The goal of this page is to become a resource for anyone who is exploring the challenge of accepting life exactly as it is in this moment, with as little judgment and distortion of our own personal lenses as possible. The radical part is accepting life's stimuli and then choosing how to respond. Acceptance does not mean we have to like, approve, or want the stimuli that life brings to us; acceptan
ce is an acknowledgment of what is. For example, when I'm out in public, my bladder is full, and there are no free restrooms I could choose to wait, do the pee-pee-dance, and think, "Oh my god, why doesn't this place have more restrooms? And did they have to put them all the way in the back of the store? I almost peed myself trying to find them. What in the HELL is that person doing in there? Don't they know that I really REALLY have to pee out here? OMG, I think I'm going to fall asleep in the time it's taking between hearing the toilet flush, the water run, and the hand dryer.....etc.". I would be choosing to feel angry at the person occupying the restroom, the store, my bladder, and myself for not going earlier. However, the reality of the situation is only that I have to go pee and that the most culturally appropriate place to resolve that issue is currently occupied. All other subsequent thoughts, feelings, and actions are reflections of how I CHOOSE to react and respond to the situation. It doesn't mean I have to like that fact that I have to hold it longer, but it doesn't help my current situation to berate my bladder capacity or lack of foresight or the person in the stall. It also makes complete sense for me to feel inpatient and for my mind to start this internal diatribe. At the same time, a part of me can take a step back to notice how my brain and body is reacting. Seeing these thoughts and feelings, instead of being completely absorbed by them, gives me an opportunity to decide if they are helping me, if I want to continue them, or if I want to try a new strategy. That's what this page will be about: learning about and trying new strategies.