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06/05/2026

06/05/2026

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AITA because I didn't tell my date we were going Dutch?

I recently went on a date with a guy that ended really oddly so I need some outside eyes on the whole thing.

I (27F) went on a date with a friend of a friend, Jake, (31M). I had suggested coffee but when he mentioned the restaurant he wanted to go to I agreed. It is a nice place and I have been meaning to go there. I figured worse case scenario I would get a chance to check out the food.

We actually had a nice time. I ordered drinks, appetizers, my main, and dessert. He only had water and his main. He tried a bit of my appetizers but said they weren't his thing.

When the bill came I made sure to tell the waitress that we had separate checks as this was our FIRST date and I always pay for myself on a first date. I emphasize first because I thought it went well. He seemed like a genuine and pleasant guy. I was looking forward to seeing him again.

I heard from my friend that set it up that Jake thought I was kind of a d__k for not telling him I was paying for my own meal. The reason he only had water and a main was because he thought he was going to be paying a bunch of money for my food and drinks.

I guess he was upset because he would have liked to order more but our bill together was over $200. With tip I paid $145.

I can understand why he would be upset but I don't think that's on me. I always pay for myself on the first date like I said. Unless it's coffee. Guys EDIT(Futa) get pissy sometimes if I don't let them buy me a coffee.

I cannot be the only woman who pays for themselves can I?

AITA?

06/04/2026

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She Refused To Pay A Quarter Of The Family Vacation Cost, And Now Everyone Is Arguing About Fairness

Throwaway as my family follows my main. Every year my family (parents, two sisters and 4 nieces/nephews) go on a family getaway. We rent a house on a lake and take time to enjoy being together. This year my sister did thebl booking for a 6 bedroom house. 1 bedroom for me, one for my parents, one for my sister and her husband, another for my other sister and her husband and 2 bedrooms for the kids. Each of my sisters have two kids. It is also important to note that the "kids" are all over 19 so are also adults.

I just got the bill for my portion and it is 1/4 of the total costs (i am single with no kids). I asked why and was told it was divided "by family". I personally think it is unfair to charge me the same amount as a family of 4. I suggested perhaps the cost should be divided by bedrooms used but was shot down.

Aita for saying I won't go if I have to subsidize my sister's families portions?

06/04/2026

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AITA For Refusing to Be More Modest?

My [18F] older brother [19M] has been staying with me and our parents again these last few months. He recently told me he had a problem with me not being modest enough and read me a list of complaints he has about me.

-I sometimes walk around the house in only shorts and a bra (its a sports bra)

-I walk to and from my bedroom/the bathroom/the laundry room in just a towel. He said one time the towel opened up a little at the back and my b__t was exposed (I didn't realize that). He also said he notices the towel sometimes slipping down a bit, exposing some cleavage.

-He sees me walking through the living room in a "revealing" bikini when I am going outside to use the pool

-I only wear shorts and a sports bra when I use our excersise equipment which makes my b***s noticeably bounce

-From the backyard where he spends a lot of time chilling out there, he can see through my bedroom window and thus sometimes sees me n__ed, and he can see my b***s through another window when I am in the shower.

He said me doing these things is extremly distracting for him.

I told him I would make sure to hold my towel tighter to me and have my blinds close when I'm n__ed in my room but thats not enough for him. He wants me to wear more clothes around the house.

I told him he doesn't have to look at me and that I won't conform to all his demands. I won't "be more modest" for him. Now he is calling me an AH for it.

06/04/2026

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Woman Loses It After Missionaries Wake Her Teething Toddler From A Hard-Won Nap

'AITA for telling some Mormon missionaries to "f*** off" after they woke up my toddler from her nap??'

So this just happened, and my husband thinks I was the ass in the situation, so I'm just curious what others might think.

So my toddler is in the throes of her terrible twos and has her back molars coming in, which makes any time she is awake an absolute misery. Naptime and bedtime are currently my favorite times of day.

I'd finally gotten her down after MUCH struggle. About 30 minutes into her nap, there's a knock at the door.

Now, while a knock might not awaken the toddler, my i__ot dogs will.

They get excited because they think every knock at the door is their favorite person (the UPS lady who always has treats and pats) and start barking.

I opened the door slightly so the dummies couldn't run out, only to see two young Mormon missionaries.

I should note, they stop by here like every other month because my husband is WAY too nice and will engage them every time.

I'm not as nice, admittedly, and will usually let him just deal with them.

But he works 3rd shift, so he sleeps during the day, so I couldn't get him to deal with them.

As soon as I spotted them, I told them, "Sorry. I've got a napping toddler, I don't have time for this."

The guy steps closer to me, puts his hand on my door as if to hold it open, and starts saying "ma'am, we just need a moment of your time" (which we all know is b.s., it is never 'just a moment').

I. Got. Pi**ed. I yanked the door slightly to dislodge his hand from my door and then told him, "Yeah, you need to F*CK RIGHT OFF" before I slammed the door.

Husband came out and, while he gets I didnt want to wake up the baby, he tried to tell me I should've "handled it better and not been such an a__hole".

I pretty much told him the same thing I told the Mormon kid. Luckily, the angry child is back asleep, and the dogs have calmed down. So AITA??

Edited to add: Husband just came back out to check that the kiddo fell back asleep and get some water.

I told him the whole story. His response? "Oh...well, that makes them the dicks!"

He apologized, kissed me on the head, and went back to bed.

Edit: I wanted to add, cause I'm getting tired fingers from saying the same thing over and over; we've tried signs in the past.

My hubs has worked 3rd shift for almost a decade, so we've tried variations upon variations of ways to keep people from waking him up.

Everyone but the religious door knockers respects the sign. We've been told "God's mission trumps any silly sign" as an excuse for ignoring it.

We've heard this more than once, so I think it is something they are taught to say to bypass the no solicitation signs.

06/04/2026

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Am I wrong for insulting my mother after she said I should've helped her get back together with my dad?

My(18m) mother is friends with someone who made fun of my dad for his physical appearance. This friend of hers would call him ugly because of the birthmark on his face and my mother would laugh like it was the funniest thing she ever heard. Always apologized to dad afterward and dad put up with it until one day he decided that enough was enough.

I was only 9. It was a mess. They shouted and argued and eventually divorced.

Yesterday was my birthday. She visited, along with my uncles, both of whom are her brothers. At first it was going okay.

It was a little awkward since she has tried to reconcile with dad over the years but he turned her down every time. She remarked that if I helped talk to dad he might have forgiven her and we might have been family again. I asked 'Are you saying it's my fault?' She said 'Yeah, kind of your fault.' That was when I told her that she chose to stay friends with someone who called dad ugly, saying to my mother that 'You're basically a female Ted Cruz.' One of my uncle, the younger one, tried not to laugh.

My other uncle didn't think it's funny and said I didn't have to go that far, saying I overreacted.