30/08/2026
๐๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐๐ญ ๏ทบ
By Shaykh Shabbir Ahmad
ุงูุญูู
ูุฏู ููููููู ุฑูุจูู ุงูุนูุงููู
ููููุ ููุงูุตููููุงุฉู ููุงูุณููููุงู
ู ุนูููู ุณููููุฏูููุง ู
ูุญูู
ููุฏูุ ููุนูููู ุขูููู ููุตูุญูุจููู ุฃูุฌูู
ูุนูููู.
How do we respond when someone insults us, misunderstands us, hurts us or treats us unfairly?
Anyone can remain calm when everything is going well. Anyone can be kind when others are kind to them. But when we are tested, our real character is revealed.
Our beliefs shape our mindset; our mindset shapes our attitude; our attitude influences our personality; our personality is reflected in our character; and our character becomes visible through our response.
Ideology โ Mindset โ Attitude โ Personality โ Character โ Response โ Reaction
There is no greater example of this than our beloved Prophet Muhammad ๏ทบ.
Allah ุณุจุญุงูู ูุชุนุงูู says:
ููููุฏู ููุงูู ููููู
ู ููู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ุฃูุณูููุฉู ุญูุณูููุฉู ููู
ููู ููุงูู ููุฑูุฌูู ุงูููููู ููุงููููููู
ู ุงููุขุฎูุฑู ููุฐูููุฑู ุงูููููู ููุซููุฑูุง
โIndeed, in the Messenger of Allah you have an excellent example to follow, for whoever hopes in Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah abundantly.โ (Surah al-Ahzab 33:21)
The Prophet ๏ทบ is not merely someone we admire; he is our ุฃูุณูููุฉู ุญูุณูููุฉูโour example to follow.
๐๐๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ฅ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฌ๐ค ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ฏ๐๐ฌ: ๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐?
๐. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐๐ญ ๏ทบ ๐๐๐ฌ โ๐๐๐โ
แธimฤd ุฑุถู ุงููู ุนูู came to Makkah and he heard some foolish people from among the people of Makkah saying that Muhammad ๏ทบ was mad. Because he had experience in treating people through ruqyah, he thought he might be able to cure him.
He approached the Prophet ๏ทบ and offered to treat him. Instead of becoming angry, the Messenger of Allah ๏ทบ calmly praised Allah and testified to His oneness and his own Prophethood.
ุนููู ุนูุจูุฏู ุงูููููู ุจููู ุนูุจููุงุณู ู ุฑูุถููู ุงูููููู ุนูููููู
ูุง ู ุฃูููู ุถูู
ูุงุฏูุง ููุฏูู
ู ู
ููููุฉูุ ููููุงูู ู
ููู ุฃูุฒูุฏู ุดููููุกูุฉูุ ููููุงูู ููุฑูููู ู
ููู ููุฐููู ุงูุฑูููุญู (ุงููุฌูููู)ุ ููุณูู
ูุนู ุณูููููุงุกู ู
ููู ุฃููููู ู
ููููุฉู ูููููููููู: ุฅูููู ู
ูุญูู
ููุฏูุง ู
ูุฌููููููุ ููููุงูู: ูููู ุฃููููู ุฑูุฃูููุชู ููุฐูุง ุงูุฑููุฌููู ููุนูููู ุงูููููู ููุดูููููู ุนูููู ููุฏููููุ ููุงูู: ููููููููููุ ููููุงูู: ููุง ู
ูุญูู
ููุฏูุ ุฅููููู ุฃูุฑูููู ู
ููู ููุฐููู ุงูุฑูููุญูุ ููุฅูููู ุงูููููู ููุดูููู ุนูููู ููุฏูููู ู
