06/16/2026
Learning the Art of “Absolute Authentic Self” to help you develop a different approach on how to find “acceptance and peace” while you are experiencing grief and death of your loved one.
I am an experienced addiction and grief counselor, life coach (retired).
I retired in April 2013 while working as a Case Manager at Providence Hospital in Washington, DC. when my husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
I was blessed with 37 years of marriage to a wonderful man and together, we raised one son… a son that I birthed as a high school teenager. The following deaths is where my “grief knot” begin, grew and spiraled my descent into that black tunnel of death, dying and unimaginable grief:
Baby Brother (28) Murdered by Police🕊️
April 19, 1980
Husband (64) Terminal cancer
Died December 14, 2014🕊️
Oldest Brother (69) Natural death
Died December 23, 2014🕊️
Son’s Wife (52) Heart attack 🕊️
September 25, 2016
Son (52; only child)🕊️
Died as prisoner (??) of Jessup, MD
September 27, 2016
Grandson (32) Murdered🕊️
October 21, 2022
Baby Sister (66) Died (SE DC??)
February 19, 2023
Grandson (35) Died (Electrocuted)
December 5, 2023
I am an experienced mental health and addiction counselor that have had the benefits of therapy. However, today, I realize that many of you simply cannot afford a private therapist or simply don’t have proper medical coverage in this current economy.
🕊️Below is my “Introduction Page🕊️
🌹The Path to My
Absolute Authentic Self🌹
Over many years of tragic family deaths, I learned to appreciate and respect what I call universal laws—truths that feel deeply spiritual yet never confined to religion. Loss did not teach me that lesson all at once. It taught me slowly, painfully, and repeatedly. Each death left its own mark, and with every experience I was forced to confront questions that had no easy answers. Why do we suffer? How do we keep living after unbearable loss? How do we accept death when it touches the people we love most? For a long time, I searched for understanding outside of myself. Eventually, I realized that acceptance was not something another person, belief system, or institution could hand to me. It was something I had to cultivate from within.
I wanted to develop a higher sense of acceptance about death because I knew I could not survive the weight of grief by resisting life as it was. I was an educated woman, thoughtful and observant, and over the course of my life I had encountered many different religions. I listened, learned, questioned, and tried to belong to ideas that promised peace. Yet none of them gave me the kind of acceptance I was seeking—the kind that allows a person to stand in the truth of loss without collapsing under it. I was not looking for rules, rituals, or borrowed certainty. I was looking for a way to live on life’s terms, without bitterness, denial, or the need to explain away pain. What I needed was not doctrine, but transformation.
That transformation required honesty. I had to become willing to relearn my habits and examine the personal characteristics shaped by childhood. Over time, I came to understand that many of our automatic responses to pain are learned early, long before we have the wisdom to question them. Childhood is often where the first knot is tied: the place where fear, silence, people-pleasing, control, or emotional survival patterns begin to form. As an adult, I saw that grief was not only touching the present; it was also pulling on every unresolved thread from the past. If I wanted true acceptance, I had to do more than mourn the people I had lost. I had to untangle the deeper patterns within myself that kept me from being fully present with life.
What emerged from that inner work was what I now call my absolute authentic self, or AAS. To me, that means living without hiding behind inherited beliefs, fear-based habits, or the expectations of others. It means standing in truth, even when truth is painful. It means accepting that death is part of life, and that love does not end simply because a physical presence does. My acceptance did not come from becoming detached or emotionless. It came from becoming more real, more grounded, and more willing to trust life even when I did not understand it. I learned that acceptance is not surrender in the hopeless sense; it is surrender in the spiritual sense. It is the quiet strength to stop fighting reality and instead meet it with dignity, awareness, and grace.
Today, when I reflect on the tragedies my family has endured, I do not see only pain. I also see the difficult and sacred path that led me back to myself. I see a woman who was broken open by grief, but not destroyed by it. I see someone who kept searching until she found a deeper truth—one not rooted in religion, but in spiritual awareness, self-examination, and personal awakening. My journey taught me that acceptance is not something we arrive at once and keep forever. It is a practice, a conscious returning, and a commitment to live honestly in the face of both love and loss. Through that practice, I found peace not because death became easier, but because I became truer to who I really am.
Note to Self Voni (Grief): June 2026.
I am offering you a FREE 30-minute telephone consultation after you “message me of your interest to proceed” also, please feel free to ask your questions after you have thoroughly read the enclosed information provided.
If you decide to proceed with learning more about “AAS” the maximum donation of $50 is recommended to pay for administrative and operational costs. I utilize and clients on a business Zoom platform that will be provided.
