06/16/2023
Taken from a conversation with a friend whose spouse is in active addiction:
“Yeah dude. The addicts brain is a fu**ed up one for sure. I know bc I have one. I’ve experienced exactly what you’re talking about. And there really is a fight or at least a very (heated discussion)going on inside of our brain that would drive most people insane. There’s always an underlying reason why we use or choose to use. Trauma, childhood or otherwise, parents, there’s always an underlying explanation to it. It’s never: “hey, let’s get hooked on he**in today!” It’s more like: “I have these feelings, then someone offers you the s**t, (and you know that females get all the free drugs anyway) and that felt alright, or at least made your terrible feeling subside or made you forget for while until before you know it: Once a month, turns to once a week, turns to every. fu***ng. day. It fu***ng rules you. You start making plans based around how you’re gonna sneak off and get high without everyone noticing, or worse, you don’t give a f**k if people do. Which is where it ends up burning all your bridges and f**kin up every relationship you have. Except for the ones that involve drugs… then all of your real friends are gone and you’re left with a bunch of fake ass ju**ie friends that do nothing but keep you in the mud. Keep you in the dark. You only need each other for dope but that’s every day. You forget what friendship even is and before you know it your own family doesn’t recognize you anymore. It’s a damn deamon in the worst sense. It’s one you created inside to deal with troubling feelings and it does it’s job, but the real path is facing those feelings. Willing facing them and turning that weakness into a strength that most people never make it to. I always say to people “A sober human is just a few letters different than super human. And it’s true. I’ve come so far just being sober for under 6 years it takes courage and willpower, and a f**k ton of discipline.”
Do not rescue someone who does not want to be rescued…
and be very careful when rescuing someone who does.
- Dr. Jordan B. Peterson