ููู ุดูุงุกูุ ูููููู ูููู ุฃูุฑููููููุ ููููุงูู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ู ุตููููู ุงูููููู ุนููููููู ููุณููููู
ู ู: ุฅูููู ุงููุญูู
ูุฏู ูููููููุ ููุญูู
ูุฏููู ููููุณูุชูุนููููููุ ู
ููู ููููุฏููู ุงูููููู ููููุง ู
ูุถูููู ููููุ ููู
ููู ููุถููููู ููููุง ููุงุฏููู ููููุ ููุฃูุดูููุฏู ุฃููู ููุง ุฅููููู ุฅููููุง ุงูููููู ููุญูุฏููู ููุง ุดูุฑูููู ููููุ ููุฃูููู ู
ูุญูู
ููุฏูุง ุนูุจูุฏููู ููุฑูุณููููููุ ุฃูู
ููุง ุจูุนูุฏู. ููุงูู: ููููุงูู: ุฃูุนูุฏู ุนูููููู ููููู
ูุงุชููู ููุคูููุงุกูุ ููุฃูุนูุงุฏูููููู ุนููููููู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ู ุตููููู ุงูููููู ุนููููููู ููุณููููู
ู ู ุซูููุงุซู ู
ูุฑููุงุชูุ ููุงูู: ููููุงูู: ููููุฏู ุณูู
ูุนูุชู ูููููู ุงููููููููุฉูุ ูููููููู ุงูุณููุญูุฑูุฉูุ ูููููููู ุงูุดููุนูุฑูุงุกูุ ููู
ูุง ุณูู
ูุนูุชู ู
ูุซููู ููููู
ูุงุชููู ููุคูููุงุกูุ ููููููุฏู ุจูููุบููู ููุงุนููุณู ุงููุจูุญูุฑูุ ููุงูู: ููููุงูู: ููุงุชู ููุฏููู ุฃูุจูุงููุนููู ุนูููู ุงููุฅูุณูููุงู
ูุ ููุงูู: ููุจูุงููุนูููุ ููููุงูู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ู ุตููููู ุงูููููู ุนููููููู ููุณููููู
ู ู: ููุนูููู ููููู
ูููุ ููุงูู: ููุนูููู ููููู
ูู.
แธimฤd ุฑุถู ุงููู ุนูู listened and said that he had heard the words of fortune-tellers, magicians and poets, but had never heard words like these. He then said, โGive me your hand. I pledge allegiance to you upon Islam.โ
The Prophet ๏ทบ then asked, โAnd on behalf of your people?โ He replied, โAnd on behalf of my people.โ
What began with a misunderstanding ended with guidance.
Later, the Prophet ๏ทบ continued to honour the relationship:
ููุงูู: ููุจูุนูุซู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ู ุตููููู ุงูููููู ุนููููููู ููุณููููู
ู ู ุณูุฑููููุฉูุ ููู
ูุฑูููุง ุจูููููู
ูููุ ููููุงูู ุตูุงุญูุจู ุงูุณููุฑููููุฉู ููููุฌูููุดู: ูููู ุฃูุตูุจูุชูู
ู ู
ููู ููุคูููุงุกู ุดูููุฆูุงุ ููููุงูู ุฑูุฌููู ู
ููู ุงููููููู
ู: ุฃูุตูุจูุชู ู
ูููููู
ู ู
ูุทูููุฑูุฉูุ ููููุงูู: ุฑูุฏูููููุงุ ููุฅูููู ููุคูููุงุกู ููููู
ู ุถูู
ูุงุฏู. ุฑูุงู ู
ุณูู
When something belonging to his people had been taken, the Prophet ๏ทบ instructed that it be returned, saying, โThese are the people of แธimฤd.โ
The lesson: Do not allow another personโs ignorance to control your behaviour.
๐. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ค๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฎ๐
A Bedouin once urinated in the mosque. The Companions wanted to stop him, but the Prophet ๏ทบ responded with remarkable wisdom:
ุนููู ุฃูููุณู ุจููู ู
ูุงูููู ู ุฑูุถููู ุงูููููู ุนููููู ู ุฃูููู ุฃูุนูุฑูุงุจููููุง ุจูุงูู ููู ุงููู
ูุณูุฌูุฏูุ ููููุงู
ู ุฅููููููู ุจูุนูุถู ุงููููููู
ูุ ููููุงูู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ๏ทบ: ยซุฏูุนูููู ููููุง ุชูุฒูุฑูู
ููููยป ููููู
ููุง ููุฑูุบู ุฏูุนูุง ุจูุฏููููู ู
ููู ู
ูุงุกู ููุตูุจูููู ุนููููููู.
