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05/31/2026

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Ex-Girlfriend Tells His New Partner He “Downgraded,” But He Fires Back And Leaves Her In Tears

05/31/2026

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AITA for leaving my half siblings without child care?

05/31/2026

Update: Wow this got a lot more attention than I was expecting. I will give husband update first then talk about the direction of the comments. I spoke to my husband.

He didn't want to deep dive into the 'why' at first . He said it is my choice at the end of the day but he isn't happy. I insisted on understanding why and I asked if it is because I would be exposed.

He said and I quote ' what, why would I care about that, the man changed your diapers'. He was worried about not being the primary person after me making decisions and helping to look after me if my dad is there. I explained the dynamic and that the role other family members play is to make sure we have back up if needed and that when the baby comes we have people we trust with me / baby.

We are good now but are talking about how to improve communication for gut reactions. Comments I will say that from the comments this might be a family dynamic thing. I hadn't really thought about being exposed in front of my dad because I can't imagine my dad ever sexualising me.

It just isn't something that he would or could ever do so it's not on my radar like that. I know everyone's family is different and some families have stricter gender roles for what is and isn't ok but I think that's just a family by family choice. Also when I think of family members in the room they are in a support role on the north end of business regardless of gender I don't think any family member is going to be deliberately looking down there.

Thank you everyone for your comments. I know some people thought I was weird but I appreciate those comments too as they helped broaden my thoughts on what the problem could be. Also thanks to everyone who reminded me that it is my choice.

TL;DR my 31F husband 31M does not want my father in the delivery room because he does not want another man in the room. He has acknowledged that he does not understand the reaction himself but it sure it is wrong for another man to be in the room. I can not think of another reason other than territorial nonsense.

I 30F have been married to my husband 31M for a year but we dated for 9 years before getting married. The conversation we had kinda raised a red flag for me but I also know there is some trauma around this topic for me so want some outside perspective. We have started to talk about having kids.

I was talking about how funny it would be seeing how my mum reacts during delivery compared to my dad. My husband without missing a beat said ' I will not have another man in the delivery room '. This is super weird because he has never said anything that weird and territorial.

We laugh at the 'alpha male ' guys in videos together. He has acknowledged that he does not know why he reacted like that but still really doesn't want my dad there. This is important to me because my family has a bad baby delivery history, normally to do with bad midwives.

My mother almost died giving birth to me because the midwife pulled the placenta out causing internal bleeding as she also didn't check it was complete. My sister had a lot of issues also caused by her midwife. My sister is one of the strongest people I know with a very high pain tolerance, I will never forget how she sounded when she called our mum....

My cousin is an only child because my aunt also had issues caused by a midwife. This has me concerned for my own future births. I want my husband as my birth partner but want at least 1 other family member in at a time to advocate as needed.

I understand that my family dynamic is a bit different we don't really do traditional gender roles. My dad was closer to home than my mum growing up. He cooked special meals using cast iron pans when the women in our family were on that time of the month and made sure our hot water bottles got swapped out before they got cold.

Magically made our favourite snacks appear etc... Is it weird that I want my father included in my delivery room support team? Any ideas what could be triggering my husband or perspective I may be missing from someone who gets his point?

05/30/2026

I'm very pi**ed off over this, so maybe it is more of a misstep than I originally thought. My son got married eight months ago, to a woman we've never liked. They had a surprise wedding, meaning none of us knew we were going to a wedding and we were told it was just a cocktail party. My wife wore white, now that I think of it my wife wears a lot of white and that makes DIL even more of a du***ss for never warning us.

Well for eight months she has been trying to spin it to make my wife look like some crazed MIL who showed up in a wedding dress. She had a wedding picture on social media and when someone commented who wore white, she wrote back "that's my mother in law, she doesn't like me" and a laughing emoji. My wife called her out on it and she played the victim and whined about my wife trying to upstage her. She has made a couple snide comments, and told people who weren't at the wedding that it was intentional.

My son knew how much this was pi***ng me off, and pulled me aside. He said that she is insecure because when she showed the wedding pictures to her best friend, who couldn't make it, the friend immediately commented that my wife is gorgeous. I guess her mom said something too. My wife used to model and not to be an ass, but she draws your eye much more than DIL. He said that she is insecure, and she has always felt insecure around my wife. Also we are hispanic and she is white, and I guess her own mom was telling her she should tan and she was going to look pasty compared to everyone.

I don't really care. I have a 15 year old daughter, so i certainly get that woman struggle with body issues, but you don't get to take that out on someone else and spread lies. She made another comment recently, about the picture being proof that she is the innocent one in the relationship, and I snapped at her that I am sick of hearing about the white dress, and that maybe if she put more effort into her own appearance she would have been a beautiful bride and people wouldn't be looking at her MIL. She stormed off and my son is mad. He actually said his mom has great self esteem (she doesn't) so we should take the high road.

