02/26/2022
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It’s going to be a big year for cake.Jacob Moscovitch for The New York Times
The Year of the Wedding
As the Omicron wave subsides, there is a renewed sense of optimism around hosting large events — and 2022 is shaping up to be a huge year for tying the knot.
Nearly 2.5 million weddings are expected to take place in the U.S. this year, according to the Wedding Report, a trade group. It’s the biggest bump in weddings since 1984. But along with this hopeful outlook are a host of knotty challenges that come with holding a large event during a pandemic.
For guidance and advice, I spoke to wedding planners.
How is planning a wedding now different than during previous moments of the pandemic?
“Couples are moving into the spring and summer with more confidence, for sure,” said Melissa Gabriel, the owner of Honey Bee Weddings & Events in New York City. “There’s less worry and anxiety about shutdowns,” she said, and she’s having fewer conversations about Covid protocols.
At this point in the pandemic, couples know what they’re comfortable with and they are implementing their own guidelines, Gabriel added. There’s also less talk about things like dance pods, capacity limits and plans B through D. “The plan Bs that we’re talking about now are more about weather plans as opposed to pandemic plans.”
That said, “the environment is still tough,” said Tzo Ai Ang, the owner of Ang Weddings and Events in New York City. The wedding industry is dealing with labor shortages and supply shortages — from flowers to paper. And a last-minute infection could leave an event without a photographer or an important guest.
What should couples keep in mind?
When hosting a wedding, guests can come in from across the country and the world, where local Covid restrictions can vary. “So for example, here in Chicago, we not only have a mask mandate, we have a vaccination mandate,” said Misse Daniel, the owner of Honey Bee Weddings in Chicago (no relation to Gabriel’s business). “So we have to communicate that to guests who are coming in from different states.”
Weddings often tend to be multigenerational events, and some guests may be more vulnerable than others. “While we are entering a different phase, and Covid feels like less of a concern to a degree, let’s still also think of how we can keep the grandmas and grandpas — and other folks who are not as healthy — safe,” Gabriel said. That could mean vaccination mandates, continuing to mask even when not required, moving things outdoors, or paying attention to ventilation.
Also, don’t expect everyone to attend. Daniel said that while she’s seen invitation acceptance rates rise as cases drop, she’s still seeing rates below the prepandemic norm of 80 percent. All three of the planners also said to be conscious of the budget, because everything tends to be more expensive these days.
What is some of your best advice?
Understand that pandemic weddings can change, and quickly, Daniel said. “I had a wedding last year where we found out on Thursday night that dancing was allowed again, and the couple could have a dance floor on Saturday,” she said. At the same time, an exposure in one family “could mean you lose a half dozen guests overnight.”
Ang’s advice was to hire people you trust. Designers, caterers and venues are managing sourcing and labor issues, and if you try to micromanage everything, you may get a less desirable result, she said. “But if you work with someone whose work you really love and who you really trust to execute the overall vision — and you can be flexible about that — you’ll end up with a better result in the end.”
For Gabriel, her advice was to savor the moment. “My best advice would be to celebrate,” she said. “I think that Covid has taught us that life is brief. And I think people are getting back to the basics of what matters most. It’s that love. It’s about getting our closest friends and loved ones together.”
Celebrating, safely.Lanna Apisukh for The New York Times
Your pandemic wedding advice
We asked readers who are planning — or who held — big pandemic weddings and events for advice. Thanks to all of you who wrote in.
“While planning, our goal was to try to make the family and friends who were most concerned about Covid comfortable and then work backward from there. Our website asks everyone to be vaccinated, boosted and to take a rapid test before attending. I am an epidemiologist by trade and used my knowledge to help answer guest’s questions and to make sure our wedding website was up-to-date with the latest recommendations. Emotionally it was challenging to put in all the effort to plan a wedding that may never happen. I kept sane by not letting the uncertainty change my goal to marry my partner this year.” — Chelsea Solmo, Washington, D.C.
“Read the contract! Venues have added a lot of language related to cancellation and Covid, so be sure to know what your liability is if the event needs to to be canceled.” — Christine C., Massachusetts
“You are going to be surprised by at least one person you never imagined wouldn’t be vaccinated. They may be much closer to you than you think.” — Sharon P., Brooklyn, N.Y.
“Do your last-minute checklist a month or two before the wedding. Shipping costs crushed our budget when we were ordering everything we forgot, to be delivered within days of the wedding. Depending on your wedding ring maker, you might also find the lead times months out.” — Ryan L., Philadelphia
“Don’t be afraid to take stock of who’s still important to you, and who is no longer a priority. Friends you haven’t spoken to in two years? Relatives who refuse to get vaccinated? Time to gently let them go from the guest list.” — Aquene Kimmel, Cleveland, Ohio
“Use a quality photographer and videographer to record the wedding to show later that day to your online wedding guests.” — Andres Martinez, Southern California
“Forget hurting feelings — it’s your day. For my best friend’s wedding in October 2021, as maid of honor I was also ‘Covid safety czar.’ It was important to the couple their event wasn’t going to be a super spreader, so they uninvited unvaccinated guests (except for in close in the family) and required all guests to test within three days of the event.” — Peggy, Seattle, Wash.
“The single best advice my wife and I can give is downsize! Make it a smaller, more intimate wedding. It will make your life infinitely easier. Our wedding earlier this month was 30 guests, and even that was a challenge.” — Connor and Aline Graham, Tysons, Va.
“Plan everything outside. Transmission rates are just so much lower. Expect a lot of people may not show up and be gracious about it. No one’s being a jerk — people are scared.” — Morgan Miller, Portland, Ore.
“Just go for it. We’ve had so many fits and starts planning our wedding (thanks to various surges) that it’s worn our excitement a bit thin. My recommendation is to just pick a date, book your venue, and hope for the best.” — Laura, Oregon