Let's Talk Gender

24/03/2021

Very spot on!
**eculture

08/03/2021

27/01/2021

Here's what we can learn from the r**e of Tamar:
1. R**e isn't impulsive. Rapists make a conscious decision to r**e including planning how they'll do it.

2. Rapists aren't strangers, they're people well known to the victims.

3. Anyone can be r**ed, don't be scared to report.

Doing nothing is doing something. Being angry is not enough. Survivors of r**e deserve to get JUSTICE.

26/01/2021

You're probably thinking, who cares what a woman's wearing in this era?Most people don't mind what a woman's wearing until she's r**ed. Then, comes all the, "Sasa na ata vile ulikuwa umevaa, ungevaa vizuri ..."

But, we won't stop demystifying these kinds of myth. Dressing has got nothing to do with r**e. We shouldn't justify r**e, and we shouldn't make anybody (survivors of r**e) feel like they're the reason it happened.

19/01/2021

No one asks to be r**ed and nothing justifies r**e. Survivors of Sexual and Gender Based Violence deserve justice, so let's encourage reporting of SGBV cases.

22/12/2020

When his preaching sounded like a defense to abusers, then she couldn't take it anymore. She only thought of the souls he was condemning with his message.

DISCLAIMER: Faith leaders hold a special place in people's hearts. But, their perception on issues about SGBV can be clouded because of beliefs and myths. They therefore perpetuate violence consciously and unconsciously. It is paramount that we sensitize and create awareness among faith leaders to erase ignorance.

21/12/2020

A little remainder that non consensual s*x is r**e. It can't be justified.

02/12/2020

He wanted a perfect disguise for the monster he truly was. His marriage was a façade, and she felt horrible for thinking she knew him. She defended him, but he used her and he used his family.

DISCLAIMER: It's important to realize that we can never know the person next to us. Whether it's your husband, work mate, friend, uncle, aunt, grand parents, cousin, pastor, you don't know them. So it's good to really be sure they're not guilty of alleged s*xual accusations before you jump the gun defending them. They could be using you to hide their crimes.

26/11/2020

What do parents tell their children when they witness physical violence? Some will often not say a word about it, not even tell the child that that was wrong. So the question becomes, what message are you conveying to this child?

DISCLAIMER: Physical abuse amongst couple is not only traumatic to them but also to children. They require counseling and to be told that physical abuse is wrong. Children shouldn't 'okay' any form of violence because of what they observe happen at home.

17/11/2020

She was fed up with him playing victim. He didn't want to grow up and take care of the kids. To her, he was another child she had to fend for. However, that's not what made her lose it, he was psychologically abusing the children too. He was a manipulative narcissistic psychopath and no one was safe.

DISCLAIMER: A covert narcissist is someone who craves admiration and importance as well as lacks empathy. He/she may not appear like a narcissist and may not be aggressive, but this one spares no one, not even the children. They have a way of making children feel it's their fault if they don't have a good relationship. Always be keen to recognize manipulation!

03/11/2020

His uncle was his worst nightmare. It wasn't just the beatings but he also sodomized him. He felt helpless and defeated.

DISCLAIMER: We need to create an environment where boys and men can speak up when they're violated. There's no such thing as 'be a man' when it comes to Sexual and Gender Based Violence. If a girl screams for help, a boy should do the same, there's no shame.

01/11/2020

Happy November. Let's remember to be kind to one another. .