Emily Guida: Poet, Writer, Describer of Things

Emily Guida: Poet, Writer, Describer of Things I write everything. I produce poetry, fiction, non-fiction, academic papers, jokes, songs, and more.

10/19/2025

Being yourself is hard. Going against your nature to be someone else is hard. Choose your hard.

09/20/2025

Along the same vein of my last post is this:

When you become aware of things you have low frustration tolerance for, you need to take baby de-escalation breaks.

In between calls I took sips of water, stood up and stretched, used the restroom, switched tasks momentarily. All to give my nerves a break before making the next unpredictable phone call.

As I drove from errand to errand today I sang in the car. Singing makes you breathe. Makes you stretch your muscles. Your nervous system has to reset bc you cannot be in fight or flight and sing. No one sings while running from tigers.

And while waiting in lines I kept a tune in my head and stimmed.

But I ate junk food and had a lot of caffeine today. That is why I collapsed. My body was poisoned.

So if you simply "can't" whatever, are you eating fruits and vegetables? Or is iced coffee a meal?

Athletically train your nervous system. Rest it. Nourish it. Observe it. Learn its limits and push them healthily. When you practice doing more, you do more.

09/20/2025

I have become aware of a new phenomenon I have been experiencing my whole life but have never had enough presence of mind to experience in the moment.

There is a literal second when I have reached my limit of stress tolerance.

I was cleaning my snake's cage and began to get exhausted from the whole rest of my day. But instead of my brain picturing my bed as a signal to rest, it instead ran a reel of task highlights from my day. And I began to feel dizzy and nauseous. And I realized I had just went from wearing down to neurological fatigue to neurological collapse in the 3 seconds it took me to recognize the stages.

Autism is like being a balloon. You can take a lot and take a lot and take a lot. And then you pop without warning. It is not a slow tear and the air leaks out. It is just "bang" and you are done.

Today I:
Worked for 6.5 hours making about 30 calls.
Took my dog to the vet.
Went to the bank to cash a check.
Messaged my boss about a meeting.
Received messages from another boss about another meeting.
Grocery shopped.
Ran a supply errand.
Went to the pet store.
Fed my snake.
Entertained the wildly neurodivergent neighbor boy while feeding the snake.
And cleaned the snake cage.
And when I began cleaning up from cleaning up, I popped taking the trash out and had to sit in the bathroom and experience an overwork collapse.
And now as I recover, am describing it to myself and you to process how and why it happened. So I know where I fatigued but failed to break then. And it was multiple socializing events. No question.

This is my neurological equivalent of weight training. I am frustration tolerance load testing. If you struggle with intrinsic motivation, from depression or anxiety or panic or whatever...try to baby strain yourself knowing you will collapse. But expecting it, know that as you resistance train, you tolerance train. You load train properly so you don't get hurt. Then self care like an athlete recovers. You will get stronger.

09/13/2025

Today's neurospicy observation is that a lot of my social tension comes from the tension of others in the room. I have been to several social functions in the last month, and so many people are sitting at tables uncomfortable at events because instead of enjoying the reason for the event, a gathering to celebrate, they are judging the people in attendance. They are judging the worth of the folks present by the dollar value of their gift, by the effort on the packaging, and by how the gift is received. And then if they judge the value of the gift as low, and the giver as low, and the receipient loves the gift, then they judge the recipient as less worthy of the gift bought by the judger.

All this to say to folks, give the gift you want to give and that you can afford to give. Make the gift. People are good. And they typically treasure the more thoughtful, handmade gifts. Don't waste your energy on how the recipient or others will perceive you. That is not why you are giving a gift. You were lovingly invited. So give out of love. Not out of obligation. And have fun at the event. Talk to someone new. Talk to someone quiet that no one else notices or even avoids. Learn why that person was invited. That will tell you more about who invited you.

Social occassions are great places to learn. Attend them.

09/11/2025

Tis my season to be jolly!
Falalalala lala la la
Pumpkins, candles, haunted trollies
Falalalala lala la la
Masks and candy,
Brooms and brandy,
Falala lalala la la la!

Deck your house with something spooky
Falalalala lala la la
Time to be all weird and cooky
Falalalala lala la la
Ghosts and goblins,
Apple bobbins,
Falalalala la la la la!

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