18/02/2026
Kpoo ife ọjọọ ife ọjọọ
Let’s be honest with ourselves for once.
If someone helps you secure an American visa, accommodates you, uses their name to file for you, and your child becomes a citizen, that is NOT a small favour. That is a life-altering opportunity. Infact that is a switch in destiny!
US visas are not beans. Even siblings hardly file for siblings. Talk less of a stranger.
So when I hear “she made me cook,” I ask myself, cook what exactly?
Was she not cooking before you came?
Did she suddenly open a restaurant because you arrived?
Five months of cooking and cleaning in exchange for accommodation, bills paid, and your child securing citizenship and we are calling that wickedness?
Let’s be serious for once !
Many women will endure ten times worse from a man in the name of love, marriage, and “he has potential.” They will cook, clean, tolerate disrespect and call it patience.
But when it’s another woman helping you, suddenly it becomes oppression?
Please!!!!
Sometimes sacrifice is uncomfortable. But discomfort is not slavery.
Accommodation abroad is expensive. Filing immigration papers is risky. Using your name for someone carries legal responsibility. These are not favours you trivialize.
My concern is not gossip. My concern is the future. The child. The opportunity.
You don’t burn bridges over temporary inconvenience when the long-term gain is generational.
And before you say “she made her a maid,” ask yourself, if it were a man who brought you abroad and you were staying in his house, would you not cook? Would you not contribute?
Let’s stop pretending! You pick me women will do anything for a man but once it’s a woman you find unnecessary faults.
Anyone who gives you an American visa and gives your child citizenship deserves morning mass prayers till death.
The rate at which people burn bridges these days is terrifying.
How did we raise so many ingrates?
Those defending ungrateful behaviour, you people are just wicked humans.
Look at our economy.
Look at our governance.
And someone gave your child a life-changing opportunity?
Haaaaa.
Honestly, in cases like this, I respect men.
If it was a man, he would wash cars, wash clothes, even become a foot mat because he knows what he’s benefiting.
Some women are too emotional. Everything is a problem.
Learn to look at the bigger picture.
If you have energy to create content while pregnant, what exactly is cooking?
Are you going to the market?
Are you pounding yam?
This is America, kitchen gadgets everywhere.
And the woman is rich.
So what exactly is your point?
Who even eats morning till night in America?
This woman goes to work every day to pay bills and give you the best, but cooking is where the anger is?
Why not sit her down and talk?
My bone of contention is visa and citizenship.
Most Nigerians lack sense, everyone is focused on gossip.
That’s not my business.
The future is my business.
Even if the woman was a witch, swallow it for that child.
And let’s be honest, she can’t be that wicked.
It’s America.
She’s a nurse.
She knows better.
Continue betraying your helpers.
That’s why God hasn’t answered some of your prayers cos He sees the darkness in your heart and decides it’s better you suffer than send destiny helpers your way.
Mschewwwwww.
Ungrateful elements.
Nigerians ehn most of una no deserve help.
I blame the woman for helping in the first place.
Those in the diaspora, think twice before helping anyone.
Pray very well before you do.
Even in Nigeria, you bring someone from the village, change their life, transform their destiny and they’ll still betray you and ruin your name.
How much more abroad?
I’ve spoken enough.
Anyone supporting what that actress did, you’re a horrible person.
And that silent prayer you keep praying?
God has seen your heart.
That’s why it remains unanswered.
I have preached the gospel.
You may now share the grace in fellowship.
Sometimes you swallow pride so your child can swallow opportunity!
The grace
Chinenye Azubuike
