Have a Word with Yourself

28/05/2026

This week I was reminded by a friend how gratitude is one of the most powerful and highest vibrational emotions we can feel. By willingly feeling gratitude towards someone, something or situation, no other lower level emotion can be experienced in that moment. The top trump card if you like!

Of course we can all be grateful for the people that make our lives easy, but it takes strength and emotional maturity to want to find gratitude for someone or something that's caused you some kind of suffering but by doing so, you're actually pushing through your own boundaries to experience them / it in a way that stops you from suffering. It's a WIN, WIN for you, both experiencially and in personal growth. These are the stepping stones that increase your self awareness and help you to push through old habits and thought patterns that cause you to repeat behaviours that cause you to suffer.

What I've observed in my experience is that, if we remove the judgement of behaviours as being right or wrong we can look at them from a more objective perspective, moving away from separation and instead towards wholeness that holds space for both to exist.

For example, someone who gives without boundaries or to the detriment of themselves is not giving but depleting themselves. By not taking care of their needs and having healthy limits, they'll continually encounter people that take advantage of them, not as a punishment but as a mirror to see what is going on in them that's contributing to their own suffering. The 'taker's' that they encounter are the doorways to self awareness and healing the unbalanced parts of themselves.

Speaking from personal experience, I'm grateful for all the times I was shown in life that I needed to learn how to make healthy boundaries. In realising my part that contributed to suffering this and seeing how it exposed the parts of me that were out of balance, I was able to adjust my choices, actions and behaviours which meant the 'problem' found it's natural solution. As a result, it's easy for me to feel grateful for being shown the things that've helped me to return to balance and peace. By feeling genuinely grateful, it's erased any residual feelings of resentment, anger or wrongdoing. What I've learned is that gratitude can be experienced at any moment, not just retrospectively.

The more willingly we use gratitude in any challenging moments or encounters with people, we stop feeling attacked or wronged and instead empowered by the insight that the encounter is giving us.

Here's an example of how this is applied through the Ho'oponopono prayer;

I'm sorry (to myself) for the unknown parts of me that have created this in my experience
Please forgive me and my unconscious behaviours (over-giving / lack boundaries)
Thank you for showing the parts of myself that are ready to be seen, healed and solutioned
I love you, I let it go and I let God.

The simple prayer not only helps you to take accountability for everything that shows up in your life but it also acknowledges that we all have things going on within us that we are unaware of, unconscious behaviour. The gratitude in thanking yourself for being shown what was ready to be seen and healed is a powerful way of transmuting the negativity of the person or situation into a higher vibrational emotion within you. Feeling grateful for having been shown something that's going to help your growth and personal evolution really is the highest trump card there is! Letting it go without self-judgement or judgement of others allows it to find the natural solution within you.

If you find this interesting and you're curious to know how you can apply gratitude with the Ho'oponopono prayer into your daily life, I'm running a 21-day frequency treatment that does just that! Send me an email to [email protected] and I'll send you a link to join. Thank you! 🫵

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20/05/2026

One for the ladies!

Today I was reminded how the past can quickly trigger the mind without realising it and hijack our feelings to go down a path of memory lane - all from a thought. Thankfully, I caught it, accepted it and used it as inspiration for today's post!

So here's an uncomfortable truth bomb - as much as we like to believe that us ladies are a sisterhood of support, reciprocal kindness and love for each other, it's sadly not the case. Separation and lack of awareness has caused women to reject, compete, fear and attack other women they deem as a threat to their happiness. This has been catalysed by narratives across social media, film and TV over the years causing a deep wound that affects how many women relate to other women. Normalising dysfunctional dynamics between women has become so widespread that many people don't even question their motives anymore and jump straight on the hater bus.

When women connect together with a higher level of conscious awareness there is no envy, no competition, no back chat, defamation or need to suppress any part of themselves or others to fully connect with them. This open transparency creates a powerful bond that empowers and uplifts everyone equally and reciprocally. Women that are aligned with their deepest truth carry an energy that can be felt beyond their words and the ability to see through the surface level experiences that they encounter. Aligned women carry a creative power that can change worlds not through brute force or domination but through balance and support.

