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AITA for not caring about my neighbor’s treasured roses?For reference, I live in a zero-lot-line subdivision of single f...
06/11/2026

AITA for not caring about my neighbor’s treasured roses?

For reference, I live in a zero-lot-line subdivision of single family homes in Florida. For those that don’t know, a zero-lot-line home is the same as a regular house except one side of the house is built on the edge of the property line (all the way on the left edge of the lot in my case) and the land next to that wall is your neighbor’s yard. Each owner has a maintenance easement in the bylaws of our HOA giving us access to our neighbor’s property to carry out repairs.

Now on to the story. I found out last week that my house a major termite infestation. Due to the size of the infestation and style of the house (the living and dining room have vaulted/cathedral ceilings), spot treatments would not work. I would have to have the house tented. For those not familiar with the process, all food, plants, and pets have to be removed from the house while the pest control company hangs tarps over the house and pumps it full of poisonous gas that will k__l the termites.

Because of the zero-lot-line, the tarp that covers the side wall would have to be in the neighbor’s yard while the fumigation takes place. Usually this isn’t an issue since the tarp goes right against the house. However my neighbor is extremely upset about this.

My neighbor is obsessed with her yard and she’s constantly out working on it. Ever since her dog died earlier this year, she now treats her roses as her pets and refers to them as her “babies”. When I stopped by her house earlier today to let her know about the tenting, I asked to...

Am I wrong for pretending having a girlfriend around my coworkers?I \[28M\] work in a very female dominated environment....
06/11/2026

Am I wrong for pretending having a girlfriend around my coworkers?

I \[28M\] work in a very female dominated environment. When I broke up with my long-term GF at 25 I noticed that my female working colleagues keep way more distance to me than before. This became especially obvious when I started at a new company with new colleagues I had to get to know.

I assume women do this because 'being kind' sometimes gets interpreted as flirting and they dont risk getting hit on. I am not a flirtatious person at all and to be honest have still zero idea how I got into my first relationship (she initiated it). So this summer I started a temporary position and because I was tired of my colleagues keeping me on distance I planned to pretend I was in a relationship.

(I also just kind of wanted to proof my theory.) The relationship topic came up after a few days at lunch and I just let shimmer through that I was in long-term relationship. The 'vibe' more or less changed immediately. I had a great time during these 4 months and never really regretted my decision.

In my eyes it didnt cause any harm. I also tried to be as vague as possible about my relationship and it was never really topic again. Now 1 month after my contract ended I got a message from one of my ex-coworkers about what a 'manipulating' liar I am and some other things.

Now I am wondering if this was really that morally reprehensible. I never had contact with any of them outside of work (also never planned to) and I still think I didnt cause any serious harm. Edit: My ex-coworker's message was more of...

AITAH for calling the ambulance for my co-worker even though I know she was kind of faking it?I (28M) am working in an E...
06/11/2026

AITAH for calling the ambulance for my co-worker even though I know she was kind of faking it?

I (28M) am working in an English language center in a Southeast Asian country. There's a female co-worker in her 20s here who often touches her head and wobbles like she was about to faint, and she would lie down on the couch, letting people fan her, bring water and food to her. We take midday naps here, so whenever she does this, everyone's lunch and nap time is ruined, especially the ones who keep caring for her.

This would happen at least twice a month, so over the last 5 or 6 months, I've seen a few incidents when we worked the same shift. One time she even asked me to order ice cream for her. (info, it's a big, crowded city, so you can just walk to the ice cream shop nearby to grab one for a dollar).

Didn't pay me back, but that's beside the point. This Monday, she did it again, and this time she asked a girl to order her an iced drink, a sandwich. A group of co-workers fanned her, did the whole caring thing like she's a sick child.

I stood up from my chair, walked towards her, asked if she was OK, then I went to the men's washroom, dialed for an ambulance and went back to my seat. After 20 minutes, we heard the siren, my phone rang again, and I stood up and told her 'servants' to help her to the ambulance. Her face CHANGED, you know, that face, when someone knows they fked up, other girls asked if I called, I said yeah, it seems more severe this time.

It's best for her to go. The ambulance is here already,...

AITA for refusing to cook for my brother unless he pays me or helps?Me (17F) and my brother (21M) still live at home. Ou...
06/10/2026

AITA for refusing to cook for my brother unless he pays me or helps?

Me (17F) and my brother (21M) still live at home. Our mom sometimes works evenings and eats at work, which means that we have to cook, about 3/4 days a week.