05/30/2026

At our last company meeting they announced there would be a step competition. Participation was voluntary, if the average number of steps is greater than or equal to a 5K per day all participants get a Friday half day. The person with the most steps overall wins an Apple Watch.

We would log our steps during work days only for 20 days. Ive been in a funk lately and was glad for an excuse to get back into my fitness routine. I love running and asked if steps from running could be counted.

Matt, who volunteered to manage the competition said it did. My goal was 20,000 steps a day thinking this would easily put me in the lead but on day 1 this guy Dave posted 23,000. I sent him a message on teams, saying something along the lines of 'it's on!' The next day I put up 24,000.

He answers back with 25,000. Another coworker Jenna also joined in. The 3 of us started having daily chats about our workouts By week 2 it's looking certain 1 of us will win and the whole group is absolutely getting a half day off work Then I checked the log and out of no where, Tiffany, who'd been posting 10-15,000 per day, posts 65,000 steps For perspective, a

marathon I ran resulted in 52,000. So I'm skeptical but also, maybe Tiffany ran a casual ultra marathon on a workday? Who knows.

I sent her a teams message 'That's a lot of steps, what's your secret?' She said she plays volleyball and wanted to count the steps from her games but can't safely keep her phone or watch on her to keep count. To solve this problem, Matt looked up a chart online that gives a step equivalent for other activities Ex: volleyball = 89 steps per minute Tennis = 133 spm Etc Fair enough but the math still ain't mathin so I said 'wow, you must have played for like 8 hours!' Her reply 'well i also road my bike' Now this is where I call b__lsh*t so I clarified 'you counted riding your bike?' Turns out she didn't just use the chart for volleyball, she used it to count everything she did and convert it into steps Bike riding, stretching, yoga, washing the dishes.

All great but those are not STEPS. This seemed pretty lame to me and I just said 'I don't think that's really in the spirit of this competition' And immediately went to Matt to ask about this chart. Specifically if bike riding counted towards steps.

He said bike riding didn't count, it was too different and also unfair since not every employee has access to a bike. I thanked him for clarifying and told him that Tiffany may also need some clarification Not 2 minutes later I get this message from Tiffany 'Really, you complained about me? That's actually not in the spirit of the competition.

I lost a pet recently and have been so depressed. I've been struggling to lose weight and I was so proud of my steps from yesterday! Not everyone can be a marathon runner like you, really uncool' I knew I was being a little cheeky going to Matt but Tiffany's message really took me by surprise.

Am I the ass hole?

05/30/2026

TLDR - Wife is lashing out at the kids when she is tired, i want to help

My wife has always been grumpy when she is tired, but its increased a lot of late and she's started lashing out at the kids.

We've been married 5 years, together for 8, we have a 4 and a 2 year old. I work full time, she works 3 days. She has one child on one of the days she isn't working. When the kids were babies we had much less sleep then we get now, but it wasn't an issue then.

We put one kid to bed each night, and usually rotate. the eldest sleeps in his room, the youngest in bed with us. I'm the one who gets up in the night if the eldest wakes, which he does fairly frequently. The youngest who sleeps in our bed wakes less often, when he wakes it's usually a pat while still laying down to help him bakc to sleep.

She's great mother all the rest of the time, but the past month her mood when tired has extended to the whole day, and its leading her to treat our children inappropriately. Yesterday she screamed at our 4 year old for not getting ready to go to kinder, which lead to him becoming an emotional mess for which i had to hold him and help him calm down (my son likely has ADHD or a mild case of autism and can be a handful, but not unreasonably so for a 4 year old), when it happened i intercepted and helped calm him down, but the same thing happened right as she was about to drop him off and he ended up so worked up she actually couldn't drop him off. That night when she was reading books he was having a tantrum because he wanted a different book mid book and she ended up pushing him off the bed and yelling at him, when i came in he seemed to hyperventilating from the incident and i had to tell her to go away while i calmed him again. She broke down crying upset from seeing her behaviour, but again tonight i heard her snapping with a snarl at our four year old while i was putting the two year old to sleep.

I spoke to her about it today, trying to be objective and jsut say that behaviour isn't fair for the kids, she agrees. That said i've found in similar situations with other issues her agreeing she needs to change something doesn't actually lead to her changing anything. she just seems to get stuck

I need to work out how i can help her fix this, because its going to have a lasting negitive impact on our children if this continues to happen. I'm caught up in anger myself but i know this isn't useful so i'm trying just to be constructive about how i can help her and make sure everyone in my house has a positive experience.

