24/01/2026
TW: reproductive coercion/birth control sabotage
My sister crushed my birth control pills because she thought I "needed a push" to have kids. When it didn't work on me, she got pregnant herself and expected me to raise the baby.
For months, she stayed at my place and mangled my birth control. I thought it was accidents. Then she announced her "miracle pregnancy" and started dropping weird hints.
Two weeks before her due date, she confessed: she'd sabotaged my pills hoping I'd get pregnant first. When I didn't, she got pregnant herself to "give me a baby to raise." She planned to hand me the newborn and be the "fun auntie" while I did all the parenting.
She saw my stable life/career/home as resources for her to exploit. She violated my bodily autonomy because she decided I secretly wanted kids.
I told her no. Absolutely not. Chris and I aren't interested in parenthood.
Now she's enraged I'm "abandoning my own niece/nephew" and letting an "innocent baby suffer." My parents say I should "help family" and "not punish the child for her mistake."
But this wasn't a mistake. She made repeated, deliberate choices to control my reproduction and manipulate me into parenting her child.
She committed reproductive assault. That's not something you "get past" for family harmony.
I've gone no-contact, changed my locks, blocked everyone pressuring me. The baby was born last week—I'm not involved.
AITA for refusing to raise my sister's baby after she sabotaged my birth control to force me into motherhood?
My family says I'm heartless. She says I'm selfish. I say never again.
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