This started about three months ago, we agreed I'd cook two/three days and he'd do one. Since that started he hasn't cooked a single meal, it's all been frozen microwaveable stuff. But I'm expected to shop, prep, cook and do the dishes on 'my days'. He doesn't want anything easy (frozen, or brinner) because 'we already eat that a lot'.

I talked to him about it, and he doesn't see any issue with it since he 'provides food', but if I don't like his food I'm free to cook all days! Great..

So I told him no. We can either A) each cook or own meals separately. B) he can help meal prep and do the dishes. Or C) if he doesn't want to help at all but still expects me to cook everything, he can pay me.

He knows how to cook. He's home more often than I am. Our mom pays for ingredients.. he has no reason not to cook at least once a week.

That was last week, since then I cooked a couple of times, none for him. He's very pi**ed. We've been arguing about it for a few days. Our mom just doesn't want us to fight, and while she agrees that I shouldn't have to do all the work, she wants me to just cook because she knows how stubborn he is.

AITA?

I get that only cooking for one isn't nice, but I feel like expecting me to shop, prep,...

Am I wrong for refusing to send the clothes my son wears to my house back to his mother's?My son is 8 and I have 50% cus...
06/10/2026

Am I wrong for refusing to send the clothes my son wears to my house back to his mother's?

My son is 8 and I have 50% custody of him. We are on a 2-3-2 schedule so one week I have him Mon, Tues, Friday, sat, and Sunday, then the next week I have him, Wed and Thurs. I normally pick him up from school even on the days his mom has him and she picks him up from my house on her way home from work.

I drop him off in the morning at his mother's on the school days I have him and she takes him to school on her way to work. We split all his expenses 50/50 except house hold expenses as each one of us is responsible for maintaining our own homes financially. This has been going on for years and it works great for everyone.

We live about 10 minutes from each other and our son gets to spend lots of time with both parents. When ever either one of us needs to change the schedule or wants him on a day he is with the other parent it's never an issue, things are always very fluid. She does have a problem ASKING me if it's okay to change dates because she doesn't want to have to ask me anything so she will just tell me at the last minute that he has a birthday party to go to but I accept my plot in life and don't make a big deal of it because things can be much worse.

His mother is always asking me to return the clothes she bought him back to her and I always tell her I'm not going to do it. I'm not going to continually separate my son's...

AITA for enforcing no public access to the beach on my property I just bought?I’m having an ongoing issue and my grandki...
06/10/2026

AITA for enforcing no public access to the beach on my property I just bought?

I’m having an ongoing issue and my grandkids told me that this was a site for people to discuss this sort of problem.

I love Puget Sound. I spent more than 30 years saving and investing to buy a property on the beach. My property includes the beach south of my house.
The house is on a private road. In fact, when you enter the road, there is a very large sign that says "NO BEACH ACCESS". Apparently, people go onto and down the road and enter the beach next to my house. They have beach picnics, play with their dogs, loiter and act as if it is a public beach.
My dream was to have a serene place to go to. I pay lots of taxes for the property in the sand. This is my property according to the law.
I heard that when signs were put up, people would tear them down.

I heard that, 20 years ago, the owners tried to put signs and fences up, but these supposedly upstanding people tore the signs down. The owners gave up attempting to enforce because they didn’t live nearby.

Is a hypocritical a__hole a worse a__hole than a well-meaning person, who acts like an a__hole, but does not know better? For sure, but even the well-meaning ones are trespassing.
I guess I should wait and see whether signs will educate the non-as****es from bad behavior and then I will know the true as****es? At least I will narrow it down.
Or Am I the a__hole?

AITA for asking my wife if we should have more children after we had to give up our first child?I met my wife when we we...
06/10/2026

AITA for asking my wife if we should have more children after we had to give up our first child?

I met my wife when we were in college, (from the UK, think high school if you’re from the US), at the age of 17. We both fell very hard for each other. We were young, and idiots, and I accidentally got her pregnant.

Everyone around us, including our parents, told us parenting was great, and that we were such strong people that we could do it. So, we decided to keep the baby. We had a beautiful little girl, and we loved her with all our hearts.

However, we were 18 at the time. We had no money, were struggling to get jobs, and we had no idea how difficult a kid would be. Our parents turned sour once the baby was born, telling us we were stupid and they wouldn’t help us. After 7 months of struggling financially and mentally, we put our wonderful daughter up for adoption, and she was taken from us.

