12/08/2026
Please understand that you are not the SI unit for measuring anger.
Just because something wouldn’t make you angry or upset doesn’t mean it cannot genuinely hurt, offend, or anger someone else.
When something goes wrong and someone reacts strongly, there is really no need to immediately say:
“This didn’t warrant that reaction.”
“You shouldn’t have gotten this angry.”
“This wasn’t enough to make you react that way.”
“You shouldn’t have said this or done that.”
Our faces are different. Our names are different. Our experiences are different. And naturally, our thresholds and responses to things will be different too.
There are things that can provoke you that wouldn’t even bother me. There are things that can hurt me deeply that you might consider insignificant.
That doesn’t automatically make either of us weak, dramatic, or unreasonable. We simply don’t experience everything the same way.
Learn to understand that your reaction is not the universal standard for how everyone else should react.
Sometimes, instead of telling people how they should feel, simply try to understand why they feel the way they do.
It’s possible for someone to overreact because of factors you may not be aware of. When you step into a situation like that, your role should be to de-escalate and bring some calm, not to impose your self-righteousness, escalate the situation, or start assigning blame.
Because, my dear, you are not the SI unit for measuring anger.
Chaicon 💞