08/30/2026
This was originally posted by one of the people I referenced earlier this week who experienced serious lateral violence as this person attended cultural activities on the reservation.
This person learned, very quickly, that the whole 'sister, cousin, brother' moniker often used in Indigenous communities has become one of those cultural behaviors that becomes so normalized, very few people stop to consider what those words *should* mean. Instead they have stopped being used with the follow up responsibility of treating one another with the intention that is supposed to come with those words. Of course, when so much attention is placed on blood ties- a colonized concept in our tradition- rather than Gadugi, people think they can get away with things because the 'blood' will outweigh the bullying, gatekeeping, poor choices, theft, greed, and anything else that typically would never be accepted.
This person also learned the value of true community and family by reaching out to those this person trusted, something I take very seriously, so this person could meet those who truly walk with intention and kindness.
Cherokee National Holiday is coming up.
People from all over will be visiting.
Our behavior matters.
Our words matter.
If you have dark thoughts, remove yourself from others.
Work on yourself.
Do not enter the figurative and literal circles of Holiday if you cannot be kind.
The whole point of this holiday is celebrating community, not being a gatekeeper on behalf of people who never asked for your pain.
If your hurt is hurting others, reach out for help.
Don't spread it further.