Sin Bandera Poetry

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What does healing look like? For me, it's the realization that one of my triggers no longer upsets me. Happy couples and...
07/21/2026

What does healing look like? For me, it's the realization that one of my triggers no longer upsets me.

Happy couples and elderly couples used to set me into a tailspin. It wasn't uncommon for me to well up with emotion and struggle to not cry.

Yesterday, I saw an 80 year old couple. He was helping her up and walking her safely to where she needed to be. She said they had been married 57 years. They got married after his first semester of med school, and their parents thought they were crazy.

I looked at my (work) partner and we both grinned, imagining us with our respective wives over a half century in the future.

It's reassuring to see growth and healing.

It has never ceased to amaze me that life keeps moving forward. Now, I know the obvious response is an eye roll and a sn...
03/08/2026

It has never ceased to amaze me that life keeps moving forward.

Now, I know the obvious response is an eye roll and a snarky, "well, duh!" But hear me out.

I lost my husband in 2021. My world, for all intents and purposes, stopped that day. My kids will forever be 24, 20, and 17. My nephews will forever be the young men trying to finish school and find their way in life. My friends' kids will forever be tiny humans.

Come to find out, the world actually kept turning. My boys are (almost) 29, 25, and 22. My nephews are grown, working dispatch, starting families, living their lives. One kiddo is now 10, another almost 5, one os 2, another a senior in high school.

Life goes on.

And no matter how hard I tried to fight it, mine did too, and I'm glad it did. I'm now in the most secure, stable, and healthy relationship I've ever been in. I'm happy. Adopting a kid of our own. Have 2 spoiled dogs.

Life still has its challenges, and there are days I still miss my husband. I still love him. But I wouldn't trade my wife for the world. She has been my rock through everything, my confidante, and my absolute best friend.

I guess the message is simple: life goes on.

02/10/2026

Finding the right partner is one of the most liberating feelings you will ever experience; at least in my humble opinion. In years past, I would get in trouble for having sneezing fits, for sniffling, for being generally unwell, because, you know, I should be taking medications to cure all these issues (nevermind the fact medications don't always work for me).

My current partner hasn't gotten upset with me once. I have had a sinus infection for over 13 weeks - yeah - over 3 MONTHS. And I still have 6 weeks before I can have surgery to correct these issues.

But I haven't heard one time that I should just go take medicine. Not a single agitated huff. Instead, I'm asked if I'm alright after a 10-sneeze marathon. I'm asked if I need ibuprofen or tylenol when my head is throbbing due to sinus pressure. If I am struggling badly, I'm brought medication, water, and even kleenex to bed so I don't have to get up.

This is a feeling I've never had before. I don't always have to be the strong one. I don't have to hide my pain and act like I'm not ready to sob because it hurts so badly.

In turn, I do what I've always done, and take care of my partner, too. But just knowing I'm not going to be given the cold shoulder, or talked to like I'm sick on purpose is amazing. What a blessing.

The year slowly draws to a close, which means it's time for reflection. This year has had many ups and downs. I married ...
12/28/2025

The year slowly draws to a close, which means it's time for reflection.

This year has had many ups and downs. I married the love of my life, and we are working on adopting a little boy, we spent time with family and friends, lost loved ones.

But it seems the thing that stays constant is love.

No matter the challenge, we stand stronger together. We may not understand what the other is feeling all the time, and we may not be able to make the situation better, but we stand side by side.

It really is the little things that matter. And so I urge you, friend, to try something new. No matter how long you and your partner have been together, chase them. Chase them like you're trying to win them and see what happens. Do something in their love language. Surprise them with flowers, or a note. Make their favorite meal or treat. It's too easy to fall into routine and take our partner for granted.

But most of all, take care of yourself. Don't forget that you're important too. Do something nice for yourself, even if it's as simple as a candlelit bath, or indulging on YOUR favorite treat. You need to be loved as much as those around you. Trust me.

Some days, I wish people could see you as I do. The soft you. The gentle you. The you that has been taught to hide.I wis...
12/07/2025

Some days, I wish people could see you as I do. The soft you. The gentle you. The you that has been taught to hide.

I wish they could see the way you soften and light up when I say, "you're beautiful." The way you nestle into my chest as you fall asleep, free from the chaos of the day. The way the light caresses you just so, and you look positively divine.

But then, I wonder what would happen. I know what the world does to beautiful things. I wouldn't want to that for you.

So instead, I sit here watching you sleep, watching the peace and serenity on your face, and I smile. This moment was made for me.

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