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14/05/2026

AITA for selling something I got for free?
A few weeks back, I (44M) won a car in one of them supermarket giveaways. There are various reasons I don't want to keep it: I spend a significant portion of the year traveling between two continents, I don't have a garage to keep it in when I'm in my home country, and - perhaps most importantly - the car has a manual transmission and I am bad enough driver on an automatic. I could, however, use a couple of thousand Euros extra, so I decided to sell it.

Friends of mine, a married couple I will call Laura (36F) and Patrick (38M), are in the market for a new car, so I turned to them first. The ticket price of the car is 20k EUR, I need to pay taxes on the winnings of some 4k, so I offered it to them for 14k. They save 6k (which means they don't need to take out a partial loan as they were planning), I end up with 10k, everyone wins. Laura and Patrick very happily accepted and we should have all the paperwork done out next week.

I was hanging out with Laura and Patrick last weekend, signing the paperwork. At one point, another friend of theirs - let's call him Jake (34M) - showed up. I don't talk to him, why is long story, one of the reasons is that he is a knowitall as***le who is just incapable of keeping out of other people's business. And sure enough, when Jake found out what was going on, he felt the need to offer his opinion which amounted to accusing me of "taking advantage" of Laura and Patrick and arguing that if I were a real friend, I would just give them the car. Laura (who doesn't like Jake either, but is the sweetest person ever, so does not let it show) politely shut him down and he thankfully left shortly after that. Laura then apologized and told me that she thought what Jake had said was stupid, but that - surprisingly to both of us - some other friends of hers think the same.

And then yesterday I met up with Alex (39M), a mutual friend of mine and Laura's. Laura, him and me worked in the same office for a couple of years and while I left for greener pastures long time ago, they - and some other mutual friends - still work there. Alex told me, with some amusement, that the entire thing with the car has been the subject of much gossip at the office. According to what he told me, some people are basically taking Jake's side and calling why I did "exploitative" and "taking advantage of Laura's situation", since I am charging them money for something that cost me nothing.

14/05/2026

AITA for still going to my MIL’s 70th birthday after my FIL refused to attend because of me?
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AITA for still going to my MIL’s 70th birthday after my FIL refused to attend because of me?

I (mid 30s F) have been with my husband for years and we have a daughter together. I’m relatively close with most of his family and until recently I was especially close with his step sister “Vanessa” (mid 30’s) and her dad/my FIL. Vanessa and I were genuinely best friends. Like soul sister level close.

About 6 months ago there was an awkward incident at a party involving Vanessa’s long-term crush “Ben.” (Also mid 30’s) To be absolutely clear: nothing romantic happened. We were saying goodbye, both went for the cheek kiss, and accidentally landed on each other’s mouths for literally a split second. Closed mouth, immediately laughed off, my husband was standing next to us and saw and didn’t care at all due to it being a non event.

Apparently Vanessa did care.

At the time we had an argument about it, but I genuinely thought we’d moved on. I apologised for upsetting her, explained there was no intent behind it, bought her a thoughtful gift the next time I saw her, etc.

Then out of nowhere after I saw her again she sent a long message saying she was upset with me because I had told her my MIL knew about the disagreement from FIL and made a comment which supposedly meant she couldn’t trust her own father. For context, her dad has lived with this woman for TWENTY YEARS he obviously told her we had had an argument especially given how close we were. He didn’t exactly leak state secrets.

Vanessa has a long history of permanently cutting women off over perceived betrayals, so while I was devastated, I eventually accepted it despite grieving the relationship.

The issue now is my FIL.

Before all this, he and I got on brilliantly. He was the first person in my husband’s family who fully accepted me and we genuinely adored each other. We’d sit drinking and laughing for hours. He was my person in that family besides my husband.

Since the fallout, he’s completely iced me out. Won’t answer messages, avoids seeing us, etc. Hurtful, but whatever, he’s her dad he’s always going to take his daughter’s side.

BUT NOW…

My MIL is turning 70 and we’ve found out my FIL is refusing to attend her birthday party because I’m going.

I genuinely cannot believe this is real life.

This whole thing stemmed from an accidental mis-kiss SIX MONTHS AGO that my husband literally witnessed and did not care about. Yet now a grown man in his 70s is refusing to attend his partner’s milestone birthday because I’ll be there.

I initially considered skipping Christmas and future family events to “keep the peace” but now I’m thinking absolutely not. Why should I exile myself from my husband’s family because two people are behaving like this?

For context:
- I have never shouted at anyone
- I have never insulted Vanessa
- I thoroughly apologised for upsetting her even though I genuinely don’t think I did anything wrong
- I have continued being polite
- My husband and several other people who were at the party think this has been blown wildly out of proportion

My husband is furious because he feels his stepdad is punishing the entire family but especially his mother over something ridiculous.

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