10/08/2026
Galatians 6:2 says, āCarry each otherās burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.ā
October is the month dedicated to remembering families who have suffered infant loss, stillbirth, miscarriage, and ectopic pregnancy.
Although this month holds space for us in a public way, the remembering we do is daily.
The triggers are frequent.
The reality is constant.
For some, when you hear stories of people whose children have passed, you think about how devastating that would be, and then you move on, naturally. Thatās not a jab at anyone. Itās simply not their life. And they are extremely thankful for that.
But there is no simply āmoving onā for mommies with empty arms.
They donāt forget.
They may heal. They may learn to carry it differently. They may laugh and love and live beautiful lives again.
But they will never forget.
They are still in that room, and in some ways, they will be 10 years from now.
That room is built deep within their heart, never to be removed.
And although we donāt know the āreasonā every time, it is certainly not because āGod needed them more,ā or because āeverything happens for a reason.ā
Sometimes, we simply donāt have an answer.
But what we do know is that you can check in with your friend who āwasnāt as fun to be around anymoreā after suffering the loss of her child.
You can show grace to your friend who couldnāt make it to your baby shower, even though you went to hers.
You can ask about their baby.
What was their name?
What was their nursery theme going to be?
You can educate yourself about why, regardless of how long they had to love and hope for their babyās arrival, it still hurts that they lost their baby.
You can remember their babies birthday. Set a yearly reminder on your phone even. You have no idea how much that matters. Be sure on that day to reach out, maybe grab them a snack, a little keepsake for their babies shelf or memory box, a card. You can do this. Itās not weird, I promise.
You can show up with a coffee and sit in the funk with them.
You can put them first and support them in their reality, without absorbing it and making it your own or something you canāt imagine.
You can thank God that you canāt imagine it, and then find a way to support your friend who was forced to.
I promise you, your friend who carries this pain knows you donāt know what to say.
They just want to know their baby wonāt be forgotten.
Remembering their baby means you will remember them.
And that means the world to any mommy and daddy.
I remember my own every day.
To my loss mommas,
I remember each of your babies.
I know their names.
I remember their faces.
I think of them.
I remember your story.
I remember when you knew something was wrong.
I remember when you didnāt think youād make it another breath without them.
I remember what makes you think of them.
I remember you every day, regardless of the month.
And I also remember that Jesus tells us we will see our babies again.
You are so loved, and you are always in my prayers.
I love each one of you and Iām honored to know your story.
I would encourage you all, in honor of this month, to find a way to be a blessing to someone you know who is grieving their baby, and grieving the person they were before they lost them.
Carry their burden with them.
Remember their baby.
Say their name.
Show up.
You donāt have to understand their grief to love them through it.
Galatians 5:13 says, āYou, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.ā
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