, I have a daughter (15F) and he has a son (24M). I am friendly with my stepson, but we aren't close. He has a biological mother who is a perfectly fine woman, I'm not here to take the role of his mom.

My late husband (my daughter's father) died when my daughter was 6, we both contributed to her college fund. My daughter's paternal grandparents have also contributed a large amount. Right now, the fund has about $180,000. My daughter is extremely bright, and I'm not just saying that because I'm her mom. I truly believe she has the capacity to go to an Ivy league school, and her teachers have said she has the potential as well, and I don't want costs to hold her back. Our income would be too high to get any meaningful financial aid, and while there are a few merit based scholarships out there that she will be applying too, we don't want to put all our eggs in one basket and hope she gets it when it's so competitive. My current husband and I have separate finances, he doesn't contribute at all to my daughter's fund.

My stepson is struggling with a he**in addiction, and has stolen money, jewelry, hierlooms, and electronics from us for d__g money. I understand that addiction is a disease, and I personally paid for an outpatient detox for him, which cost $1000, which failed. His father then paid for an outpatient rehab program, which cost $6500, which also didn't work because he barely showed up. He promised us he'd do better next time and he needed another chance, so I split the cost of another $6500 outpatient rehab program with my husband, which seemed to work during program, but he relapsed as soon as he got out of it. I have spent so much money, time, and energy and it hasn't helped at all.

My husband and my stepson want to try a 60-day inpatient rehab...

05/05/2026

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AITA for thinking my wife looks less sexy after she got botox, and dyed her hair ?

I (51m) promise I love my wife (53f). If you ask me, she looked her sexiest just before our last child moved out. I think the wrinkles and grey hair made her look extra sexy.

She had some kind of crisis when our last kid went to college, and she tried to look young again. She got botox, dyed hair, started wearing makeup everyday, dressed youthful, and changed other stuff. She can do what she wants.

We still have s__ but she started asking me if something was wrong. I kept telling her it wasn't a big deal. We're both into fitness, but my wife started getting worried that I have some health issue or if it's a financial issue that's stressing my body out.

The last time she asked, I made sure to tell her that I love her. I told she I don't want to control her. I told her she can what she wants.

I told I think she looks sexy. I told that, to me, I emphasize to me, she looks less sexy after she got botox and dyed her hair. She looked sad, so I told her a truthful statement that I find she looks sexier now than she was in her 20s.

But she still asked me if I preferred how she looked before she tried to revamp herself. I said yes. Am I the a__hole ?

05/03/2026

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AITAH for telling my GF and family that if they make me abandon my dog I will disappear from their lives?

My girlfriend \[F26\] always wanted to adopt a dog; I \[M29\] didn't since I had a dog for 14years and it broke my heart when my dog passed away. After some time together, 3 years, we adopted a dog, who's a pup of her family's dogs. My dog has always been a handful since he was a wee pup, only listening to me and no one else.

My girlfriend and I do not live together, but we stay very close to each other. My mother lives with me (I own the house). Despite being mainly my GF's desire to get a dog, she never stepped up to the responsibilities of dog ownership, be it financial or otherwise.

Everytime I was asking her to contribute by paying his food or even walking him, she would sigh before saying yes. I would be spending 4-5 hours each day with my dog; walking him for 10km per day and playing with him. About a month ago, we sent him for training.

Couple of days ago, the trainer made us go down to the K9 training centre only to tell us that the dog is untrainable and I should get him out of there immediately (ofc I paid for it). When it came to decide what to do next, send him to another trainer or keep him home with its current amount of training (basic commands that I taught him when he was a pup) both my mother and girlfriend made it quite clear that their lives were better without the dog. For the former, I made it clear from the start that 'my house, my rules' and for the latter I made clear that 'she wanted a dog and never stepped up to the role'.

They were pretty adamant and felt deflated once I made my intentions clear. I told them that abandoning that dog, probably to a farmer since he's a working breed, would be equivalent to tearing a limb off me. I told them that in case I am forced to abandon my dog I would sell...

05/03/2026

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AITAH for not re-heating dinner for my husband after 10?

I became a stay at home mom recently. It's a decision that me and my husband agreed upon. However, I have set limits on how much I'm required to do and for how long, because I feel like even though I'm a wife and a mother, I'm still a woman who needs time and space to look after myself. I can't take care of my family when I can't even take care of myself. So I told my husband that at 10pm I'm done with chores and that He shouldn't expect me to do anything after that. He was like yeah whatever you say.

