03/02/2026
My boyfriend's female colleague likes to chat with my boyfriend.
Last year, I found out that my boyfriend had a female colleague he often communicated with, and the frequency was enough for me to remember her WeChat. Every time I looked at my boyfriend's phone, he was in a state of letting me see freely, so I didn't really mind. This was the sense of security given to me by his attitude.
They didn't work in the same place, but since they were in the same department, they would also complain about some work-related things.
Until yesterday, when I was looking at my boyfriend's phone, that female colleague sent a message asking if he was married. My boyfriend was right beside me, so I replied in his tone, saying we would get married this year and would invite her then. Unexpectedly, she declined, saying she didn't want to give a red envelope. Then she asked my boyfriend to introduce her to a boyfriend. I replied using his WeChat: You can add my wife's WeChat, she has many high-quality single men resources and can definitely help you. But she didn't add either. My boyfriend watched me chat with that female colleague on his phone. In the end, she didn't add me on WeChat either.
Actually, such things are quite normal. After all, the world is so big, there's nothing strange. Having one or two women admire him, I can understand. After all, there are also some men who come to chat with me. Emotions are the hardest thing to control. Even after getting married in the future, there might still be such situations. But because of his attitude, he gave me enough sense of security. He wasn't panicking or showing nervous expressions. What I needed was a bold preference, like Bian Liang played by Huang Bo in the recently aired "The Right Way to Live Life". We can't control others liking us, but we have our own thoughts and can tell others where the boundaries are, instead of letting this emotion continue to escalate and ferment.
The relationship between two people is maintained by both parties, and it won't work without one side. So I often tell my boyfriend, we have found each other, and in the future, we will be the best friends and the best partners. Not completely controlling each other, but also needing self-awareness.