The more self-aware we become, the more we look for connection not reasons to separate. We look for similarities in others not the differences and we offer our support openly for everyone's best interests. This isn't motivated by ego but the genuine desire to help others to elevate their own life experiences. Those that are ready to raise their awareness, feel drawn towards experiences that support them in doing so and those that are not will resist it.

Women supporting women is fundamental to rebalancing the world we live in right now. If we want to live with the equality that would positively impact all of our lives, we have to start with ourselves and address the grievances within us that we're carrying towards other women (unknowingly and knowingly).

When we accept that there are parts of ourselves that hold these beliefs, thoughts and feelings that separate us from other women, we can start to release them and the resistance it creates in our connection to one another.

Today I was picking up some groceries and I saw a woman dressed in lycra hot pants and bra top in the store. Whilst I was trying to remember the things I was shopping for, I noticed how her appearance made me feel uneasy and I let myself go with it for a little while. At first I was experiencing insecurity at seeing her perfectly shaped body and then I noticed how I started making judgements about how she was dressed, not because there was anything wrong with her fitness outfit but because I'm not confident enough to wear something like that - or fill it out quite like she did! Seeing her triggered an insecurity from my past memories of when I was insecure about my outer appearance. When I caught it and accepted it for what it was, a past insecurity, the feeling quickly dissolved and I carried on shopping peacefully. At the check-out the women was stood next to me and I noticed how instead of feeling uneasy in her presence, I felt calm and neutral towards her and actually started to admire her confidence. Why should she shrink to hide her beauty? she shouldn't and she didn't and I'm grateful for what it showed me about myself in that moment. Instead of letting an insecurity from my past run the show in that present moment, I was willing to acknowledge and accept it and as a result, I experienced her in a completely different way.

This got me thinking, how often as women we let our own insecurities ruin our connections with others and we don't even realise we're doing it. We let our minds create ideas, beliefs and experiences based on thoughts that are littered with our own past memories and experiences, clouding the truth and creating separation.

When we start to take responsibility for the hidden parts of ourselves that cause these thoughts and judgements to arise, we take a step closer to raising our conscious awareness which impacts our lives and the lives of all those around us.

As Marianne Williamson said so beautifully;
¨It is the light not the darkness that most frightens us¨

The power of women uniting is what frightens this world the most. Ancient civilisations that honoured women as their equals were the most prolific and celebrated because they ruled alongside men, not dominate or suppress them but to build in balance with them. Kings sat beside their Queens at the same level, neither one asserting dominance over the other, just equal support to build together in balance. Ever since this balance was lost to domination and suppression, women have been trying to restore it throughout history.

What we've forgotten to acknowledge is that the battle to reestablish this balance is not just with men, but also with other women and ourselves. We've been suppressed, devalued, objectified and put in competition with each other for what..... just to separate us from each other and turn us against each other in the process. If we want to end this cycle of separation and reunify with all women to restore the balance that this world is in such desperate need of, we need to start back at point zero with ourselves.

We can start by acknowledging our own grievances towards women in all the many ways that this shows up and accept that these grievances are not who we are and do not define us as women. We can show ourselves forgiveness for carrying these wounds unknowingly and knowingly and we can release them knowing that that it will benefit ourselves and all others in doing so. Sometimes we carry beliefs we don't even realise we have and these rarely shape our lives for the better!

I was willing to question my thoughts and feelings today because I know myself and I enjoy feeling connected to people so when feelings arose that were not aligned with who I am, it snagged me. Instead of projecting those feelings on to the other woman, I took accountability for it and it dissolved it which is something we can all do if we're willing to acknowledge that our thoughts and feelings are echos from the past, not facts of the present moment.

If this interests you and you'd like to be supported with this type of inner work to address issues relating to jealousy, envy, insecurity, competitiveness and any other behaviours that cause you to feel separation to other women in your life, please get in touch here or by email at [email protected] and I'd be happy to share what I've leaned on my journey so far.

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12/05/2026

A Course in Miracles teaches us that our thoughts become our beliefs and our beliefs become our actions, a simple reminder that what we believe (true or not) will become our reality by our choice of actions made from that belief.

