24/08/2026
I spend a slightly ridiculous amount of my working life thinking about intimacy, desire and kink.
I draw it. I write about it. I create stories around it.
So you might think that making space for that part of myself in my actual life would just happen naturally.
It doesn’t. 😅
When my head is full of work, deadlines, everyday responsibilities and all the tiny things that somehow need doing, s*x can quietly move further and further down the list… even when the desire for my partner is absolutely there.
And that’s something I’ve had to understand:
Desire needs space. 😌
Not in a “we need to have s*x tonight because we haven’t done it enough” kind of way. I never want intimacy to become another task on a to-do list.
I mean creating enough mental and emotional room for that part of myself to actually show up.
Sometimes that means consciously stopping work. Putting everything else aside for a while. Making time for closeness without already knowing where it has to lead.
I think I used to believe that when attraction is there, desire should somehow just take care of itself.
Adult life has taught me otherwise.
And consciously making space for intimacy doesn’t make it less spontaneous or less genuine.
Sometimes it’s exactly what allows the spontaneity to come back.
Share with us in the comments: Does desire easily find its way into your everyday life or do you have to make room for it too?