11/10/2026
It’s National Coming Out Day, and while I never officially came out, I also feel like I come out every day.
My family found out that I’m gay when I was in a coma, so I wasn’t there for any of the conversations. I’m really lucky that they have been fully accepting of me and Dan. But not everyone is so lucky!
I find that, in the strangest moments, I have to come out all over again. In hotels at check-in, here on social media, when Dan gets called my “friend” at events, in restaurants, or even in shops when someone makes a passing comment like, “Your wife will love this,” while I’m buying something with my husband.
So I make a point of wearing my pride. Whether it’s holding hands with Dan in the street, expressing myself through my outfits, being visible, or being a slightly more amplified version of myself to show that I’m gay and happy.
It’s not just about being flamboyant for me. It’s about showing that I am so comfortable in my own skin that I don’t feel I have to be “masculine” to make you feel comfortable. I am as “masculine” or “feminine” as I wish to be.
It’s taken many years to shed my gay shame. Like the scars of life, it’s all still there, but when you surround yourself with wonderful, accepting people, you can really flourish. And hopefully help others flourish too.
So, Happy National Coming Out Day to everyone. Find your people, and hopefully the future holds love, happiness and acceptance for you. ❤️🏳️🌈
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