The chores are fairly split - many things are 50/50, i do 100% of the dishes, she does 100% of the laundy, she cooks a bit more than me. I deal with 100% of house and financial admin. She has an hour of spare time most nights, i end up with two, but thats because i'm trading sleep for more alone time. I know we're in the thick of it with young kids and I've made a point to literally never say no to giving her a night off to go have fun and actively push her to make plans with friends. She went camping with a friend recently, she's going out for dinner with friends tomorrow. Last year she went on an overseas holiday while i looked after both kids for 9 days.

I just don't know what i'm meant to do to help her? She's getting 10-11 hours in bed, i'm minimising the interuptions to her sleep, she isn't drowning in chores, she's able to spend social time away from the kids. What else are you meant to do to help someone have better control of their emotions when they are tired?

05/29/2026

Hello. So in every holiday celebration (Christmas in this case) I make a list of the people I'm buying gifts for and what type of gifts I'm buying. I struggled with mistreatment in my previous job but got fortunate enough to now be working in a very friendly envirnment with amazing co workers and an amazing boss.

My boss has stood by my side in many many instances and I decided to include him in my gift list. I got a tie which was within average price nothing fancy, still keeping it professional and he liked it so much. The issue started when my husband recieved the christmas gift I bought him which was a pair of sunglasses that I thought he liked.

He didn't say he didn't like it but he has a bit of a passive attitude and he doesn't say his honest opinions. Monday (yesterday) he showed up to my workplace and told my boss to trade the gift I gave him with his, my husband clearly found out what I got for my boss by looking at my list. My boss notified me while I was out and I couldn't believe it.

I went home and just blew up at him for going to my workplace and bullying my boss into trading gifts with him. He said it was between him and my boss and I should stay out of it and not be sych an over-reactor. I told him I've always maintained a good and professional relationship with my boss and what he did damaged that professional relationship.

He doesn't know my boss at all nor met him personally to be this comfortable with him. He said that my boss is 'human' and I should stop walking on eggshels just to keep my job but it's not like that at all. That is just not my point.

We had a huge argument over that and he said that unlike us women, 'them' men don't see it as big issue and are a lot more chill than us when it comes to 'etiquette' and that kind of stuff us women obssess over though my boss was obviousy weirded out and upset and it WAS a big deal since he wants to speak to me asap. My husband also said it's basically my fault he didn't like the original gift I bought for him so that's on me.

We're both mad and have basically been arguing with each other eversince.

05/29/2026

I (25f) and my cousin (25f) have been very close. Adding to that we look VERY MUCH alike, which is very obvious since most of our family has brown/red hair, while we both are blonde. Me and my cousin got married at roughly the same time, both of our husbands are very close friends to each other (29 and 27).

In her pregnancy we found out that we are both rh-. After some time I found out that my uncle is rh+. Which means the he cannot be the father. I told my parents who then told me that, she is actually my twin sister and that she was given to my uncle and aunt who raised her as their own since my aunt is infertile (or thought to be) after an accident. (It is fairly common in our culture to give a child to an infertile sibling)

I was very conflicted after finding this out and told my husband who then supposedly accidentally told my cousins husband.

Well, last week after her doing some research on the rhesus factor ( her husband is rh+) she also found out that her parents can’t be her parents. She came to me crying and I told her everything. Shocked at everyone knowing but her and hurt by the betrayal of her husband; She asked her husband for a divorce and has ceased any contact with me. I don’t know why I told her, I even had to promise my parents and my aunt and uncle to never tell her. (Who also won’t talk to me). Everyone is blaming me and my brother in law is absolutely devastated. So AITA?

Edit:

Neither of our birthdays are real ( i was "born" in May, she was in June), we both knew that, since we use another calendar in our country, so we literally just celebrated some random day. Apparently we were both born on May 3rd.

Also it could be about blood type for my cousin, i "found out" through the rh stuff (which was a big topic in my family for some time). She just randomly one day came to me telling me her father cann not be her father, i just assumed it was because of her looking about the rh thing because she talked a lot about it. I also think her husband was leading her into the direction of her finding out, since he must have known how rh things work (he is a doctor).

My parents also obviously did not want to give away her child but my aunt really begged for a child ( she was in treatment and threatened su***de), at first my aunt was just watching us. Eventually she became very attached to us and asked my mother to "keep one to watch", my aunt loved us both but i always cried when my mom wasnt close my cousin/sister didn't so she eventually just had her. My mom was upset but my cousin really didn't leave home, we lived in the same house back then and now coming to the West we don't. It wasn't her taking a child it was a sneaking process.

Also my cousin-sister is staying at my brothers house with his wife and kids, he lives kind of far away and my brothers wife and my cousin have been very close. She has not contacted anyone but her husband seems better, i guess they are talking secretly. My cousin is also pregnant with twins ( they run in the family).