And in another narration:
ยซุฅูููู ููุฐููู ุงููู
ูุณูุงุฌูุฏู ููุง ุชูุตูููุญู ููุดูููุกู ู
ููู ููุฐูุง ุงููุจููููู ููููุง ุงููููุฐูุฑูุ ุฅููููู
ูุง ูููู ููุฐูููุฑู ุงูููููู ุนูุฒูู ููุฌููููุ ููุงูุตููููุงุฉูุ ููููุฑูุงุกูุฉู ุงููููุฑูุขููยป. ุฑูุงู ุงูุจุฎุงุฑู ูู
ุณูู
The Prophet ๏ทบ said, โLeave him and do not interrupt him.โ When the man finished, water was poured over the place. The Prophet ๏ทบ then explained that mosques are for the remembrance of Allah, prayer and Qurโanโnot for such impurity.
He did not approve of the mistake, but neither did he humiliate the person.
The lesson: Correct the mistake, but do not destroy the person.
๐. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐๐ญ ๏ทบ
A Bedouin once pulled the Prophetโs ๏ทบ cloak so forcefully that it left a mark on his shoulder. Then he demanded something from him.
ุนููู ุฃูููุณู ุจููู ู
ูุงูููู ู ุฑูุถููู ุงูููููู ุนููููู ู ููุงูู: ููููุชู ุฃูู
ูุดูู ู
ูุนู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ๏ทบ ููุนููููููู ุจูุฑูุฏู ููุฌูุฑูุงููููู ุบููููุธู ุงููุญูุงุดูููุฉูุ ููุฃูุฏูุฑููููู ุฃูุนูุฑูุงุจูููู ููุฌูุจูุฐู ุจูุฑูุฏูุงุฆููู ุฌูุจูุฐูุฉู ุดูุฏููุฏูุฉูุ ุญูุชููู ููุธูุฑูุชู ุฅูููู ุตูููุญูุฉู ุนูุงุชููู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ๏ทบ ููุฏู ุฃูุซููุฑูุชู ุจูููุง ุญูุงุดูููุฉู ุงููุจูุฑูุฏู ู
ููู ุดูุฏููุฉู ุฌูุจูุฐูุชูููุ ุซูู
ูู ููุงูู: ููุง ู
ูุญูู
ููุฏูุ ู
ูุฑู ููู ู
ููู ู
ูุงูู ุงูููููู ุงูููุฐูู ุนูููุฏููู. ููุงููุชูููุชู ุฅููููููู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ๏ทบ ุซูู
ูู ุถูุญูููุ ุซูู
ูู ุฃูู
ูุฑู ูููู ุจูุนูุทูุงุกู. ุฑูุงู ุงูุจุฎุงุฑู ูู
ุณูู
The man hurt the Prophet ๏ทบ, spoke rudely and demanded something from him. Yet the Prophet ๏ทบ simply turned towards him, smiled, and ordered that something be given to him.
This was not weakness. It was extraordinary self-control.
The lesson: Someone elseโs behaviour does not have to determine your response.
๐. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ง๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐๐ญ ๏ทบ
Some people deliberately used an insulting greeting towards the Prophet ๏ทบ. สฟฤโishah ุฑุถู ุงููู ุนููุง became angry, but the Prophet ๏ทบ taught her the importance of gentleness:
ุนููู ุนูุงุฆูุดูุฉู ู ุฑูุถููู ุงูููููู ุนูููููุง ู ููุงููุชู: ููุงูู ุงูููููููุฏู ููุณููููู
ูููู ุนูููู ุงููููุจูููู ๏ทบ ูููููููููููู: ุงูุณููุงู
ู ุนูููููููุ ููููุทูููุชู ููููุง ุนูุงุฆูุดูุฉู ููููุงููุชู: ุนูููููููู
ู ุงูุณููุงู
ู ููุงููููุนูููุฉู. ููููุงูู ุงููููุจูููู ๏ทบ: ยซู
ูููููุง ููุง ุนูุงุฆูุดูุฉูุ ุฅูููู ุงูููููู ููุญูุจูู ุงูุฑูููููู ููู ุงููุฃูู
ูุฑู ูููููููยป. ููุงููุชู: ููุง ููุจูููู ุงููููููุ ุฃูููููู
ู ุชูุณูู
ูุนู ู
ูุง ููููููููููุ ููุงูู: ยซุฃูููููู
ู ุชูุณูู
ูุนูู ุฃููููู ุฃูุฑูุฏูู ุฐููููู ุนูููููููู
ู ููุฃูููููู: ููุนูููููููู
ูยปุ ุฑูุงู ุงูุจุฎุงุฑู ูู
ุณูู
The Prophet ๏ทบ said, โTake it easy, O สฟฤโishah. Allah loves gentleness in every matter.โ
He did not respond with weakness; he responded with dignity and restraint.
