10/18/2022
I’ve had this note in my drafts for a couple of months now. I don’t know why, but I feel compelled to share it in this moment. Maybe someone will connect to it:
I’ve been experiencing a lot of loss in my family recently. It’s a relatively new hardship I’ve had to face and it seems that, as you get older, it only occurs more and more frequently. People you grew up with, people you raised, people who raised you, are here one moment. The next, they’re gone.
There’s no way to really prepare for it. It just happens. Death, doesn’t discriminate. It strikes violently and suddenly leaving those remaining with open wounds that only heal with time.
Death forces you to make a choice. To either continue on as you are or to change. To face things head on and change your perspective.
Reevaluate, reconcile and rejoice.
Reevaluate who and what matters to you most in this life and dedicate your time to them. We waste so much of our time doing things we dislike because of our own mental constraints. To love and be loved is what we are really here for. Live and move with purpose.
Reconcile with those we have wronged and with those who have wronged us. All relationships cannot be repaired but to say the things that must be said and move on is necessary. Leaving this life with pains, grudges and resentment in our hearts is not good for anyone. It only leads to more despair.
Rejoice that we are still here. Make the most of the limited time we have left. Let ego and pride die and humble yourself to the present moment.
Nothing I’ve said is gospel. It’s not some divine, absolute truth but it’s what I’ve come to understand. That said, take and carry closely what is good and leave and let go of what is isn’t. Persist on.