When I first studied this lesson it pressed me to think about a time when my thoughts had become my beliefs and how having these beliefs had influenced my actions. I lived an experience from a belief of something being true that wasn't and it had steered my life into a path that wasn't what I wanted. My bad!

How often do we have a 'belief check-up' on ourselves? Not often enough but we should....

If a belief that you carry isn't serving you in ways that brings you peace, happiness and confidence in life then why are you not questioning the validity of that belief? the same as any belief system whether it's religions, spiritual or moral - do the beliefs of that system help and support you in a loving way or does it make you feel defensive, fearful and alone?

When we realise that not all our thoughts are the truth, we can also accept that not all of our beliefs are true and therefore the actions we take are not always well guided but the result of our misbeliefs. This is why Ho'oponopono asks us to forgive ourselves for our mis-perceptions that created things we didn't want by acknowledging that not all of our thoughts and beliefs are true even when they feel that they are.

If we continue to believe our thoughts without questioning their truth, we continue to repeat life as we've already done before. Being willing to perceive differently is the crossroad choice that we all have the opportunity to make if we can push through the inner resistance. When we're ready to let go of what has already been lived from our current thoughts and beliefs, we can start to create from new beliefs that lead to the experiences that we want to live.

© A Word With Yourself 2026.

29/04/2026

Forward IS forward.....even when life appears to be unfolding slowly, you can rest assured that everything is timed to perfection. It's only the meaning that we create from our expectations and self judgements that causes feelings of impatience or inadequacy. In knowing and trusting this, resistance is released and we become really ready, to be ready!

I'd like to invite those of you that feel ready, to explore life through a more peaceful and loving perspective guided by the teachings of Ho'oponopono and A Course in Miracles with frequency and brain entrainment.

Send me a DM to receive an invite to know more!🪟

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30/12/2025

Life IS what you think...so what do you think!?

According to many sources we typically experience anything from 6000 to 70,000 thoughts per day and of those, 90% of them are repetitive with 80% of them being negative! Yikes

This would suggest that our subconscious minds are at any time 80% full of negative experiences, memories and data which only leaves a measly 20% for the good stuff. Could this be why we're far more likely to replay the insults we receive rather than the compliments or why when feeling joy we limit the experience by ruining it with a negative thought....are we hardwired this way or is it a result of what we've loaded into our subconscious minds from our experiences we've had? whatever the answer, we need to flip these stats!

When we're feeling consumed by our thoughts we tend to start identifying with them rather than just experiencing them as ´just thoughts´ and this is what causes a lot of unnecessary disharmony within. If we could accept that our thoughts are created from our subconscious previous memories, experiences and beliefs we should also be able to accept that they're recycled old news repackaged and therefore probably not relevant to the current situation.

A bad experience with a dog in childhood can cause a persistent fear throughout life when the subconscious memory remains active with the past memory attached to fear and the belief that dogs are dangerous. Without that previous memory, a dog would be perceived as neutral and the fear would not arise. So how can we neutralise the fear that's attached to a memory? - the short answer is, clean up the subconscious memory retaining it.

Cleaning can be done consciously and subconsciously with thought awareness, intention and frequency therapy. The mind is a boggler but the clearer it is, the happier and more confident you'll feel to deal with all that life throws at you. Like seeing through a clean window screen after years of driving around with it covered in mud. A clear view of the road ahead = less road kill.

Our outer world is constantly reflecting back to us our subconscious data via our thoughts, emotions and the situations that arise so we become aware of the things within us that need acknowledging. Our biggest triggers give us the best insights to the things that our subconscious mind is trying to help us to heal and when we don't resist it, we have an opportunity to release and heal it. For all those that choose to do this work, Im here to help and look forward to assisting you with the clean up job!

I wish you all optimal health and happiness, peace of mind and awareness of your thoughts for a cleaner mindset in the new year.

Here we come 2026!
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23/12/2025

16/12/2025

Here we are at the end of 2025 with all the usual activities and preparations keeping us busy as we reflect on the year - the ups and downs, the wins and the loses. As we say goodbye and close the door to what's passed, we start thinking about which doors we wish to walk through in the new year.

I'd like to thank all of you that have been a part of my year in all the various ways and roles that you’ve played both personally and professionally. My Christmas wish is that you all find the happiness, love and peace that you seek and experience it from within.

