07/04/2026
MY TAKE ON THE INCREASE IN CASES OF SU***DE
(Co-written by Chippie Chimombo)
Nowadays, hardly a fortnight goes without hearing about cases of su***de. If my observation is right, you may agree with me that most of these people who are taking their lives are of the male gender. Not only that, it can't be a fallacy to claim that most of these men committing su***de are doing it as a result of failed relationships. By failed relationships, I am referring to marriage, courtship, dating or even secret love affairs. There should be something about men that makes them to be the ones who are committing more su***des due to failed relationships as compared to the female gender. But why are more men killing themselves yet the relationships involve both parties?
Firstly, most men are under pressure once they are in a relationship. This pressure comes as they are supposed to satisfy their love or marriage partner in many ways as well as aspects. Most men are told that 'you are the man' and you need to do something to solve the situation. Men find themselves in different situations so that they support and satisfy their spouses in many ways; be it financially, socially, materially, morally, academically or even sexual satisfaction. Consequently, when men can't meet these demands, they view themselves as failure and not all men can stand and face being branded or viewed as someone who is failing to satisfy their spouse. What do some of them opt? It's su***de of course.
Another one is that most men can't come to admit that even their spouse, girlfriend, side chick, fiance or whoever lady they are in a romantic relationship with, can cheat on them. Most men are still living under the allusion that so long as they are doing their best to 'take care' of their lady, that lady can't cheat on them. They think that it is only prostitutes who can have multiple sexual partners. This is probably not true but still once these men discover that their lady has been cheating on them, they can't face that reality. They ask themselves a lot of unanswered questions such as : For how long has this been happening behind my back? How many people know this? Why did she do it? What positions did he do it with her?... Blah blah. It is these questions that make a man to resort to taking his own life for he thinks he has been stripped naked in public and can't handle the shame.
Apart from the causes discribed above, the other one has to do with the nature of most men who are in a relationship. Most men, by nature, are introverts. They do not right away say what is bothering or eating up their minds. This is why they don't share with their friends or any other person, the problems that they are going through in their marriage or love relationship. They think that they will control the situation or that by being open about marital problems to an outsider, is not being man enough. As problems pile up in their minds, these men become overwhelmed and when these problems get out of hand, these men decide to take their own lives. They think that there is no way out of these problems.
The causes alluded to above are just a tip on an ice berg regarding the reasons as to why most men are taking their own lives. There are many reasons and as a society, it's high time we started doing something in order to eleminate or better still, reduce the vice. Let's cease from being people who are merely good at sharing these su***de cases on social media but we should start doing. For a start, we can start by opening up to one another regarding these problems.The problem that made that man to commit su***de for is also something that your neighbor, friend, workmate, relative is also struggling with. Don't get shocked when you hear that he has also killed himself. Let's share these problems and probably seek the required help before we lose more men from our midst.
MEN'S LIVES MATTERS TOO...