The lesson: You can be firm without being harsh, and you can defend yourself without losing your character.
๐. ๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐๐ฌ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ
A man came to the Prophet ๏ทบ demanding his debt and spoke harshly. The Companions became angry, but the Prophet ๏ทบ remained fair:
ุนููู ุฃูุจูู ููุฑูููุฑูุฉู ู ุฑูุถููู ุงูููููู ุนููููู ู ููุงูู: ููุงูู ููุฑูุฌููู ุนูููู ุฑูุณูููู ุงูููููู ๏ทบ ุญูููู ููุฃูุบูููุธู ููููุ ููููู
ูู ุจููู ุฃูุตูุญูุงุจู ุงููููุจูููู ๏ทบุ ููููุงูู ุงููููุจูููู ๏ทบ: ยซุฅูููู ููุตูุงุญูุจู ุงููุญูููู ู
ูููุงููุงยป ุซูู
ูู ููุงูู ููููู
ู: ยซุงุดูุชูุฑููุง ูููู ุณููููุง ููุฃูุนูุทูููู ุฅููููุงููยป. ููููุงูููุง: ุฅููููุง ููุง ููุฌูุฏู ุฅููููุง ุณููููุง ูููู ุฎูููุฑู ู
ููู ุณูููููู. ููุงูู: ยซููุงุดูุชูุฑูููู ููุฃูุนูุทูููู ุฅููููุงููุ ููุฅูููู ู
ููู ุฎูููุฑูููู
ู ู ุฃููู ุฎูููุฑูููู
ู ู ุฃูุญูุณูููููู
ู ููุถูุงุกูยป. ุฑูุงู ุงูุจุฎุงุฑู ูู
ุณูู
The Prophet ๏ทบ said, โThe person who has a right is entitled to speak.โ He then instructed the Companions to fulfil the manโs right. When they found something better than what was originally owed, he told them to give him the better one, saying:
โThe best among you are those who are best in fulfilling what they owe.โ
The manโs behaviour was rude, but his right remained his right.
The lesson: Never allow someone elseโs bad character to destroy your own character.
What Do These Responses Teach Us?
These five incidents reveal the Prophetic mindset.
When someone misunderstood him, he responded with wisdom.
When someone made a mistake, he corrected him without humiliation.
When someone physically hurt him, he controlled his anger.
When someone insulted him, he responded with dignity and gentleness.
When someone was rude while demanding his right, he remained completely just.
This is the character of Muhammad ๏ทบ.
The real test of character is not how we behave when everything is easy. It is how we behave when we are hurt, challenged, insulted or misunderstood.
When your child disobeys you what comes out?
When your spouse disagrees with you what comes out?
When someone criticises you what comes out?
When somebody treats you unfairly what comes out?
That is where the Sunnah becomes real.
We do not always have to react immediately.
Pause. Remember Allah. Choose your response.
Allah ุณุจุญุงูู ูุชุนุงูู gave us the Messenger of Allah ๏ทบ as:
ุฃูุณูููุฉู ุญูุณูููุฉู
So the question is not simply, โDo I love Muhammad ๏ทบ?โ
The deeper question is:
โCan people see something of the character of Muhammad ๏ทบ in the way I behave?โ
Can they see his patience?
His mercy?
His fairness?
His wisdom?
His gentleness?
His self-control?
Loving the Prophet ๏ทบ should not remain only on our tongues. His Sunnah should be visible in our homes, our relationships, our speech and, above all, in the way we respond when we are tested.
May Allah ุณุจุญุงูู ูุชุนุงูู make the Messenger of Allah ๏ทบ our true ุฃูุณูููุฉู ุญูุณูููุฉู, purify our character, control our anger, soften our hearts and enable us to respond in every situation in a way that pleases Him. Ameen.