The teachings of Mornnah Simeona and the ancient Hawaiian prayer of Ho´ponopono feels particularly relevant to what I've been working to achieve with Have a Word With Yourself. The awareness and cleaning of our subconscious data that creates our thoughts, habits and beliefs. Releasing and healing all that does not serve, to experience a clear and clean state of being and a peaceful reconciliation with ourselves.

The Peace Of “I”

Peace be with you,
All My Peace,
The Peace that is “I”, the Peace that is “I am”.
The Peace for always, now and forever and evermore.
My Peace “I” give to you,
My Peace “I” leave with you,
Not the world’s Peace, but, only My Peace,
The Peace of “I”.
- Mornnah Simeona.

I leave you with this powerful and beautiful mantra for accountability, self forgiveness, gratitude and release.

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you

Happy holidays to you all, with love and gratitude for everything that you've given back to me this year. 🙏

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04/12/2025

Why is our unconscious the key to finding our path to happiness?

¨Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate¨ - Carl Jung.

Now brace, for some not-so festive questions...

What do you hide from yourself and from others? What makes you feel so ashamed that you pretend it doesn’t exist within you? What are you afraid to say aloud or admit to yourself and to others for fear of judgement? What are your hidden motives and intentions behind your behaviours? Do these questions make you feel inquisitive to do some self enquiry or have you already clicked away? 😅

Our subconscious is the store house of all data that we’ve accumulated since we first opened our eyes. The reason we store everything we’ve experienced is so that our brain can sift through the data to create patterns and frameworks that help us to make sense of the world around us. We learn what works and what doesn’t by remembering what’s previously worked and what didn’t. We decide through the emotions and feelings that we associate with the data, if we liked it or not and if it felt safe and trustworthy or not and so on.

We create our judgements of the world and others based on what we’ve experienced and felt in our own unique way. This creates our own personal perspective, values and framework for everything that we do.

When we know this, we become aware that all of our thoughts, judgements, preferences, motivations and actions are determined unconsciously and this helps us to understand and accept what we feel, think and behave more easily. It also helps us to realise that our experience of life is in our own hands and with acceptance, we can heal ourselves at the most profound level. By looking at our subconscious data we're making our unconscious, conscious and bringing to light all that influences our outer perception of the world around us.

When we look beyond ourselves as victims of our circumstances and put a spot light on our hidden vulnerabilities and wounds, it helps us to be less judgemental of what occurred and more accepting of why we experienced it. Our subconscious holds all the answers needed for us to heal from the inside out. The challenges and experiences that we face are the opportunities to put into practice what we’ve illuminated and learned from to create new patterns of thought, emotions and behaviours. But, if our fears or ego prevent us from facing our unconscious truths, we passively allow life to live us, through our unconscious reactions rather than, us living life through our conscious choices.

It’s like looking inside a kaleidoscope seeing the patterns within patterns that keep forming different shapes from themselves. If we don’t heal what is in our subconscious data creating our unconscious behaviours, we keep experiencing patterns of the same thing but in different forms.

When we recognise this and start to look at our own patterns of behaviour, we can start to see what we need to address to make changes to our data for better outcomes. We can consciously start to change the patterns that didn’t serve us and work towards creating new patterns that do.

We go from being the victim of fate to the conscious creators of our realities. This act of self love is what changes our future for the better and the future of all those that we are connected to.

If you’re ready to uncover a deeper level of self awareness through making your unconscious, conscious and would like to know how I use frequency based treatments to support the process, please get in touch here and I´ll be happy to explain how it works.
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25/11/2025

Raising our vibration with frequency - what does this actually mean? 🫨➡️🤗

We are vibratory beings and our vibration and energy is created from our physical, emotional, mental states and our conscious awareness. Our vibration fluctuates but it also has a general baseline which is what you class as your 'normal' state. I've seen many click-bait claims online that state that listening to certain frequencies will instantly change your vibration to a higher state or enter a new dimension and whilst I know how powerful frequencies can be, this is not quite how it works.

