26/04/2024
My Wifeâs Salary Was a Mystery Until I discovered How Much Sheâs Truly Worth. In 2021 she told me her salary was 9500/- and then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, âOh these people, donât mind them. They added only 1500/- to my old salary" Because of her meager salary, Iâve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things werenât good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, âIâve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.â
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never had rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didnât have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wifeâs email that had been opened. I asked her, âDid you use my laptop?â She answered, âYeah I was checking something.â I told her, âThen you didnât log out.â She answered, âI forgot. Please log out for me.â
I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, âJanuary Payslip.â I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. 74,734/-.
And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldnât sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. Weâve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didnât bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather ddo a little bit of investigation.
All my life Iâve held the view that it wasnât right for anyone to go through their partnerâs phone. Itâs an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for.
I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, âThank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.â
She has only one brother, her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought him a car to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didnât mind. I believed whatâs hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasnât looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, âSo why would you do that to me?â
She asked, âWhat have I done?â
I answered, âYou bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?â
She was shocked.
She asked, âWho told you all that?â
I said, âYour father did.â She stood quiet for a while.
She asked, âWhy would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking aboutâ
I said, âI donât know. You can ask him.â
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: âMy father wants to talk to you.â The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry.
He asked, almost shouting, âYou said I told you my daughter has a building, Where did I say that and when?â
I asked, âIs it not true that my wife has a building project going on that youâre supervising?â
He asked me, âI told you that?â
I asked, âIs it true or not?â After the back and forth I told them, âI read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. Youâre a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?â
He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware....
My wife stood there motionless, didnât know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I k