04/09/2022
« Hey girl, just wanted to check in and remind you that you have a huge f*ing heart that loves so f*ing deeply. This is precious.”
While nearly every day I’d see a post about trauma bonds and how much therapy we need because we are in relationships where we can’t speak openly, where our needs are not being met etc etc… I just want to send out a little message out there to you beautiful empaths and sensitives, starseeds weirdos and nonweirdos alike- don’t forget that we are also supposed to love everyone no matter what (they post about that daily, too). Don’t throw the bloody baby with the bath water! Keep the good stuff! And if your good stuff is top grade, I promise you- it could shift even mountains!
And while it’s great to be able to bring your troubles to the table in a relationship, it would also be great if we didn’t reach out to one another for company to just sit and brew in our traumas . Yes it can go that way, too. That’s why things like AA are often for life.
Today I grieve [again] over a person who has not been there to « meet my needs »(although it took me a while to realise a lot of those needs were my own s**t to address - again something to think about - are we « not having our needs met » or are we dragging in the needs that come form shadowy places? ), I grieve over a person who has not been able to meet me in a place of open communication- all that stuff, all that terrible broken relationship stuff…
I have heard «You deserve better» countless times from caring people [who had no access to my feelings but saw the surface of what went on].
But are we moving away from the narrow-minded you-deserve-better-cult and starting to ask what it is you love so dearly? What does your heart speak? When is it that we sit just to listen?
The person who «wasn’t meeting my needs» and ran from communication did the best he could do, the «little» that he gave me was a huge amount for him. He loved me best he could, best he knew. He left me many times, or many times he came back for me?
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