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Thir morning, I just read about how and why "cryers" are better leaders. Emotions are important to keep our cognitive br...
10/05/2026

Thir morning, I just read about how and why "cryers" are better leaders. Emotions are important to keep our cognitive brain fresh and alert. Nonetheless, sometimes they become too overwhelming.

It's empirical we label them right, and know that they are just visitors passing by 😊

Sometimes, it's YOU too. The good news is, it can all be UNLEARNED 😌
10/05/2026

Sometimes, it's YOU too. The good news is, it can all be UNLEARNED 😌

Here's a reminder to enjoy your Sunday 🩷
10/05/2026

Here's a reminder to enjoy your Sunday 🩷

The Innate Carnal Nature of Man: An Essay on Toboso 19Disclaimer: This essay does not discuss political parties nor endo...
24/04/2026

The Innate Carnal Nature of Man: An Essay on Toboso 19

Disclaimer: This essay does not discuss political parties nor endorse any form of propaganda. It focuses solely on the dangers of humanity’s affinity for the morbid and the tragic.

Whether one condemns armed government forces for an encounter that claimed many lives, or believes that alleged insurgency necessitates neutralization, one thing remains undeniable: the virality of the story lies in its blood-curdling end. Put simply, regardless of which side of the narrative one believes, or what version of truth one convinces oneself of while sharing posts online, it is difficult to deny that what captures attention is not the nuance of conflicting claims.

It is not the possibility that some individuals were civilians, allegedly framed after the fact. It is not the recognition that armed conflict often breeds unnecessary tragedy on all sides, extinguishing lives filled with potential. Rather, what makes stories like this impossible to ignore is something far more disturbing: the audience, real people behind their screens, have grown eerily comfortable turning such tragedies into spectacle, even into humor.

Images are shared, edited, and distorted. The dead, people at their most vulnerable, at the very end of their lives, are reduced to tools for argument or punchlines for fleeting amusement. What is often justified as raising awareness or “warning others” reveals something colder beneath the surface. It reeks not of empathy, but of detachment; a quiet, creeping cruelty.

I have never believed that humans are inherently good. Goodness, to me, has always been the result of deliberate action, not an innate blessing bestowed at birth. Yet witnessing the widespread enjoyment of another person’s demise tempts a darker thought: perhaps we are born with something after all. Not goodness, but a carnal inclination toward brutality.

And why is this dangerous?

Because the cycle does not end with one tragedy. The entertainment derived from circulating images of the dead, the collective effort to justify it as moral instruction, and the endless online discourse, it will all eventually simmer down. And when it does, what then?

Who is to say that another tragedy will not rise to satisfy the same primal hunger? Worse, who is to say that such desensitization will not blur the line between witnessing violence and justifying it? That someday, if not yet true, brutality may be excused under the guise of ideology when in truth it is driven by something far more primitive: the thrill of destruction itself.

Mankind, it seems, may not merely endure violence.

It may crave it.

And in that craving, we may very well become the architects of our own undoing.

Art: Jesse Purcell

10/04/2026

Pain is a shared blessing and curse,

a keepsake from the Gods,
an echo that ripples
after it leaves its source.

A dandelion isn’t the only thing
that loses its mind in the wind
And pain isn’t the only thing capable of pollinating;
Something will be there
when hope is rare
and the world is harvesting berries
from your wounds.

Something will be there
to remind you over and over,
that we all are here together.

A bee lands
on a closed flower
and it opens.

And if that is the only thing we have

my God, that is enough.

Kiss, 1897 - Edvard Munch
10/04/2026

Kiss, 1897 - Edvard Munch

10/04/2026
28/05/2025

Unsolicited Advice Yields More Harm Than Good: A Classic Tale of "I Know Better"

I don't care if it comes from a place of concern or curiosity — if your opinion or conclusion wasn't asked for, keep it to yourself.

A few weeks ago, a picture of a woman at the beach in her bikini, feeling herself, went viral. Apparently, other people believe they know how to live the lives of others better. The woman garnered a lot of unsolicited health advice, and people were suddenly so "concerned" about obesity. But it wasn’t concern — it was a sugarcoated “You shouldn’t wear a bikini because you’re fat.” A criticism of her confidence rather than any supposed health issue. It was unnecessary. Hurtful. Damaging.

A few days ago, I also received unsolicited advice. Today I realized it was not okay — it was invasive, borderline snoopy, and an unnecessary remark from someone I barely know. If you formulate an opinion based solely on a few things you think you know, and then immediately jump to giving a “friendly piece of advice,” you’re not helping at all.

Why am I posting this? To remind everyone on my friends list that I am a very sensitive person. I am nonconfrontational — I smile, nod, and agree with you, and then cry and feel small afterward.

So if you're:

1. Not part of my extended family (biological or in-laws), or

2. Haven’t been my friend for a very long time,

Keep your opinions and unsolicited advice to yourself.

Going back to that viral picture of a confident woman in her bikini — if it's not your body, you don't get to comment on it.

If it's not your relationship, not your child, not your life, not something that directly affects you — and most importantly, if you're not a close friend or relative — think a hundred times before formulating conclusions and wrapping them as “friendly advice.”

Unsolicited advice, especially from people who don’t truly know us, can feel like criticism dressed in concern. And for sensitive, nonconfrontational people like myself, those moments linger long after the conversation ends.

It does more harm than good.

You don’t get to comment on someone’s healing — especially not a mother still aching for her child.You don’t get to put ...
07/05/2025

You don’t get to comment on someone’s healing — especially not a mother still aching for her child.

You don’t get to put a limit on grief, or prescribe a timeframe for mourning. You don’t get to say “Just pray it out” or offer unsolicited advice like “Let God heal you.” It doesn’t work like that.

When someone vents their pain whether to you or through a post — it isn’t to fish for sympathy. Humans are social animals, but we're also the only human species who survived evolution. That said, we are very vulnerable to losing loved ones often not knowing how to cope with it. Mourning over someone dearly loved should not have a deadline and it should not be questioned.

Grief doesn’t come with a deadline. And it should never be questioned nor should it be shamed.

So sit with them. Let them know that whatever pain or grief they keep in their pocket, they are understood. They are seen. They are loved.

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