10/05/2026
A Motherās Day post for the ones who donāt recognise themselves anymore šš»āāļøš·
Yes, you read that right. A post on Motherās Day that doesnāt celebrate how great Motherhood is? Is she trying to be controversial?? Relax. I do think motherhood is great. It gave me a lot, it showed me sides of myself I might never have known otherwise, etc, etc. But, as all change does: it takes something away. Like remembering what you liked about your spouse, or your favourite filmā¦ or your name. Honestly, the biggest loss for me was my free time. Specifically, the HUGE gift that is to be able to do something *exactly* when you wanna do it. Not in ten minutes, or an hour, or only for the variable amount of time that your baby will sleep. Right then and there. And thatās something I relied on hugely, to be creative (you never know when inspiration will strike and all that, right?). Enter baby no.1, and I discovered that *when* I wanted to do something was no longer relevant. I had unclear amounts of time to do what I wanted, and that uncertainty capped my creativity real bad at first, cause whatās the point in even starting something if youāll potentially be interrupted by a crying baby in 5 minutes? Well, I learnt to just start, because if you donāt start when you can, youāll never get anything done. And thatās one of the biggest lessons motherhood has taught me, but it was ROUGH, and I was really broken for a few months.
So *thatās* the reason why we donāt talk about anything else, Jenny. Cause literally - this is our life for the first few years.
Ps. It does get better, and there are plenty good times right from the start, pls donāt call the motherhood police on me.
Pps. Sorry jennysjenni_ if you do exist on Threads š¤
Ppps. The more nuanced take on this is on my blog under the title āLosing (and Finding) Desire: Motherhood, Creativity, and the Suppression of Selfā if you like long form content
Kisses and hugs to everybody whoās still in the trenches and everybody who isnāt, but is helping out ā¤ļø
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