03/09/2026
If your toddler is still having a midday sleep but then fighting you tooth and nail at 7pm, only to actually fall asleep at 8:30 or even 9pm… you’re not doing anything wrong. Your toddy just isn’t tired enough for a 7pm bedtime yet.
Here’s what I want you to do this week:
Track the actual time your toddy falls asleep each night for 7 days (not when you put them down — when they actually drift off). That real time is your sweet spot. That’s when your body clock is telling you they’re ready.
Then you’ve got two choices:
🌙 Keep the midday nap → shift bedtime later to match when they’re genuinely tired. Less protesting, less “destruction o’clock” before bed, more peaceful settling.
☀️ Want that earlier 7pm bedtime back? → it might be time to review the midday nap. Dropping it (or shortening it) means more awake time built up across the day, so they’ve got the sleep pressure to go down easily at 7.
Either way works — it’s about mat