04/16/2024
This is what an act of very necessary self love looks like. A mini photoshoot with no eyebrows, due to years of trichotillomania. Not only the act of taking pictures without them drawn on but genuinely finding yourself beautiful, lovely, strong, & powerful without. This is how I exist. It’s taken what feels like a lifetime to accept. So not just the act of taking the pictures & admiring myself, but the act of posting them for the world to see me as I am. To let go of shame. 5yrs ago I wouldn’t even exist outside of my home without my “face” on. Not in front of family, or friends.
Such a good question brought up by my fav woman rn, British Author & host of Slumflower Hour podcast Chidera Eggerue
What if THIS is “IT”?
As women we’re sold this idea of finding “the one” over everything else in our lives. And many women settle, accept less than their worth, accept abuse even, or get lost in their relationships. Lose sense of themselves & their identity (👋🙋♀️ that last part) But what if THIS (you & your present self/life) is IT? Are you happy with that? What would you change? What relationships would you foster? What new things would you try that you’ve wanted to but haven’t made time for?? A great question for any single person. Life is so full of love, other than romantic.
BE the love of your own life! As corny as if may sound, it’s important. Necessary.
Create the life, love, community you want for yourself. And WHAT IF this is IT?! 💭
Think about it 💜 make your life everything you’ve dreamed. And nobody can take that from you. We look for love to fill voids in us that trauma & loss have left. That’s just not how it works. And often times when one thing doesn’t work out we’re onto the next. Living for yourself and loving the life you lead alone doesn’t make you a failure. It’s quite strong actually. Don’t settle for anything or anyone that doesn’t serve you. Make sure to give your all to yourself, first & foremost. Full stop. 💛
A question that puts a lot into perspective & i think a lot of us could benefit from. A good check in for yourself.
Thanks for reading if you made it thru my book of a post 📖 🥰