10/09/2026
I’m going to be vulnerable for just a minute…
I guess I’m one of those people who has to learn some lessons the hard way. And apparently, this is one I keep having to learn.
Once again, I’ve put my trust in someone who made promises, and now I’m left hoping they will simply do what they said they would do.
I know all the things. Don’t pay before the job is finished. Get everything in writing. Protect yourself. Believe me, I know.
But here’s where I struggle. When I connect with someone, when I feel like we’ve established trust, I want to believe their word means something. I don’t want to go through life being suspicious of everyone or feeling like I have to have my guard up all the time.
I genuinely liked this person. So much so that I even opened up my venue for them to celebrate a birthday, completely free of charge. Not because I expected anything in return, but simply because I wanted to do something kind for people I thought I had built a connection with and even though the job should have been done before the party, I choose to let them come anyway.
And that’s the part that hurts the most. It’s not always about the money. Sometimes it’s about realizing that the trust and kindness you extended may not have been valued the same way you valued them and if the roles had been reversed, they would expect me to do what I said I’d do.
2 weeks ago I was told tomorrow is the day this job is supposed to be completed, and when we ask today, if he’d be here, his answer was, it’s supposed to rain. I just watched the weather, no rain for Friday, so I’m asking to pray with me that this person follows through and does the right thing.
I won’t let experiences like this change who I am. I will not become hard, bitter, or unwilling to help others. That’s not who God created me to be.
But I won’t be taken advantage of again, tonight I’m discouraged. I work so hard for this little dream to become a place of affordability for other people to create memories. We have put blood, sweat and tears into this place.
Pray for a good outcome tomorrow, that this person will do what they said they would do, in every text message I have or at least refund the money we have spent so we can move forward. I would never do this to anyone else family and maybe a little wisdom for me moving forward. ❤️