Tova Leigh - My Thoughts about stuff

08/09/2026

Tell me I’m wrong 😂

08/09/2026

🤪🙌🏻 anyone else?!

08/09/2026

For someone who talks very openly about women’s s*xuality, pleasure, beauty, health and wellbeing - and who firmly believes an 0rgasm a day keeps the doctor away - I really thought I knew my way around the subject.

I’ve tried nearly every toy on the market. At this point, I thought there were very few things my body could do that would genuinely make me say:

“EXCUSE ME, WHAT WAS THAT???”

And then…

MY EAR.

Yes. My EAR!

Recently my partner started paying some rather enthusiastic attention to my ear - kissing, nibbling, etc. - and somewhere along the way I suddenly realised my ENTIRE BODY was vibrating.

Not metaphorically.

I mean full-body, WHAT-IN-THE-MIDLIFE-WITCHCRAFT-IS-HAPPENING vibrating.

And then came what I can only describe as a full-body O.

From. My. EAR.

Naturally, being a sensible, mature almost-51-year-old woman, I immediately thought: “Something is medically wrong with me.” 😂

So I looked it up.

AND APPARENTLY THIS IS A THING.

Apparently, intense ear stimulation may trigger arousal and, for some people, an 0rgasmic full\-body response!

Frankly, EAR PLAY deserves better PR. As a perimenopausal woman I can honestly say this is a game changer! Think about it: No contraception. No c0ndoms. No l**e. No awkward clean-up. You don’t even have to take off your clothes! And your equipment is conveniently attached to your HEAD which is the only thing I can find these days anyway. .

And my favourite part of this has to be discovering that pleasure doesn’t necessarily disappear or become less interesting with age.

It just gets… weirder.

And I am HERE FOR IT 😉

HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE?!

Have you ever experienced a completely unexpected “how is THAT connected to THAT?!” pleasure response to any other part of your body?

And did everybody else know about the ear situation except me???

Because if so, ladies, we need to have a serious conversation about information sharing. 😂👂

07/09/2026

Had to share this video about motherhood from

07/09/2026

Men didn’t “provide” for women. They built a world where women were denied the power to provide for themselves - then demanded gratitude for the dependency they created.

That’s not “providing”. That’s control with better PR 🤷‍♀️

07/09/2026

06/09/2026

Yesterday I posted a meme that said: “Imagine what women would achieve if we too had a wife.”

It went viral - and most women immediately understood the point.

It wasn’t an attack on men. And it wasn’t literally about wanting a wife.

It was about invisible labour.

When we look at a successful man, we often measure what we can see: the career, the business, the income, the achievements. What we don’t always see is the person behind the scenes making that success possible - managing the home, raising the children, remembering the appointments, organising the birthday parties, buying the gifts, planning the meals, carrying the mental load of an entire family.

Historically, that person has overwhelmingly been a woman. A wife.

We live in a system that puts a monetary value on paid work, while treating an enormous amount of unpaid labour - much of it done by women - as if it simply… happens.

It doesn’t.

And that was the point of the meme.

Plenty of men understood it too, and commented about how much they appreciate the women in their lives who carry so much of that load.

But some of the responses actually illustrated the point better than the meme ever could.

Because women’s labour isn’t just invisible.

Too often, it’s undervalued, under-acknowledged and taken for granted.

And perhaps instead of belittling women’s contributions as if they have no value, these men should be asking a much more interesting question: Who gets to succeed because somebody else is quietly making their life work?

05/09/2026

When teens realise their parents have an actual life… 🍆😂🤷‍♀️

04/09/2026

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