I dont know how she is feeling, since after our conversation she excused herself to the bathroom and just left. She messaged me today saying, she still loves me but she cannot talk to anyone esp. our and her parents. My parents and her parents refuse to talk to me, i feel very s__tty about all of this especially since it was really really bad timing.

Update:

my cousins/sister just told me a lot more people knew than we thought (my grandparents, my parents uncles/aunts etc.) it was an open secret, she also thought i must have known for longer, i did not but she does not believe me

Edit 2 : a lot of people have asked me where i am from. I am from Afghanistan (Pashtun) . It is common there and also very common in other places, i do not know why people are so suprised by that practice. It is not an everyday thing not even in Afghanistan but definetly NOT unheard of.

Its also not just common in Afghanistan i have friends from Turkey and even from Bosnia who have had something similiar happening in their family. I am VERY suprised how some are in total disbelieve about it. I know it is a weird situation but really not that rare.

Update 2: My cousin and her husband are working things out and my parents are talking to me again. My cousin also is talking to me again, she is in a way happy we are siblings. My parents are talking to me again and apologized to the both of us. My aunt is not well at all, so we are going to her house today (my cousin and I). My cousin is very obviously still hurt but nowadays very curious (this all happened over the course of 2 Months),

05/29/2026

This is about my brother 'Carlos,' his former girlfriend 'Gia,' and our current mutual friend 'Alex.' Alex and Gia have been friends for most of their lives. We all ran in the same circles during HS, which is how I became close friends with Alex, and Carlos and Gia started dating. We're all in our mid/late 20s now.

Carlos and Gia broke up because of arguments over marriage, work decisions, etc. It was basically just a case of a couple whose life plans weren't aligned anymore. This year for Xmas, Carlos requested that Gia not be invited because he's gotten a new partner and feels it's a bad precedent for the ex to be there.

It wasn't my business to say anything since my parents are the hosts for Xmas this year and were fine with it. I practically forgot about it until Alex got involved. Alex said I need to either convince Carlos to re-invite Gia or get my parents to veto Carlos's request.

She said Gia's family isn't great and ours was the best family Gia's known, so it isn't right to suddenly push her out. Alex said things like how I was choosing Carlos over Gia and family is more than DNA. I told Alex I wouldn't be doing that.

Gia is a nice person but the fact is she's not my family and we only really talked because she was Carlos' girlfriend/Alex's friend. Gia may not get along with certain members but she still has her own family to have Xmas with. Plus, I'm not even the one hosting this year so it's none of my business to say who should/n't be invited.

That was earlier this week and Alex is still upset and giving me one-word answers. I know Alex is defending a friend but I also feel it's not my place to say who can/'t come to Xmas when I'm not hosting it and really am not close with Gia regardless. AITA?

05/29/2026

Today I (31 year old woman) bought a piece of art in for framing to the local framers. I live in a smallish town. I have been a customer of them for years, doing much framing with them.

I paint myself but I also enjoy art especially since the pandemic and like to get pieces framed. I have gotten many items framed with them. I parked in customer parking.

I spent quite a bit of money with them that day- around $100. The woman recognised me and gave me a regular customer discount. It was also not busy at all, with several car spaces open.

Following paying I didn't move my car straight away. I saw on my step counter I needed to get a few more steps in so I walked to the main section of town and grabbed some food before heading back to the car and leaving. I was backing my car out and a man approached my car as I was backing out.

I did not recognise him. He started saying I wasn't allowed to park there. He was quite hostile.

I told him I was a customer, and continued to back out in order to leave. He started trying to get me to stop and try to stop me leaving. This made me uncomfortable.

I told him to get away from me. He was staying 'hold on, hold on'. I told him to 'get the f away from me'.

I exited the premises but could see him in my rear view mirror. I want to be clear there were several parking spaces open. When I got home I called the Framer and told her a hostile man was bothering me outside her store.

She said it was her husband. She said he misinterpreted the situation and thought I was a non customer parked in customer parking. She defended him saying that he wouldn't have approached me rudely and I escalated the situation too quickly, insinuating her husband was targeted by me because he was a white man.

I told her that her husband had not even asked me if I was a customer but immediately started throwing around accusations. I told her I had told him I was a customer but that still did not seem good enough for him and he was trying to stop me leaving before I swore at him. I did think it was likely he had profiled me because my car is not very nice but I did not say this.

I also said I wanted my money back and my art back. When I said this she seemed upset and wanted me to reconsider. I said I was feeling upset about what happened and would think on it.

I ran into my mum in the driveway and asked her to pick up my art and get my money back. She did this quickly and said the woman seemed flustered and a bit surprised and upset. I think she had thought I would go ahead with them but I was upset she had defended him.

AITA?

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