23/07/2022
“When you set a rule for yourself and break it, you are cheating on yourself.”~FKU
Dear men,
Before you get married to a woman, try to live alone. Rent an apartment. Pay your rent yourself. Buy a bed and a mattress. Buy a TV. Most importantly, buy pots, a gas cooker or stove, and all the utensils you will need in the kitchen. Learn to cook. Feed yourself.
Can you come back home from work and stay alone in your house without going out to hang out with friends? Can you be comfortable with your own presence?
Can you sit in your house alone, especially during weekends, and watch your football matches and still feel happy?
Can you say your prayers on your own without anyone reminding you or waking you up? Can you wash your clothes, mop your house, and make your bed?
Can you cook your food and eat without going out to buy already-made food?
Ask yourself!
As a married man, you cannot sincerely appreciate your wife’s ability to take care of the house when you don’t have any experience in taking care of your house.
You cannot appreciate what it means to cook fresh food every day when all you did when you were single was buy cooked food or asked someone to cook for you.
In most tertiary institutions, young men tend to date girls so that they will have someone that will be coming over to their houses to cook for them, and then they’d have s*x.
Most young girls, on the other hand, date guys so that they will have someone that will be giving them money to buy whatever they need, and then they’d have s*x.
Amongst male friends, once one of them gets a girlfriend, the friends would all believe that the girl would be coming over, at least on weekends, to cook, wash and clean the house. For them, that is the default duty of a girlfriend.
Among female friends, once one of them is dating, they would all believe that she won't lack anything material, like phones, airtime, money for hair, and her general upkeep. For them, that is the mark of having a boyfriend.
