The DRAMA QUEEN Club

irreverent with substance - intelligent & cheeky

This is a group for anyone interested in learning acting in all its forms as on-camera, film, acting for directors, theater, audition, social media video blogging, commercials, public speaking, corporate and personal communication.

THIS IS YOUR *COMING OUT* INVITATION

About The Drama Queen Club:

We have a hunch. A theory! We think it's possible to use *drama* with purpose & control. Our theory is that you can create a personal brand for yourself that will enable you to navigate your life deftly, with magnetism and grace.

Research shows that people would literally rather die than speak in public...! So ladies, plotz now, prepare for impact & say a prayer, because the show must go on - like life!

The Drama Queen Club is a place to experience growth on stage and in life as a performer, speaker & professional... A platform that offers the theatrical community and women of all kinds, performers and non-performers alike, the opportunity to collaborate; with content to support, educate and inspire effective communication in all its forms.

No experience is necessary. All that's required is curiosity and courage. This is designed to be an experience that will playfully engage you mentally & emotionally - maybe even spiritually! If that's too *woo-woo* for you, just do you, Boo.

Could you be a Drama Queen? Ask yourself if you can relate to any of these women:

You want to develop presence & charisma

You are often accused of seeking attention or stealing the spotlight

You are shamed for being too much, too loud, too YOU

You are told you’re too emotional, sensitive or overreactive

You stop short from being authentic or vulnerable out of fear of rejection

You struggle to be seen & heard or speak up for yourself

You want to take risks without risking your reputation

You want to access your feminine attributes deliberately

You want to trust your instincts & think fast on your feet

You want to successfully navigate group dynamics

You want to experience direct influence over your life's direction

You want to access deeper conviction & experience greater freedom

You want to refine your personal *brand*

You aspire to inspire

The Drama Queen Club is a positive, eclectic space for you to explore your potential, grow creatively and develop poise. You can count on provocative curated content shared through discussion, scene study, improvisation, innovative games, multi-media presentations & the occasional visiting industry professional.

If you want to be taken seriously, charm effortlessly, or persuade powerfully you'll need to have the ability to be flexible and intuitive, to read people and the *room* you're in, and to engage as the most effective version of you the moment calls for.

Influences & inspiration for the Drama Queen experience include: Classical Archetypes | “The Five Love Languages” | “Intimacy Without Responsibility” | “Dark Side of the Light Chasers” | “The Womanly Art of Pleasure” | Attachment Theory | Assertiveness Training | Myers Briggs | Impression Management | Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) | Accelerated Learning Technology | Old Hollywood | Mad Libs | "Who's Line Is It Anyway?" | and pop culture.

So let me share a bit about my story & why The Drama Queen Club is a passion project for me:

I'm a sensitive artistic personality. I grew up in a Latin family, with a patriarch in show business, so "drama" is kind of in my DNA. I spent my life frustrated by the behavior of my family members who all jockeyed for status within the family, to win approval. I felt like I was trapped in a barrel of crabs - who were all trying to take each other down. The more I would protest, the more I would be punished, ironically with "she doth protest too much."

You could say that my culture is naturally melodramatic... You could say I'm influenced by a family culture rooted in performance... You could say I am the victim of narcissistic abuse... Any time I objected to how I was treated, I was shamed and persecuted as being hyper-emotional, hysterical, and of course, dramatic. I was told children should be seen and not heard. I was constantly invalidated by the people who were supposed to be my support system. You can imagine that my emotional experience at those times was interrupted, cut short and left incomplete. That built up over time like a pressure cooker, and any time I found myself having an emotional reaction of any kind, it was always over the top - because it was an accumulation of incomplete emotional processing. Yes, I wanted attention, but most importantly I wanted to be understood. It's taken me decades to come to a place of self acceptance, with the communication skills and maturity to express myself authentically and patiently.

In time, I have also learned how to access all parts of me, the full emotional spectrum. Tears come easily to me - and not because I'm sad, they represent an overflow of emotion of all kinds. I've stopped judging my tears. I can talk through now. Theater is my first love - I've spent most of my career in the entertainment industry - and I do also love getting attention, receiving praise and respect. I never met a mic I didn't like.

But I've noticed that the label *Drama Queen* is thrown around these days whenever a person has a reaction that other people don't accept. The connotation is that whoever is being a Drama Queen is overreacting, over-dramatizing in a negative sense, as if the person is playing the victim, manipulating others, being an attention-suc, etc. I'm not saying that doesn't happen. I'm guilty of it myself. But the *drama* is in the eye of the beholder - not the responsibility of the person reacting. An emphathetic response would be to look deeper at that person, to see them for who they are and what they need in the moment. The fu**ed up thing is that it's still a subjective claim! You're a Drama Queen according to who? Do their values and biases apply to you too? Not necessarily so.

Being called a Drama Queen has been a way to shame others into conformity too. We expect to see ourselves in other people rather than accepting them for who they are, while they're in their experience. Another thing I've noticed is that people who shy away from *drama* are many times really trying to avoid feeling rejection and shame from others who would judge as they do.

Being a *Drama Queen* is a play on words, a twist to the subtext we hear at the term. It's an opportunity to engage in your life as the author, the playwright, the protagonist. As any performer with depth, you need empathy to access emotions on demand.

The Drama Queen Club is a platform for women to use role play and games to try on characters and ways of being (that may not be socially acceptable in their circles - or even to themselves) without fear of being shamed for it. It's a platform designed to support women in accessing their emotional depth for communication that is more effective, more impactful.

If you could accept compliments better, if you could trust yourself more, if you could assert yourself when you feel insecure, if you could negotiate better, if you could create passion and intimacy intentionally, if you could navigate your family with greater compassion... if you could just get your way more often, wouldn't you try?

This is the place to start. In a fun safe environment with total support. That is the promise of The Drama Queen Club. You might surprise yourself, You might surprise others too! Try not to come to any conclusions just yet. If you notice an adverse reaction... extend the same empathy & compassion to your reaction as you would to any other resistance in your body. That's self love, and you deserve it.

My "WHY"

Every part of our personality that we do not love will regress and become hostile to us... It's time to engage in a quest to fix this glitch: to feel and express more love for parts of our personality we have dismissed or marginalized. That way any self-sabotage we have suffered from in the past can be diminished.

You're welcome. Join the club.