01/22/2026
AITA š
for not babysitting my niece and nephew š in a family emergency?
Thereās obviously a backstory here.
Six months ago, I watched my niece (5) and nephew (7) for five days while my sister and BIL were on vacation. They acted like absolute terrors most of the time. On the third day of them being at my house, we were in the yard swimming. My nephew asked to use the bathroom. My dog was inside, and he locked her in the laundry room because he āthought it would be funnyā. My dog is older and has separation anxiety, and the constantly repeated rule at my house is āmake sure Bonnie isnāt in the room before you shut the door behind youā - he both knew better and he admitted it wasnāt an accident.
I came in to find an incredibly stressed out dog and a laundry room door and wall that had been scratched to hell. When my sister came back, she didnāt really apologize, but I thought she was just embarrassed. I then forwarded her a quote from a contractor to fix the wall, replace the wallpaper and replace the door. She said she absolutely wasnāt paying that, that her husband would come do his best to fix it and that I was being ridiculous for expecting the to pay āso muchā when he was just being a kid.
I told her I wasnāt babysitting for her again, and havenāt really spoken with her much since. Last Friday, she showed up frantic with her kids in tow. She said her FILās caretakerās family member has COVID symptoms, so she wasnāt coming to work. He apparently needs assistance with day to day tasks like eating/moving about/using the washroom and she didnāt want to , and her husband was on a shift that just started (firefighter). I said no, reiterating what happened last time, shut the door and went on with my day. She called me at least 20 times over the next 10 minutes then eventually left. I have no idea what she did for childcare, nor is it my problem, but our mother has called me freaking out about it being mean, uncaring and āhurtful to [her] personallyā (?). Our other sister said I shouldāve just done it and gone back to not regularly babysitting. I donāt think I owe her a single millisecond of free childcare (no matter the circumstance) when she was happy to stiff me with a bill caused by her kid.