08/12/2025
Cashing In My Good Deeds
In the past couple of weeks, I travelled unexpectedly to Saudi Arabia, the country I left almost a decade ago. I had no plans of visiting, but it became an urgent, spontaneous trip due to family circumstances.
The reason for my visit was my dad’s recent health scare. Without getting into the details, he was scheduled to undergo a critical procedure in Makkah (Saudi Arabia), and I needed to be there with my brother and sister, who had accompanied him throughout this journey.
I met some interesting people at Melbourne Airport, including a Kuwaiti national (Falah) who had just graduated from economics and cyber security from Melbourne University. He was on his way to Saudi too, to visit his dad, who is a senior diplomat working in Riyadh. We had a lovely chat while waiting for our flight. I wish I could get into the details, but maybe another time.
The flight to Abu Dhabi was smooth, and I slept like a baby for most of it. That’s what the flight attendant told me when she woke me up for my meal. Kylie, the young woman sitting next to me, told me she planned a month-long trip to chase the Northern Lights in Europe with her friend. Their plan was to visit Austria, Hungary, Denmark, and Finland.
They were pretty stressed when we landed in Abu Dhabi, as they had less than 30 minutes to catch their connecting flight. I, on the other hand, had a long layover in Abu Dhabi, about 20 hours. It was a good chance to catch up with one of my old friends who recently moved there, a creative director and photographer. The last time we met was back home in Hargeisa watching the World Cup in December 2022.
I had a great time with him and another friend I hadn't seen in years. For the short time we had, they showed me around, proudly sharing their city and its development. We even visited a local art party called “Block Barty,” where we met some artists, including a Somali photographer interning with CNN. I said goodbye to my friends as they dropped me at the airport on my way to Jeddah.
I landed at Jeddah International Airport around midnight. The airport looked different, and I couldn’t go straight through the E-Gate because I had to give my fingerprints. I had lived in this country as a Somali for 26 years, and now I was visiting as an Australian with an online visa that took only four minutes to be issued. In with the new identity and out with the old.
I was wearing my white Ihram, as I planned to do Umrah as soon as I arrived in Makkah. There was a sea of local Saudi drivers looking for passengers. I knew the language, so it was easy for me to communicate, sort out my SIM card, and make a deal with one driver on the condition that I share the fare with another passenger going to Makkah.
He found another Somali guy going for Umrah too. He worked with United Airlines and had some free tickets. He was a Somali man from Minnesota in the US. At one point I was looking for some cash to pay for my SIM card, and the driver and the American Somali brother (Faisal) thought I had left. The Saudi driver later told me that Faisal kept saying in Arabic, “Where is my brother?” “Ayna Akhi?” He didn’t speak much Arabic, but that was the phrase he kept repeating. The Saudi driver found it amusing.
During our trip to Makkah, I chatted with the Saudi driver the whole way in the local Saudi dialect, and he thought I was Saudi! I told him I grew up here for 26 years, but I’m Australian now. Faisal couldn’t get his money from the ATM for some reason, so I offered to pay for both of us while he gave me some US dollars in exchange. They didn’t understand each other well, so I made sure to drop Faisal at his hotel first and ensure he got in safely before going to mine. I was in a hurry because it was approaching 2 am, but I wanted to make sure he was safe as my Somali brother.
We dropped Faisal at his hotel and then headed to mine. My brother and sister were asleep when I arrived, and I didn’t have a key to the room. I went to reception and told them my siblings were asleep, and I would try calling them again. They offered to open the door, mistakenly thinking I was my brother, they had no idea we are lookalike.
Finally, my sister woke up, and I said hello, dropped my bags, and went straight to perform Umrah. I thought it would be quiet late at night, but it was busy. I guess the holy city and the Kaaba, where Muslims pray toward, is one of the few places on earth that is always busy.