I don’t like to think or talk about this time. As you can imagine it was the worst thing in the world, I never have and never will go through anything worse, but we knew she deserved a better life than we could give her. The family did not want to tell her she was adopted until she was much older, so we haven’t seen or heard from our baby girl since then. We got through it together.

We are both 29 now. We both redid our A levels, went to uni, married at 24, and are now financially stable and own a house together. Last night I decided to ask her if she thought she wanted to have children with me.

It went...

AITA for telling my sil that she deserves an abusive husband after she called me a weak man?My wife broke her arm a few ...
06/10/2026

AITA for telling my sil that she deserves an abusive husband after she called me a weak man?

My wife broke her arm a few months ago and its still not fully recovered, my wife was dependent on me and she was frustrated because of her injury. I helped my wife as much as I could, she couldn't tie her shoelace, she couldn't eat by herself, she couldn't even shower by herself, my wife was in alot of pain and she was frustrated. My wife can do all that by herself now without my help but it has become a habit for me to help her.

My sil said infront of her friends that I am a weak man when I was putting my wife's sandals on her feet and her friends joined her. I got angry and I said to my sil that I'm not weak just because I'm helping my wife and she deserves abusive husband who doesn't treat her right and helps her. My sil is now saying that she was just 'joking' but I have embarrassed her infront of her friends and I shouldn't have cursed her and her friends and it's embarrassing that as a man I'm helping my wife put sandals in her feets infront of everyone.

I said that I will do what I want and help my wife as much as I want even if it's unnecessary and if she finds what I do embarrassing then maybe she deserves abusive husband and now I want her to stay away from me. My wife is angry but she's frustrated, we both are and we don't want our family members to insult us infront of everyone

AITA for telling my cousin it’s her own fault that she’s single and broke?Using a throwaway account just in case.I (25F)...
06/09/2026

AITA for telling my cousin it’s her own fault that she’s single and broke?

Using a throwaway account just in case.

I (25F) recently got engaged a few months back and my fiancé Carter (26M) and I are deep in the wedding planning stages. We were both at a family dinner party this past weekend when people asked us how the wedding planning was going, particularly my cousin Dani (32F). Carter and I have been very fortunate to be in a situation where we can plan our dream wedding and are able to pay majority of it ourselves and some help from our parents.

When we went into the details of how we want it to be a big wedding to invite a lot of friends and family we haven’t seen in years due to Covid, Dani immediately made comments about how we’re spending “twice her income for one day no else cares about” and many other disrespectful comments throughout the night about our plans. For some context, Dani was pursuing a college degree that was completely financed by my parents as her mother could not afford it, but in her last year she was expelled due to getting caught plagiarizing on a draft of her thesis. She hid this from my parents for a whole year, but still continued to accept their monthly checks that were meant to be for her tuition and instead pocketed the money (around $30,000).

This basically has limited her opportunities in the job market as she never graduated, and her then boyfriend left her a year ago after discovering what she had done and didn’t want to be with someone that had been lying about their degree and income. After her initial comment, she then went on to say how...

AIW for considering getting my son vaccinated against his mom’s wishes?Backstory: My ex's daughter supposedly had a reac...
06/09/2026

AIW for considering getting my son vaccinated against his mom’s wishes?

Backstory: My ex's daughter supposedly had a reaction to a vaccine when she was a year old. There was no proof and she never had her tested or evaluated but swears her daughter is on the spectrum bc of it. Since then she has been very outspokenly anti vax.

When we were together it was always her way or the highway so when we had our son there was a brief discussion about how we needed to avoid the topic of vaccines when he goes in for checkups. Since he was born she's lost the right to make any medical decisions because of her views and what she sees on TikTok. The final straw was when he had a double ear infection and she found a video on TikTok saying garlic oil was a natural cure all for ear infections.

I was not allowed to take him to the doctor until she 'tried her method first'. A couple of days went by and he was miserable. I took him to the grocery with his sister and he threw up all over a cart full of groceries.

I took him straight to the children's urgent care. They basically told me the garlic oil pushed the infection so far down into his ear we'd be lucky if he didn't have hearing damage or worse. They suggested giving him an antibiotic shot that would clear his system.

She'd already taken her daughter home and fought me on the phone for 20 minutes until I finally hung up and told the dr to give him the shot. They said he needed to be evaluated for another injection in a few days. The following Saturday I...

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