Last night, he had to work a long shift and came home at 10:15. I was in the bathroom applying a face mask when he came and asked that I reheat his dinner. I said no, he asked why not, I told him to check his watch and he would know. He paused then laughed and said I was being ridiculous. I said we had an agreement but he argued that I was acting manipulative and selfish. We started fighting verballing and then he ended up texting his mom telling her about what I'd done (or didn't do for that matter). She started texting me basically lecturing about how selfish and petty (about the 20:15 thing) and said I was setting a bad example for my daughter and teaching her to become self centered and selfish. I decided I wasn't gonna talk to her and my husband has refused to even stay at home and went to a friend's house.

I feel horrible! Maybe I shouldn't have done this to make a point but we had an agreement. Aitah?

05/03/2026

You made me feel small, I stood up for myself, I’m rude? 📢

05/03/2026

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AITA for not entertaining a girl who thinks I got her pregnant from fi*****ng?

I (21M) went on like two dates with this girl (18F). First date was alright, but I wasn't really feeling her, I tried to end it with a kiss, and she told me she didn't know how to kiss. That turned into me trying to teach her how to kiss, and honestly, I should've known she was a bit too young for me right there.

I decided to give it one more shot. Second date, we went to the movies. She decided she wanted to 'help me out'.

I finished, cleaned up, then helped her out. That was it, no s__, no anything beyond that. I thought it was mutual that we weren't super into each other because neither of us reached out after.

A few days ago, she texts me saying her period is three weeks late and she's really scared. She even sent me articles saying pregnancy can happen from fi*****ng if there's somehow s***m involved. I told her to calm down, that it's super unlikely.

One, my hands didn't even touch my s***m, and Two s***m cannot survive that long, and that's what I told her. I kinda left it at that. I thought it was pretty f__king funny that she actually think that she's pregnant.

Now she keeps blowing up my phone. Ive honestly started to ignore her. My friends think it's funny but also say it's kinda messed up I'm ignoring her while she's scared.

I tried to reassure her I don't know what else I could do. AITA?

05/03/2026

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AITA for wearing a two-piece bikini to my granddaughter's birthday pool party ?

My granddaughter Kelsy (19f) and I (67f) were shopping for her 19th birthday party. After she picked out an outfit for herself, she tried to pick put an outfit for me. She all her suggestions were two-piece bikinis.

I gave the obvious answer but she said her generation, especially those in our state, isn't that judgemental I wore a two-piece bikini at Kelsy's 19th birthday pool party. I was flattered she though I should wear it and I didn't want her to feel she will have to hide herself when she gets older. The party was hosted by Kelsy's mom and my daughter Brigitte (44f).

After the party, Brigitte told me it was inappropriate for a woman my age to wear that in front a bunch of college-aged youngsters. She notable that she herself wore a one-piece instead of a two-piece. Am I the a__hole ?

05/02/2026

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[UPDATE]: AITAH for offering to make sweet 16 favors for my coworker’s daughter but scaling down because the daughter was rude to me?

A few weeks back, I asked for advise. I had offered to make sweet 16 favors for the daughter of a long time co-worker/friend Sweet 16. She was having 20 girls at a small restaurant.

The favors were my gift and I had $150 budget. My friend/co-worker is a single mom of 5. I just wanted to try to do something nice for my friend.

I have a small family party business as a second job and I thought I could help. I fully admit I'm a doormat and I offer to help people way more than anybody would offer to help me. It's so hard for me not to offer.

I had faceTimed with the mother and daughter to discuss colors for the favors. The daughter said she wanted light blue and light pink . I told her I was worried that it might look like a baby shower.

She then rudely answered back ,' light blue and light pink'. In my previous post, a lot of people criticized me for being negative about the color. As I explained before, I really didn't care what color she picked, I just was worried it look like a baby shower.

We had one more negative interaction and I decided to do the favors I promised, but I decided not to do anything extra. I was thinking of going to the restaurant and setting up tablecloths and chair covers. I know this child since the day she came home from the hospital.

I was very upset about our interactions. She knew this was free and that it was my gift to her. So the party is this weekend and I brought the favors to work today.

I made 24 pink gift bags with blue tissue paper and matching wired ribbon. Each bag has chocolate covered pretzels, chocolate Oreos and chocolate marshmallows, labeled chapsticks, cute pink sunglasses with the birthday girls name on the side. My friend thinks her daughter's going to love them, which I'm happy to hear.

As I walk away, she asked...

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