The most well known frequencies are the Solfeggio frequencies which are associated with each of the energy centres (chakras) in our body. Each of these energy centres governs different aspects of our physical, mental, emotional well being. When we listen to these frequencies as a regular practice, our bodies respond through entrainment to the vibrations and start to regulate and activate. This activation brings about physical, emotional and mental reflections to come to the surface of our conscious mind and it's what we do from here, that really decides if it's going to raise our vibration or not.

When I first started creating my own frequency tracks in 2022 it was with the intention to help regulate my nervous system and allow my body to relax and recover from years of deeply buried stress and anxiety. I was bloated, lethargic, irritable and mentally worn out. I noticed very quickly that listening to certain frequencies helped my mind to focus and my body to relax and this was the impetus for me to start experimenting with different combinations of frequencies and binaural beats. Within days I was sleeping better which helped me to think more clearly and have more energy during the day to start taking exercise again. Daily exercise is really important for increasing your vibration by physically moving your stored energy and waking up your metabolism with the added bonus of an endorphin release.

Within a few weeks of listening to the frequencies I was experiencing noticeable changes within me - I was sleeping better, thinking more clearly, hearing my intuition, exercising, toning up and feeling motivated. The ongoing intention to return to a happier, healthier version of myself along with the new found motivation, helped me to process thoughts and make decisions by facing truths that I'd avoided for a long time.

Feeling physically, mentally and emotionally stronger was the result of having made healthier daily life choices that raised my vibration. These self honouring choices were the launchpad that propelled me into living a happier, healthier and higher vibrational way.

Healing frequencies are great catalysts to open and activate our energy centres but, it's what you do with what arises from within you that counts and how you use it to improve different aspects of your life that ultimately raises your vibration.

If you'd like to learn more about the many different frequencies that can play an influential role in improving your health and well-being, please feel free to get in touch the usual way and I'll be happy to share what I know.

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17/11/2025

How we perceive the world is how we receive the world

'Perception' is an ongoing fascination of mine so when it came up in a recent ACIM lesson, I was glad of the opportunity to revisit it and apply it to my circumstances. The idea that everything we see outside of us is a projection of ourselves can be a tough cookie to chew on especially if we don't like what we see around us.

The idea that by changing our perception of the world, creates a new reality, can be difficult for us to grasp because it makes us wholly responsible for our lives and the things that we experience. We might argue that we didn't want X,Y or Z to happen so why did it? whether we wanted it or not, if we believed / perceived that it would be, we created it into being....for better or worse.

Having recognised some of my own reoccurring trust issues recently, I decided to put it to the test and see how I could consciously alter my perceptions to improve it. Like anyone that's felt let down in one way or another in the past, even with a positive and optimistic mindset, trust can take time to recover. To trust, is to be open to the the potential of being let down again which, if you're still raw from previous hurt, the safer option for your nervous system is to climb back inside your shell! Knowing this about myself and having worked through similar trust issues with others gave me the motivation for a do-over.

Instead of perceiving people or situations through the eyes of potential distrust based on past events, I consciously decided to see people as being well-intentioned and helpful in the same ways that I try to be with others. Whenever I found myself replaying old memories, I would remind myself that that was from my previous perception of 'X,Y or Z' that had already played out and these thoughts were no longer valid unless I wanted to recreate what had already been.

The effect this had on me during my week was remarkable 😲

To say that my week was without challenges would be a lie, but to say that my perception of these challenges was peaceful and easily handled is the truth! The challenges I experienced were resolved by my trusting in people to be well-intentioned and wanting to help, and they were. By expecting and projecting the best from people and situations, my new perception reflected the same back to me. I've always been a firm believer in what you give out comes back to you and from having tried and tested this in my own daily life, it was a nice confirmation.

The consequence of my change in perception of others, changed how I was perceiving the events playing out around me which helped me to see how my previous perceptions had created the unfavourable situations and reactions in people - a bitter pill yes but, one with a sweet aftertaste as I no longer felt that it was anyone else's doing other than my own and this gave me a much more peaceful and empowered state of being and a clearer perspective to see people and situations in a new light.

How we perceive it, is how we receive it but don't take my word for it, try doing it for yourself and see what you experience as a result. If you'd like to know more about mindset shifting methods and simple ways to implement them into your lifestyle, please get in touch at [email protected]
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