Surprisingly, I saw Faisal there, and I offered to finish Umrah together. I wasn’t expecting to see him after dropping him off at his hotel. We got to know each other better. He was on his way to Cairo after Umrah to attend his wedding. I prayed for him, and I asked him to pray for my dad to regain his health, and for me to find a suitable wife too. After all, that’s the hot topic in my family and among my friends. Everyone is invested in seeing who I am going to marry.
In the following couple of days, I met my dad, and we were in and out of hospitals. During that same period, I felt like God was testing me. It felt like I was attracting people who needed help and assistance. My instinct was to help and go above and beyond. Usually, I don’t ask for anything in return. But this time, for the first time, I thought: why don’t I cash in my good deeds and ask them to pray for my dad?
I am not rich with money, and unfortunately my dad isn’t on Medicare like I am, I couldn’t afford my dad the best healthcare possible. But I am rich in character and kindness, and that might be my most valuable currency. Here are some examples from my encounters with strangers who needed help:
1) A Sudanese man had lost his way to his hotel and asked if I knew where it was. He didn’t have the internet, so I checked Google Maps and found it. I offered to walk him there. It was 20 minutes out of my way. After I finished my deed, I asked him to pray for my dad, and he did.
2) An older Somali woman visiting from Michigan (US) had issues with her hotel booking because the agency mixed it up. I was asked to translate, and I gladly accepted. I helped her move between the two hotels and carry her bags. I stayed with her until she was admitted to the correct one and she was given her room keys. I waited with her for almost two hours. At the end, I asked her to pray for my dad, and she did.
3) I went looking for breakfast and found a small Yemeni shop selling delicious Yemeni food. While waiting for my order, a Somali woman from my city (Hargeisa), who had just arrived with an Umrah group, was also looking for Yemeni food. She didn’t speak much Arabic, so I offered to order for her. She asked me not to leave her in the shop with all the men around. I stayed with her and paid for her meal. Then she wanted to shop for fruit, milk, and detergent to wash her clothes. I took her shopping and paid for everything. Her demeanor reminded me of my mum, and I happily helped her. I told her about my dad and asked for her prayers. She prayed for him and gave me some food advice for diabetics, as she is one herself.
I met many others who were sent my way. Those I could help, I did. Those I couldn’t, I offered advice or a kind word, and our encounter ended with a prayer for my dad’s health. I felt like I was collecting good energy from the universe and sending it toward my dad. I believed it was just as important as the medical intervention, especially since we were in the holy city of Makkah, where almost two billion Muslims face every day to pray.
The whole journey was much more than that. Lots of physical, mental, and emotional labor but things went well for the most part, and my dad is on his way to recovering. On the other hand, I got sick with what seemed like a serious flu or lung infection for a long time, and my aunt and sister took care of me while I was sick. I tried everything including eating raw garlic and breathing in hot steam.
It was ironic that my dad called me from the hospital to make sure I was okay, and I was the one who flew across the world to make sure he was okay. I guess we will always be our parents’ children no matter how old we get. They will always worry about us more than we worry about them.
I am back now, and I have almost recovered from my sudden illness. Just last month I had no idea I would be travelling to Saudi Arabia, the country I left almost 10 years ago. If it had been a planned visit, I would’ve visited my childhood neighborhood, my old friends, my university, and the places where I witnessed history. Maybe I will leave that for another visit. This visit was for family, and family only.
Although it was a tough time, it was great to bond again with my siblings and dad. To see the changes and the sacrifices they have made throughout the years. To see how resilient and brave they are. I can never compare myself to them. Now I realise how much easier my life is than theirs. The healthcare system we have here in Australia, and the lack of it in my homeland.
As someone who grew up away for many years, I deal with challenges, but I also see the other side of the coin. The challenge of keeping a family together, of caring for each other through thick and thin not just financially, but mentally and emotionally. It’s not an easy feat, and I have a newfound appreciation for my family for surviving and making it work back home, regardless of all the difficulties we go through as individuals and as a nation trying to find its way on the world’s map.
P.s: hope that wasn't a long read. It could've been double the fold if I added details. It's the short version :)