10/31/2024
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The "I Did That" Game
If you're struggling to release the need for others’ approval or craving understanding from someone who may never truly get you—this message is for you.
Recently, I found myself longing for understanding from someone in my life, not fully knowing why. I knew that if I could let this go, my heart would feel lighter, and my soul would shine brighter.
So, I sat in meditation and asked: Why am I seeking this? And how do I release it?
The answers came almost instantly.
The why traces back to my childhood. I wasn’t always seen, heard, or validated in the way I needed. I craved deep understanding from my brothers, who I adore, but as the “baby” of the family, I often felt like I was less than. As I reflected, the dots of my life experiences started to connect. It became clear that my current need for understanding from this person is tied to those old wounds. I felt grateful for this awareness, I then asked how. How can I release this longing?
The answer was clear: Go in.
Go inward and fill the void with you seeing you. Who are you? What have you accomplished? Celebrate that! Become your own champion. See yourself, celebrate your life, and understand that your self-validation is enough.
Immediately, I started playing what I now call the “I Did That” game. (see example here: https://lnkd.in/eQ_-X685
I graduated from NYU with a dance major and education minor—I did that!
I gave birth to two beautiful children—I did that!
I wrote and directed a production with 200 dancers and a full creative team, titled “Voices of Change”—I did that!
I birthed a business by trusting my soul’s guidance—I did that!
I found the courage to leave a 20-year marriage because I believed in myself—I did that!
Now, I invite you to play the “I Did That” game.
Take a moment today and reflect on everything you’ve accomplished. Look inward, and recognize all the incredible things you’ve done, big or small. You don’t need others to validate you—you have the power to see, celebrate, and understand yourself. Your life is filled with moments where you did that! Give yourself the credit you deserve.
You are enough.
PS: I encourage you to write your “I did that” list down so that you can not only feel it, you can see it which will deepen the good feeling inside of you.
Please feel free to respond here with any thoughts... I hope this helps.
Jen
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