02/14/2026
Valentine’s Day and Black History Month sharing the same month feels intentional to me.
Because Black Love is not just romance.
It is ritual.
It is remembrance.
It is return.
I’ve been sitting with love in all its forms lately. Self love. Communal love. Familial love. Passion. Intimacy. The kind of love that asks us to grow up spiritually.
Here are four books I keep close:
🌹Black Pearls: Book of Love by Eric V. Copage
Short, daily meditations centering Black love. This is a bedside or altar book. Something to open in the morning when you need to remember tenderness is not weakness.
🌹The Spirit of Intimacy by Sobonfu Somé
African teachings on relationship as community practice. It expands intimacy beyond romance. Love as accountability. Love as collective responsibility. Love as spiritual discipline.
🌹Pussy Prayers by Black Girl Bliss
Sacred and sensual rituals for women of color. Reclaiming the body as holy ground. Devotion to self. Pleasure without shame.
🌹Salvation: Black People and Love by bell hooks
bell hooks is direct. She challenges how patriarchy and trauma distort our capacity to love each other. It is honest and necessary. Especially if we want healthier Black futures.
Black Love is altar work.
It is shadow work.
It is joy.
It is discipline.
Tend to your love like it is sacred. Because it is.