04/28/2026
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AITA for telling my DIL over my dead body?
Background
My husband and I have a timeshare through a pretty nice hotel chain. Once a year, we get one week of their largest rooms at any location. These rooms usually are two to three bedrooms with a living room. Think of an apartment that's around 1,000 to 1,6000 sq feet.
Earlier this month, my son got married to his now-wife. My DIL and I have mostly gotten along up until this point. They dated for two and half years and lived together with their kids (both from previous relationships) for two of those years. My husband and I took my son, DIL, and their two kids on an all-expenses-paid vacation as a wedding gift. We paid for their airfare, food, and hotel room, and any activities they wanted to do. We took the kids and set them up in our timeshare and paid for my son and DIL to have another room so they could be alone at my DIL's request.
As soon as my DIL saw how much bigger our timeshare was (it was three bedrooms), she asked if we would switch with her because it was her honeymoon (which it wasn't). We politely refused and thought that was that. The next day the six of us were in the living room, and my DIL took me aside and told me, "we think that next year it would be great if just the four of us would use the timeshare so that we could bond as a family. It's so important for a blended family to bound." I looked my DIL right in her optic stems and said, "We will use this timeshare every year until the day we die. If we are ever unable to use our timeshare, our daughter (who is younger) will use it. She will inherit it when we die. If you had talked about this with my son, he would have told you all of this." To my son's credit, he did speak up and said he was aware of this agreement, and she should have talked to him...